To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

A lot of them will just take what they can get because they just want sex at the end of the day. Big boobs, small boobs.....
It really doesn't matter.

You’re obviously picking the wrong men!
How old are you and how old are the men you’re chasing??

I don't know what you look at online OP, but your ideas are quite distorted. Are you sure that its not just the algorythms piling in about men liking big boobs because that is what you are asking about? Please chill and take a broader view of life and relationships. And be kinder to yourself.😊

This is a sad and silly position to take. Men like all sorts.

Years ago, I had a boss who swore blind all men were lying if they said small were ok and obviously women should be big boobed. I told a few boyfriends over the years who all said that was rubbish, and disliked that boss for saying such a stupid thing.

The thing is, you are what you are. Dont cut off a gorgeous and expressive part of life for so stupid a worry. Be the best you can be and whoever loves you, loves you for you. Beware getting into a relationship with no sex either.

How do you know? You don't speak to men.

You sound like my mom.

Models must be really unattractive then, because most of them are small breasted.

I have felt many times the attraction that men have felt for me just after meeting me. All women feel when men are attracted to them, no matter the boob size. It’s really about something else, and you can see it in their eyes, when men really desire you. There’s no faking it.

Plus, I love how perky small boobs are. You’ll appreciate that with age.

I feel so uncomfortable, unsexy, unwomanly in my body.

Have you ever considered counseling or therapy for your body confidence?

Apologies if my opinion as a man is not welcome here, but, for me, nothing is sexier then a partner having self-confidence.

Has any man ever criticised you for this or is this a barrier you're created in your own mind. Sounds like you might need some help in dealing with it and feeling more positive about yourself.

This is a very weird thread.
Men are just as self conscious about their bodies and worry about it. It's just that they don't publicly talk/post about it except for misogynists who do so by degrading women. A lot of men who are self conscious about their bodies just suppress those feelings.

If you don't want to have sex, don't.
Desire is not a fixed thing in long term relationships. Even in short term relationships there is a difference between responsive desire and spontaneous desire. And it is a myth that men only feel spontaneous desire.
I don't swoon when I see DH every time. In fact right now I want to hit him over the head with a shovel, he's having a particularly ditsy week. But for the most part he's kind, funny, an equal partner, has lovely blue eyes and what I think most people would see as a nice body. Attraction and desire are not fixed ideas.

So if you are hoping to have a long term meaningful relationship you have to let go of the idea that your DH will find you instantly attractive at all points. You may even have to 'fall back in love' with HIS body, he may have to fall back in love with yours, this is all par for the course.

(I'm in my 40s, been with DH for 22/23 years...).

How would you know? Do you know ALL the men?

Sounds like you’ve built a picture of what men like from the Carry On films and the Benny Hill Show 🙄

I mean, most men do like boobs yes. But generally they are attracted to and satisfied by the person, not one aspect of their body… I’m sure my husband isn’t attracted to my acne and I’m not ‘attracted’ to his receding hairline but those things just aren’t relevant.

Having said that, I did have a boob job 10+ years ago, they are still pretty small and not far off what you say yours are now. I love them and would say it was one of the best decisions I have made. I hope if you save up and have it done you are happy and you will likely realise that you were enough all along. (it’s easy to say that all in hindsight though so I get it.)

I have big boobs and some men don’t find me attractive. Shocking as that is. I’ve even been on nights out where my smaller breasted friends have pulled while I haven’t!

But in seriousness OP this is obviously a delusion on your part, linked to some self esteem issues. I think speaking to a therapist would help.

I don't think thats true at all. I have big breasts (I'm an hourglass - big boobs, smaller waist and big hips/bum) and I have plenty of friends with small breasts who get plenty of male attention. Plus you can do the cute outfits where you can go bra-less whereas if I did it I'd look obscene.

You’re the Sidney Sweeney fan aren’t you?

Men just like breasts. The issue is in your head tbh.

You have stated yourself that you don’t find six packs desirable and like broad shoulders, despite the media having us believe that every woman loves a six pack. The media has us believe every man likes big boobs, but this is also false.

Yea, some men prefer big boobs. Some prefer small ones. Some don’t care about boobs at all. It doesn’t really matter which of those categories holds the most men because you’re not wanting or needing to feel sexy to most men, you just need to feel sexy in front of the man you’re having sex with. What other men think shouldn’t matter. If you go out dressed nicely at a bar or similar place with single men there it will soon be clear to you which men are attracted to you and which aren’t. It doesn’t matter that you won’t be every man’s type, it doesn’t even matter if you’re not most men’s type, obviously there are still lots of men who don’t find big boobs important in a woman and those are the men you will attract.

So you’ve made a story up basically? This is your feelings of self worth not the fault of all men.

Seem and impression are the key words here.

do you think it’s easier blaming men than your self esteem? Probably some work to do on that?

You seem to have such strong views on this you are not allowing yourself to have the chance to feel wanted/sexy/loved.

Your boobs have little effect on how a man (One that actually matters) views you. Your confidence, your intelligence, your interests, your clothing, your hair, your smile.......We could go on and on about the things that attract men and women before we get hung up on boob size.

If we must focus on boobs just remember that there are men who find big boobs unattractive. If you are busy worrying about your little ones, they will probably miss your more obvious points.

I have HUGE boobs and hate them. You are welcome to some of mine!