To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

But if they can't see past flaws how are they going to still love you when you're 70+? You want someone who loves you despite your flaws surely? If you had big boobs and they were round your knees at 70 wouldn't you still expect your DH to love you?

I think you're way too hung up on this and I say that as an A cup who's very happy to still be pert at 50. There's pros and cons with everything in life!

If you don't want sex then that's absolutely fine, but being a martyr to your breasts is ridiculous.

I understand this is a major insecurity of yours so I am not trying to dismiss your feelings, but honestly, straight men just find boobs attractive. However they find them. Big/small/pert/starting to sag etc. If it gets to the point of a man seeing your breasts, he’s having the time of his life.

Unlike penis size which is hidden until the main event; men that you come across in a romantic (or potentially romantic) way will already have an idea of the size of your boobs. They aren’t going to be mortified that you have small boobs when you take your top off.

My DH loves my boobs. He loved them when we first met, he loved them in the midst of pregnancies/breastfeeding where they changed, and he loves them now. He’d love them if I had a reduction, he’d love them if I had implants. He loves them because they’re boobs and he’s a straight man.

What you might find (if you do start having sex) is that men avoid your boobs if you’re obviously uncomfortable with them. They might not feel that they can ahem engage.

Men have different tastes in women in the same way women have different taste in men. What sort of men do you fancy? Tall, short, well built, skinny, dark hair or blond. Or do you look at less physical properties, kind, affectionate, generous. The world is full of people and no two of them think the same. You are allowing a distorted body image to ruin your life, get out there and talk to real men you will find lots that don't give a toss about breast size, you are actually being really sexist about men saying they can't see past the size of a woman's breasts.

In my experience most men are happy to have sight and feel of any size of breasts because they are happy to be getting sex.

She has posted before and twice if I remember rightly , be it a woman or man and is very fixated and weird, I’m not even going to waste my time replying, whoever they are they are unhinged and need help.

I work in a factory with mainly men. Im an F cup but you know what the men im most comfortable with, if they make any comment its always about my arse. Not all men are boob men. And before anyone says anything it doesnt bother me, it goes over my head and most of the time I just say thank you 😂

it's not that you have small breasts @islaw3048unfln

"Women want to be desirable and feel desirable" it's that you don't feel desirable, because, somehow, you have the perception that men prefer big breasts.

That's purely an insecurity of yours which you can definitely address

Instead of denying yourself a healthy natural sex like .
Maybe change your attitude . Be selfish and pick someone your attracted too and focus on that instead of worrying too much on what they think .
Also the men who are noticeably eyeing up large breasts are creeps on my opinion and your better or without them . Not all men are creeps

"more than a handful is a waste" 😂 is the motto of many men

My DH is a nipple man, likes them small and hard. He doesn’t like big breasts as nipples tend to be bigger. It really isn’t a one size fits all subject, lol

TBF, it’s a subject we’ve talked about very little, the above makes it seem like we’ve had full in depth conversations.

there are as many opinions as there are men, they aren’t all of one mind, thank god!

I was an A/B cup when i started dating my husband 11 years ago, never an issue he’s always preferred bums in general anyway. They are bigger now due to putting on weight/having DD but if I could click my fingers and have my old body back I absolutely would 😂

You are looking at this in such a black and white way, very few people have the perfect body, any man worth your time is not going to care and will find you sexy, these connections are not as transactional as you are describing. Also, I would say the men you describe are not the majority anyway, just the loudest.

if you are happy to keep in this mindset, carry on, no one here will be able to convince you otherwise, but if you do feel this is effecting you negatively and want to start dating/start a meaningful relationship I think you need to tackle this thinking as from the outside it doesn’t seem rational. It may even be helpful to look at therapy to get to the bottom of this thought process.

I'd stay celibate OP , you're not worthy of having a make shaggy you if you have small boobs.
I don't know why that's what you want to hear, but I'll humour you.

This is very true about faces vs boobs

One I knew said ’more than a mouthful’

🤣

In my experience there’s a split between boob men and ass men. Pre children I had A cups and still managed to attract men. I did get some fucking rouge comments when I was working on a bar such as “you’re flat but still sexy” and “I actually love small boobs”. Now they’re bigger I get the same amount of male attention, but less comments on my boobs which is weird.

