To think private schools are more about parental ego than children’s education?

OP, you are wrong but you've made up your mind and I don't think anyone here is going to make you change.

One of my friends said the same a few years ago. The thing is, while our local state school isn't great and couldn't keep a Maths or Physics teacher for long, her DH had a Phd in Engineering and he taught their DS Maths and Physics.
I'm crap at both subjects so had no choice but to extend my mortgage to send my dyslexic son to the local private school.

Friend's DS would have succeeded in the worse school in the UK because he was academically bright anyway, and at home his father could make up for the school's teaching defficiencies. He went on to study medicine.
Mine studied Physics and is now an engineer but my depleted bank balance says that I didn't do it for the kudos.🙄

But presumably this person believes that the private school that her child is attending is better than the other local options. Since we are not privy to exactly where she lives there's no reason to assume that the private school that her child is attending is not good.

There aren’t any! HTH

What does the teacher do with the challenging chn then?

Private doesn’t equal good

You are just being ridiculous now.

Yes, this!!

My daughter isn’t placed with the ‘challenging boys’ to keep them calm and focused in class because the teacher doesn’t have time.

I couldn’t care less what my DC’s grades are, as long as they enjoyed their school experience. I couldn’t care less if people think I’m rich or poor.
I pay fees and make massive sacrifices to ensure my ND children access the kind of holistic education that used to be standard in state schools. Bullying is dealt with fairly and immediately. Working hard is encouraged. My daughter isn’t placed with the ‘challenging boys’ to keep them calm and focused in class because the teacher doesn’t have time.

Can only speak for myself. Both dc went o state school( primary was in special measures ) but it had good pastoral care and teaching. We gave lots of parental support and cultural capital . Both went on to get high grades at gcse and A level. One got a first at a top uni and the other decided on a different route. Both are high earners in their early 20s. They have friends who went o private school who have done much less well.

I know lots of parents who boast about getting their dc into the London grammars but are very quiet re tuition! 😆

Yes, of course you are right OP. It's absolutely an ego boost for the parents. 🙄

There are some who to do but they are in the minority. There are also some who think a London secondary is akin to a young offenders. But then there are ones who have dc with SEN, ones who have dc who struggle, ones who don't live near good states etc.

Both my kids went to state comps, but those I know who've sent kids privately have good reasons that have nothing to do with their own egos.

Wow, I totally disagree.
One of my 3 DC goes to a private school, because we felt it was where he’d be happy and make good progress. Just the way it worked out.
I can’t say I ever brag about it! Would be a very expensive brag, I’d rather have a holiday to somewhere exotic.

Hahaha exactly this.

Have you spoken to any parents who’s children go to private schools which are solely for children with SEN?

Because smaller class sizes and better opportunities both inside and outside the classroom doesn’t benefit their children?

I don’t even know where to start with you stupid your post is. I could do a lot with 25K a year for my ego vs sending my child to school to get a good education.

Actually I know someone whose child did have SEN, but also qualified for a full bursary at a very well-known public school. It became clear after a year or two that the school were not interested in helping the child's SEN, but the parent flatly refused to move child to state because what would everyone say and/or think. Child was 'managed out' by the public school after GCSEs and refused to attend any further education.

When I hear private school parents say they've sent their kids to private school for the SEN provision, I laugh out loud.

DT’s went to a non uniform private school so you would never know which school they went to. We paid for them to go there - an international school- as the state school didn’t do classes in multiple languages which as a non British trilingual family was important to us.

Both DT’s got all A’s and went onto to get 1st at RG Uni’s. Good value for our money.

We pay the exorbitant fees for our DC to have class sizes small enough that teachers can spend time with them, no one is throwing chairs around and getting a sticker on Friday if they manage two days without doing it, proper focus on sport and person development as well as education.

Are they going to come out any brighter? No.

is it a nicer experience? Massively.

Do we pay the exorbitant fees in order to give them these things, as sadly this is the only way where we live they can have this, or for an ego boost? You decide.

It’s a bloody expensive way to boost your ego! Much cheaper to post on social media about exotic holidays.

😂

Yeah I send my DD to private school so I can brag to people that don't, I especially do it so I can brag to random people on the Internet who I will never meet.

I never mention my other kids who go to a struggling state school, I just pretend she's an only child and make them leave the house if she has friends over.

Stupid post, people and their situations are complicated.

Yes I believe in many cases it’s wanting the prestige, or if you come from a family of privately educated and were privately educated yourself then wanting to continue on the legacy of prestige. I certainly know a good few people for who this is the case.