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To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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islaw3048unfln · 03/08/2025 23:13

I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

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CaramelGhost · 03/08/2025 23:22

OP, how old are you? Any man worth his time, doesn't give a sod. Seriously.

SALaw · 03/08/2025 23:22

This is like saying “all women like muscly men” or “all women like men over 6ft”. You MUST know that it just isn’t true?! Surely?

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islaw3048unfln · 03/08/2025 23:21

LIGHTSNACKER · 03/08/2025 23:18

Erm not all men prefer bigger breasts and men don't just find breasts attractive and don't just focus on breasts when it comes to sex. This is a really bizarre belief on your part.

I know men don't only find (mainly large) breasts attractive, but it does seem to be quite a big part of it for them. Just the impression I get...

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KingstonTown · 03/08/2025 23:20

Don't be ridiculous. Any man worth a relationship will be having sex with a person they care deeply about, not a pair of tits.
I have loved and had sex with my DH fatter and thinner. I am 55 years old and weigh over 15 stone and when he looks at me he still sees the 20 year old I was. He calls me his beautiful girl. Objectively, I am far from it. He likes breasts but if I had to have a mastectomy he would continue to love me, because I am substantially more than my boobs, and so are you.

LIGHTSNACKER · 03/08/2025 23:20

islaw3048unfln · 03/08/2025 23:18

Which straight men though? Most of them just seem to go on and on about massive ones all the time.

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Do you just talk to 19 year olds about this?
My DH prefers smaller boobs and he definitely isn't saying this to make me feel secure as I have other features that he prefers differently to mine as we discuss other people and our preferences from time to time.

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islaw3048unfln · 03/08/2025 23:20

ToKittyornottoKitty · 03/08/2025 23:15

Why 8 years? But honestly it’s fine not to have sex if you don’t want to, nobody cares if another person is having sex or not. Why would it be unreasonable?

It just so happens that it's been 8 years to date, I didn't plan it 😅I only posted on AIBU for traffic.

I think the 'unreasonable' part, if you could call it that, was the reason for not wanting sex, because I feel so uncomfortable, unsexy, unwomanly in my body.

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LIGHTSNACKER · 03/08/2025 23:18

Erm not all men prefer bigger breasts and men don't just find breasts attractive and don't just focus on breasts when it comes to sex. This is a really bizarre belief on your part.

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islaw3048unfln · 03/08/2025 23:18

MysteryNameChange · 03/08/2025 23:17

Absolutely fine to not want sex but plenty of people find smaller boobs attractive.

Which straight men though? Most of them just seem to go on and on about massive ones all the time.

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HangryLikeTheHulk · 03/08/2025 23:18

Loads of men love a small boob.

MysteryNameChange · 03/08/2025 23:17

Absolutely fine to not want sex but plenty of people find smaller boobs attractive.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 03/08/2025 23:15

Why 8 years? But honestly it’s fine not to have sex if you don’t want to, nobody cares if another person is having sex or not. Why would it be unreasonable?