In their caveman brain they’re looking at hip to waits ratio and proportions. Indicators of fertility. While big boobs are one indicator, there’s lots of others. Trust me, there’s men attracted to literally everything. Feet, hair, hands, legs, there are men who are attracted to literally shit and piss - so don’t get too hung up on what men like.

We always want what we can't have. I currently have massive (H cup) boobs, and feel deeply unsexy sometimes because gravity is doing it's job with them. I can't go out without a bra and finding underwear that isn't frumpy is a mission! I spent many a time when I was a teenager looking at the girls with perky boobs jealously.

Anyway the number one thing people are attracted to is confidence. I'm sure of it. You can have whatever body type you have and if you are confident, people will gravitate to you. A good friend of mine is gorgeous, but she won't mind me saying also very, very large with no chest. She has to bat them away! Always seeing some brand new fella, who are most often very fit and athletic! One of my best encounters was with a bloke whose 'member' was the size of a thumb. He was a few inches shorter than me too. But he carried himself with such confidence that I couldn't resist.

Long story short, men (and some of us women!) like boobs. End of. I hope you find some confidence in yourself.

there's more to a women then her boobs ! Sure some men like big ones, but not every man does. Boob size doesn't define your worth.
what about what you like in a man?

why do you think you know what men prefer if you don't speak to them ? Honestly I don't think.i have ever heard men going on about big boobs. I think you have got an erroneous idea in your head and you are obsessing about it. You might need some therapy to.help unravel this and help you to love yourself more .

I remember people aspiring to that slim body with small bum and big boobs in the 90s. Nowadays it all seems to be about the bum and hips, and nobody cares about boobs! It’s sad and ridiculous how we women are pressured by fashions into fitting in to a ‘desirable’ shape, when there is little that we can do to change our individual natural shape.
I strongly believe that sexiness comes from confidence. I once had a friend with tiny boobs who was so popular with guys - she had a real confidence in herself that made her super attractive.
Have you got other parts of your body that you feel happier with, OP? Maybe accentuate those. But also I think you could make the most of your small chest and wear those little tops that many women feel too top-heavy for! Up to you of course, and you should wear what you’re comfy in, but I truly believe you can be really attractive especially if you work on your confidence and spark.
it sounds like you’re worried that men would disappointed… but surely if you wear tightish fitted tops then they’ll ‘know’ what to expect - so they’re not going to be disappointed.
I really hope that you can learn to love or at least accept your shape and find your confidence.

All men are different and have different tastes, just like women do. My oh like chubbier women with dark hair, some men like petite blondes, some like big boobs, some like small, some like feet. It's very diverse!!! Not all men like bigger boobs ..

No you’re not. I like a man with a six pack, every picture I can find of a typically attractive man has a six pack and all the women I speak to like a six pack. So it’s not possible that you’re not bothered about a six pack as nearly every single woman cares about six packs and has to look past a bit of a belly on a man to find him attractive.

Do you now realise how stupid your rationale sounds? Because that’s obviously a ridiculous logic.

Also you have reasonable sized boobs and so I think you might have some sort of body dysmorphia.

I think you need therapy.

I think you need to do some work on your self esteem tbh op, loads of women have smaller breasts and are found very attractive by men. Attraction is subjective and I think you're operating off quite outdated myths and stereotypes and no wonder that's affecting your self confidence. It's worrying to me that this is enough to put you off having an intimate relationship. Obviously noone should feel obligated to have sex if they don't want to. But it sounds like this is holding you back to an extreme extent and that's a shame because I bet there's loads of great things about you that men would see and find really attractive so it's sad to me, that you're essentially reducing your worth to your cup size. Any man worth having sex with isn't going to care about that and will be counting himself lucky to get the privilege of being intimate with you. But you need to realise that it's a privilege in the first place.

I'm super hot but totally flat cheated. I'm thin. Boney even.

Men love it lol, some women too. They don't care about flat chests. You just needed to stop dating dickheads who make you feel less by oggling other women. Date somebody who is obsessed with you. Don't settle for anything less.

Men will sleep with ANYTHING.

You are being silly OP. I had very small boobs in my 20s. My boyfriend of 4 years couldn’t get enough of me!!

I have bigger boobs now (I’m bigger all over due to weight gain, and breastfeeding increased my boob size) and nothing has changed, I don’t get treated ‘better’ or fancied more or whatever you think