To think my cleaner shouldn’t bring her own child to work?

In the 6 weeks holiday I would be fine with it because I know what it's like to work for nothing I had two children in childcare and it was costing me almost twice as much per hour as I was earning to put the kids in childcare I was working in minus figures then I was cleaning I took my youngest with me on some jobs while the eldest went to his friends he was good and helped me clean no-one had an issue

You ARE getting the service that you are paying for.

Child is sitting on the sofa.

My view is YABU. From your account, you are barely aware that the cleaners child is there.

Ive had various trades bring their children. Always well behaved and polite children.

The wee girl will remember doing this. Will remember accommodating her mums need to earn. Might respect her clothes/treats more. She will likely look up to you - someone who can afford regular paid help at home. Id make an effort. Make it memorable. Make her feel welcome. They is obviously no other support around. Dont be cold/hostile. Its a non-issue. She might well enjoy a 5 minute chat with you. You might enjoy it.

Good luck.

Maybe OP should just request the cleaner leaves her daughter on the pavement outside, or the doorstep, or the corridor, anywhere but out of sight!

How is it pathetic?
The cleaner is self employed she's not employed by the Op.

YABU, if she’s a good cleaner and you’re otherwise happy, I’d definitely let this go! Fair enough if you were being disturbed by a younger child, but a calm older child sitting quietly and playing on an iPad I wouldn’t have an issue with. The only part you have a slight point with is the noise from the iPad, if it’s distracting you it would be reasonable to ask her to wear headphones if she has some.

Not the point of the post.

No she's not she is providing a service that the Op is paying for that, s very different to being the Ops employee.

Oh for goodness sake. Pathetic.

I'd say that the cleaner made it awkward by just showing up with her child and not having a discussion with OP about it.

She won’t 🙁

Your cleaner was a CF for not asking you whether this would be okay. You don't just turn up to work with a kid in tow without asking your employer.
However, I think you'd be a bit of a prick to say she can't come for the rest of the hols. I'd say that she can come, despite the initial ill manners of not running it by you, but say the kid needs to use headphones for her iPad and that you need to be asked in advance for future holidays.

Agree with you. No to the bus driver if the child were sitting up in the cab. If the child is no the bus - I wouldn't mind at all. In fact, I've known bus drivers to do just this in the holidays. Ditto hairdressers.

I think the issue here is low compassion. Very very, extremely, low compassion, maybe perhaps driven by not knowing many people in these kinds of roles personally?

In any case, take care.

@DeLaRuiz that's quite an entitled view. I would mention it in a nice and respect manner. OP has every right to ask it is her house. The cleaner should of asked and checked with OP! She could be struggling and we don't know what's going on in her life.... still doesn't excuse not asking first does it? I wouldn't sack her but just check in type of conversation... "is everything ok I've noticed you've been bring DD along" that isn't unkind at all. OP doesn't have to walk on egg shells in her own home.

You said in your OP that you were torn. Well, clearly that’s untrue.
I can’t imagine being so socially awkward that the presence of a well-behaved child in a different room bothers me so.

If she's really great and honest I would suck this up for the holidays.

You’re splitting hairs. Whilst doing her job, the cleaner is working for the OP.

If she left her daughter unsupervised that's her fault not the Ops.

🙄

You're making it awkward.

"I’m going to speak to her, gently"

You are a ridiculous person..

Even if she has tonnes of options to choose from, there's only so many hours in the day she can work. Childcare will always take up a huge chunk of her wages no matter how many hours she does/how many clients she has because each hour would require an hour of childcare to be paid for.

If she needs the cash she’ll find a way to make stuff work (maybe even leave the little girl unsupervised at home), but next time you need her to go the extra mile for you I can’t see her gladly helping you out.

The quality of her work may well drop and the extra little details she’s been noticing will go unmentioned. This isn’t because she’s rubbish or unprofessional but because it’s been proven that you get that extra 10% raised discretional effort out of people when you treat them well.

She'd probably like her mum being on the dole even less.

I don't have kids either, OP, and I don't think I'd get worked up about a well-behaved 10 year old amusing herself, especially as it's only going to be a very temporary arrangement until she returns to school, surely?

The cleaner work s for themselves not the Op.

You say you are going to "gently talk to her". If she is a good cleaner ( and I assume she is as you have been happy with her hitherto) then don't be surprised if she leaves you - she won't be short of work. Good cleaners are like gold dust.

I have had the same cleaner for 10 years. Her daughter is now 23, though when she was younger she often came with her mum. Her mum asked first, I said yes. The daughter would get a duster and follow her Mum round the house, She was very good too. Should she have been doing it ? Probably not. Did I mind ? No. I was actually quite impressed with what she was doing ! When she was a bit older ( 16 +) she"d come with her Mum and actually clean. I have watched her grow up. She is lovely with a tremendous work ethic. She put herself through University partly with the money she earnt through cleaning. She now earns a very good wage in a graduate job though when she comes back to see her Mum will still go out cleaning with her.

This isn't exactly like the situation you have, though it's not far from it. So, by all means, say something to your cleaner, but don't be surprised if your Cleaner drops you as a client.

This. The kindest thing to do is to say nothing OP. The child is doing no harm and the cleaner is presumably working to the same standard as normal, so I'd say nothing