Double booked feel guilty

Well sometimes we make mistakes. Next time double check your calendar before commiting to something. I've read your update and can see you've told her, which is good as it gives her time to arrange an alternative plan. Hopefully it won't ruin your friendship. What has she replied? Is she okay with you.

You booked a holiday in 2 weeks time and didn't check your calendar while doing so? This is so odd.

A good example of why not to lie. Flat battery, no calendar, booked holiday.

Far better to have told the truth, which is more acceptable. "I saw the holiday at a good price so nabbed it quick. Sorry to let you down."
No friend should expect another to book their annual holiday to accommodate their children for two days, especially with two weeks notice to find an alternative.

Depends on the reason for childcare. Funeral/wedding/birth of another child - extremely poor form. Work - not ideal but she’ll have to take unpaid leave if she cannot get cover at short notice. You are obviously unreasonable for booking a holiday without checking your calendar and naive to think your friendship won’t be affected. However, there are some people who take advantage of friends and 2 days childcare is a big ask so for me it really depends on the reason for the childcare, how often she asks and whether it’s reciprocated. Ultimately though, your friend will always run this risk if she relies on favours rather than professional paid childcare.

In the unlikely event that this thread is true, I think it would depend why you were having the children. You say it was supposed to be two days, was that going to be two separate days running, or two days including an overnight? If it’s the latter, yes, you are a shit friend. Actually, you sound like a shit friend full stop.

Pull the other one.

Childcare related?

Nobody has to help you with childcare.

I think it’s CF asking someone to have your kids for two days in the first place, tbh, let alone kicking off and ending the friendship if they can’t.

I don't agree.

My friend asked me if I could look after her pets whilst she was on holiday. I checked my diary, I had nothing on that week so I said yes. It was then my responsibility to not double book myself so that I could look after her pets.

I have no legal obligation to look after them, they are her animals but I wasn't doing anything else and she will return the favour for me.

Genuine mishaps happen, I can be very scatty and I am exactly the type to double book myself but if that happened I would try my best to put it right.

If you agree to do something regardless of what it is then you need to honour that commitment unless something happens that is out of your control.

I wouldn't be saying cancel the holiday but I would be very cautious around this 'friend' and reluctant to make any arrangements with them again, childcare related or socially, and I do think it would a trigger to realising the friend is not a genuine friend.

This.. can’t believe the people saying cancel the holiday..

For what it's worth I don't think it's unforgivable but you need to fess up as soon as possible to give this person the best time to make other arrangements. I'd be far more pissed off if the person had left it until the last minute to tell me because they were scared.

Jesus, over not having having your kid.
If someone had double booked, which has happened to me in the past and she apologised. I'd be like, well you offered to do me a FAVOUR. So you can't do it now, bit crap but not end of the world/friendship type crap.

Did you not read the OP's second post?

Even if someone had agreed to have my kids, then had the option to go on holiday, I’d expect them to say sorry but I’ve got the chance to go on holiday now. I’d have said, fine, thanks for offering, no worries. Because it was a favour, not an obligation. The only childcare you can rely on is formal childcare.

I don’t think anyone would believe this was a mistake. You just didn’t give a shit about the commitment you had already made.

Apologise to her immediately and stop the faux stuff. Offer an alternative and get a calendar

Echocing others in saying I would be really pissed off.

It takes 2 seconds to plug your phone in and charge it, maybe 10 seconds for it to load up and show your calendar.

When did you book the holiday and why couldn’t you have waited to check your calendar/plans before booking? How did you even book it?

YABVU and I don’t know why you agreed in the first place. Don’t agree in future if you can’t follow through.

These things happen. If you had said no, she’d have made alternative arrangements. She has still got a fortnight to sort something out. Honestly, friends who can’t cope with this sort of bump in the road aren’t worth having.

What did your friend say when you some to her @TheOpalFox ?

I think there's some batshit ideas on here.... take her DC on holidays with you - what????
Cancel your holidays????
Ok, you made a mistake. It's shit for your friend, but it's not friendship ending for me. You could try help her to find someone else to look after her DC, but ultimately its her decision.

Precisely. I bet the friend has form for this.

THIS !

I agree @Notmyreality, the responses are totally OTT.

Your friend would not expect you to cancel your holiday, we are ALL juggling very busy lives - work/home/DC/social/hobbies (the list is exhaustive, in fact, just keeping on top of the list is a struggle for me).

Apologise and go and have a great holiday

Is your friend going away, will this stop her?

It definitely wouldn’t be friendship ending for me, I’d be pissed off/upset upon being told and I’d probably end any mutually beneficial arrangements if they were in place as I’d be worried about being let down again, but it certainly wouldn’t come under ‘unforgivable’ for me.

Your phone fell in the sea. Reminds me of that awful Vardy woman