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Who seems to be unreasonable and greedy? Looking for unbiased opinions and perspectives.

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SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:01

Indian family of 4 sons; father passed away leaving a will (registered and valid) splitting inheritance equally (25% each). Family migrated to the UK when kids were young.

  • 1st son: Rebellious, estranged from parents for years, had a love marriage parents didn’t support. Claims to have signed a document 4 decades ago renouncing inheritance (no copy exists). Wants his 25%, plans to pass it to his kids.
  • 2nd son: No contact with parents, divorced twice, parents still cared and loved him.
  • 3rd son: Family favourite, expected to inherit everything or at least exclude eldest brother. Divorced once, remarried recently.
  • 4th son: Follows 3rd son’s lead, divorced once, remarried recently.

Conflict: Eldest son’s brothers call him greedy/selfish for claiming his 25%. They thought inheritance would exclude him due to that old signed paper. Eldest wants to keep his share for his kids, not sell.

Question: Is the eldest son selfish for wanting the 25% left to him in the will?

YABU: Yes
YANBU: No

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TreeSturgeon · 04/08/2025 00:16

SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:13

Sorry - just seen your edit. It's already been split in 4 ways, each of them have 25%. The argument is the eldest brother won't transfer his share to their names. He wants to leave it to his kids.

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As long as that’s legal, I think they should just accept it.

NeedZzzzzssss · 04/08/2025 00:16

SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:10

Why do you have to be so rude? Because he's been receiving swearing from his brothers and demands for power of attorney. The land is already in his name.

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Because who cares? What we think is irrelevant. You had another thread like this, just sort out what you can, and it will be a long process. We can't advise you what can or will happen in another country. You seem obsessive tbh

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SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:15

Noshadelamp · 04/08/2025 00:14

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks and I doubt the eldest cares given he's so rebellious and estranged from the parents.

The only thing rhat matters is the legal document in this country that splits the inheritance between all 4 sons.

True, his wife told him to just block his family members because they keep ringing him and swearing at him! The legal document is all valid, registered and notarised with the government.

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Noshadelamp · 04/08/2025 00:14

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks and I doubt the eldest cares given he's so rebellious and estranged from the parents.

The only thing rhat matters is the legal document in this country that splits the inheritance between all 4 sons.

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SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:13

TreeSturgeon · 04/08/2025 00:09

Is there anything more unedifying than a scrap over a will?

Seems to me the simplest thing is to split it four ways.

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Sorry - just seen your edit. It's already been split in 4 ways, each of them have 25%. The argument is the eldest brother won't transfer his share to their names. He wants to leave it to his kids.

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SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:12

MelliC · 04/08/2025 00:11

They all sound like a pack of greedy moaners to be honest. No wonder their marriages didn't last.

What they want the eldest brother to do is transfer the land in his name to theirs, so their children can have it. The eldest brother will receive zero money and just wants to transfer it to his 3 kids, so it stayed in the family per say.

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SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:11

TreeSturgeon · 04/08/2025 00:09

Is there anything more unedifying than a scrap over a will?

Seems to me the simplest thing is to split it four ways.

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I know, it's so pathetic and embarrassment.

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MelliC · 04/08/2025 00:11

They all sound like a pack of greedy moaners to be honest. No wonder their marriages didn't last.

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SequinTheDay · 04/08/2025 00:10

NeedZzzzzssss · 04/08/2025 00:07

Not this again. If he renounced his inheritance why is he now wanting it? What we think is irrelevant, it will come down to what you can do living in a different country and the family dynamics

Why do you have to be so rude? Because he's been receiving swearing from his brothers and demands for power of attorney. The land is already in his name.

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TreeSturgeon · 04/08/2025 00:09

Is there anything more unedifying than a scrap over a will?

Seems to me the simplest thing is to split it four ways.

NeedZzzzzssss · 04/08/2025 00:07

Not this again. If he renounced his inheritance why is he now wanting it? What we think is irrelevant, it will come down to what you can do living in a different country and the family dynamics