I have seen, over the last few months, some messages rhat my husband has sent to friends about a female co worker. They basically consist of hun showing off about flirting with her, ‘joking’ with her that they should go on a date and such like.
he again ‘joked’ that he kept doing it become he liked ‘difficult’ things..seems his friends just went along with it..
I mentioned some colleagues who had recently started dating and how a married colleague and been joking about dating someone at work (I probably exaggerated this slightly) and said how I thought it was inappropriate. He didn’t say much.
He later came to check if I’d been on his computer at all that day..this is where I have seen the messages before- it often just has the screen left up. I said no, but he has been very off with me ever since. Barely speaking to me and has changed (I think) settings on his computer. He’s definitely annoyed and he realises I may have linked my colleagues situation to his ‘banter’, but he obviously isn’t able to admit to any of it. And I feel like this has been a reasonable heads up.
Although I assume he’ll never leave the screen up again…so I’ll never know. He wasn’t too secretive before, or was stupid, so I really don’t think there’s anything sinister but I found it very disrespectful.
Should I just have left it and not used the opportunity as a way to make a point? Kind of feel it maybe wasn’t worth the silent treatment now!