To think private schools are more about parental ego than children’s education?

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I guess. The private DC ate just rejoining all the children they left. But I suppose you think the 5 years got them an edge…

I agree with the above.....my children don't attend private school as I can't afford it. If I did, I would send ds2.

@Drfosters I would agree that people do other things for ego (although I don't think number of dc matters). I just agreed with the OP that some people do it for ego although as I said I think it's a minority. Does lt matter to me that they do? No.

I mean you could say "so what" to most threads on MNs. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The complete opposite. I keep very quiet about the school my dc goes to. I'm not alone in that. OP has aptly demonstrated why.

Eh? What tuition? Surely not!

😆😆😂😂 fcking hell you live in a shit world if you think that because kids are in the supermarket in a school uniform it’s because they / their parents are thinking ‘"oh look at me and how much money I have". 😆😆 As opposed to fck we need some food, come and help me out / I can’t leave you at home. And why aren’t you changed yet?? Etc.

What crap you are spouting. Do you speak to any of these private school parents whose motivation you profess to understand? I do, in a professional capacity. And I promise you it is not for their egos that they make the huge sacrifices to send their children private

Well yes i agree they are- and I’m not suggesting people don’t do it! I’m just making the point that people do things for their ego all the time- whether is having lots of children, buying a fancy car, going on nice holidays they can tell people about etc. if they want to send their children to private school to show off then so what? I don’t honestly see the problem with that. I don’t think that is the reason for most people at all myself- I think most parents try and pick the best school for their child whether it be state or private but if they just want to show off and can afford it then ultimately what’s wrong with that? I am not sure exactly would care ultimately but maybe in certain circles it’s a thing?

I think the Op is projecting, as they do things so they can boast about them.

I send my DC to private school to ensure they don't lose out at school as a result of those with behavioral issues, and the smaller class sizes and greater educational opportunities and much more space mean they are likely to get a more wholesome experience (I'm not too bothered about academic excellence). Do I boast about it to my friends...no. Do I think thank fuck I do this whenever i read a thread about how shit state schools are...yes. Do threads like this highlight the envy that some have who can't afford to send their kids to private school...yes!

Private Healthcare is fucking fantastic. I always go private for MRIs, physios, chiropractors etc. And shout from the rooftops about it because it's way better than any NHS treatment I've received.

I think couldn’t afford or don’t want to does cover everyone. I want to and we are planning for secondary but not primary. I think we could afford primary too, but it would be a stretch. My partner disagrees (or rather doesn’t think it’s worth it)

This is bollocks. A friend sent her DD to private school after she was bullied at a local state school and they had to remove her. They looked at the other options and felt the local private was the best fit for her and so went with that as they were desperate to get her back into education. Absolutely not the sort of family who would do something for ego or status.

I started school in September 1963.
It was a fee-paying school, in those days a direct grant grammar school. I left school in 1976.
My parents chose the best school for their children. My sister and I went to one school, our brother eventually ended up at what you would call a minor public school, where 1 cousin had also been a pupil.
I honestly thought that state schools were for children whose parents did not want to pay for education or could not afford it.
The vast majority of my family has been educated at fee-paying schools.
My school is the 3rd oldest girls' school in England at least, maybe the UK.
It was founded as a charitable institution in 1658 to educate girls.
Why is that wrong?

£20,000 a year would be a very expensive ego trip.

Er.. no. It was nothing about me, purely what I felt was best for my child.

Main reasons are: A levels are selective I’d imagine so the disruptive element is gone because the other children want to be there.
There probably isn’t a lot of difference between A levels at most PS or state so why pay?
You may get to bypass all the left wing university identity quotas.
6th form isn’t the final destination. Being a well rounded, confident, resilient, interesting, happy person is. There are many paths to achieve that.

I only have 2 dc but have never read anything like that before.

Because 2 replaces the mother and father in terms of numbers, having more is essentially saying my genes are so amazing I must replace myself and more. You are basically saying how amazing you are.

I would say procreating in the first place is egotistical. I'm not sure why 2 is fine because of replacement but 3 means I think i'm amazing 😆. Plus birth rates are well below replacement level.

It depends whether you think it is about results or experience. And this is something both private school and state school parents disagree on. Some are instrumentalist and focus purely on outcomes, while others are concerned with their children having a rewarding school experience with results only one aspect of this.

Because 2 replaces the mother and father in terms of numbers, having more is essentially saying my genes are so amazing I must replace myself and more. You are basically saying how amazing you are.

My point though is about taking them out to swap them back in at sixth form and how I would find it a bit jarring that they were sitting alongside my DC doing same courses and he had had free education all the way…

Some see less value in paying for 6th form as well.

I think having more than 2 children is an egotistical thing to do but I don’t go around making threads about it!

Surely having dc is egotistical, why does the number matter?

I think for some parents as well (with the proper boarding schools) or at least me and my cousins it was the huge opportunity to not have to look after your own children that the women enjoyed. We may have a slightly unusual family though (countless generations of public school having stunted emotional growth to extreme levels).

To be fair it was a lot better than my local comp which had a brilliant reputation for teachers sleeping with underage pupils so there was that. I think my dad just wanted me locked up away from the locals boys for as long as humanly possible. It certainly wasn't a flex as they didn't know anyone whose children weren't farmed out for three weeks at a time.

Times may well have changed but for some parents at least I imagine this is still the truth.

These threads get very boring….

every family is different. Every family has reasons for choosing a school for their child.

but so what if it is about ego for some parents ? I think having more than 2 children is an egotistical thing to do but I don’t go around making threads about it!

We NEVER tell anyone our children are at PS. We say “oh our children are at the school in blah as there is also a state primary school there. If anyone then presses further, we do say which, but generally, people don’t so we don’t say.

we just want the best for our children, it’s nothing to do with ego! I would actually rather have £3k a month to spend on holidays and eating out etc.