To think my cleaner shouldn’t bring her own child to work?

My cleaner does this - child a bit older and gives her mum a hand. She didn’t ask in advance
so not ideal. I don’t love it tbh but I am not saying anything. It’s kind of up to them.

I had a cleaner once who asked me if she could bring her sister’s newborn baby to work with her. She was a great cleaner and had worked for us for a while so I agreed to see how it went. she would arrive with the baby in a baby born carrier, he would lie on our sofa, mostly sleeping as she would give him a bottle but if he was awake he would just lie there quietly. I was gobsmaked it did not affect her cleaning but it really didn’t. It was over 20 years ago these days I would prob think of some health and safety concerns but in those days it was not considered.

i agree it would have been better to ask permission. In this case it appears it was in her advantage not to - maybe she could sense that? I wonder what kind of interactions OP has with the cleaner?

If I thought I was going to get a no, and I was desperate, there would surely be some kind of subterfuge or lie coming!

It wouldn't bother me but I think the cleaner should have asked/ told you first. Just having the situation sprung upon me with no warning would make me slightly irritated.

You're allowed not to want someone in your home when you've not been asked. I understand not liking that.

That said, with an otherwise reliable cleaner and probably 3-4 weeks more of this at most, I'd be doing my level best to get over myself, instead of potentially creating awkwardness or the cleaner going elsewhere. It doesn't seem nearly worth any fallout. But its a value judgement I suppose.

I wouldn’t be happy but I have a legal background.
As I’ve posted elsewhere on a different thread, this is an insurance issue. If anything happens to the child on the property: broken limb, allergic reaction, etc the OP leaves themselves wide open to being sued.

Honestly if it's a deal breaker for this lady as she is a good cleaner She will have a huge queue of people waiting for her and will just tell this lady to find another cleaner. Based on the responses on this thread the vast majority of people wouldn't have a problem with it so very much doubt the cleaner will try and arrange childcare to suit a tiny minority so assume they'll just part ways.

As you said though, they asked permission. OP's cleaner didn't.

Because not everyone, including some women, believe that women should automatically support other women because of 'the sisterhood'. I fully agree with that.

Of course men comment on here. It still doesn't automatically mean that pp is a man though. Maybe I'm a man too since I largely agree with her.

I really can’t understand people like you. You have a cleaner you are really happy with. People often clean because they are single parents or are struggling financially-so why on earth does a well behaved 10 year old brother you? You sound awful. I own a small business and everyone was allowed to bring well behaved children and dogs to work (after asking permission). I even used to done ten little jobs to do and pay them ‘wages’ to get them to understand what work was about. I hope your cleaner dumps you and you can’t find another.

It was just a suggestion, nobody was telling op to do this, so not quite sure why this would cause the anger and continuous venting.
The comments this poster has made are so over the top, why would another woman be so verbally aggressive towards another woman, calling women 'ladyee’s’ and mocking ‘sisterhood’ etc.
And yes it’s an anonymous forum, men comment on here as well, whether you agree or not, is irrelevant.

If they can't afford childcare, they need to make it clear it will involve their child coming along too.

The OP's cleaner has cleaned her house for a year without her child also attending. So something has clearly changed and the cleaner should've communicated with OP about it.

Except that the person cleaning your floors for a living might not be in the same financial position as you to afford child care.

There are situations where I'd potentially be happy for a cleaner or tradesperson to bring their child or teenager along on a one off or occasional basis as long as I'd been asked beforehand.

BUT only if them bringing their child to my home (which is their place of work) didn't invalidate their professional liability/indemnity insurance. And I'd want that checked in advance.

Yeah. Much better to be left home alone or wandering the streets

I always work elsewhere when my cleaner is here. Or find a reason to go out and do other stuff. Makes it easier for both of us.

Mine did same - though first time I saw she brought adult daughter and grandchild, I was bringing a friend to my house.

Super awkward as I enter & there’s an unknown woman & child in the house. Clearly she wasn’t expecting me.

She should have asked if it was ok, people should always advise of guests.

I’m surprised she didn’t ask your permission first, that is what would annoy me. Bringing anyone into your home, regardless of age, without getting your permission first. Had she asked your permission first then I definitely don’t see a problem with the well behaved child being present.

There is no "of course it feels strange"

having another person in the same building as you, its not strange and it happens every day

If she’d asked you first, OP, what would you have said / felt?

Who took it? The cleaner or the child? How old was the child?

I’m paying for a service

and you are getting the same service. It’s just that there is what sounds like a well behaved child in your living room.

What if you have a word with your cleaner and she tells you that she can no longer offer you her services as someone baby sitting her 10 year old makes coming to clean your house too expensive

This would annoy me too. It's unprofessional and not an agreed part of the service. If she didn't even ask whether it was okay then she's rude.

I once had a cleaner who brought their son with them who sat quietly in the living room. €500 disappeared which was our holiday spending money.

😂😂😂

Excellent! I used to go to work with both Mam and Dad at different times well over 50 years ago during the school holidays. My Dad worked in a stables at the time and I used to help feeding the horses and cleaning the stables out. My Mam cleaned for a lovely old lady. Mam used to ‘let me’ dust the baby grand piano that belonged to the lady because I could crawl underneath it to clean the hard to reach bits😂. Then Mam would make morning coffee for us all and we would sit in the dining kitchen together chatting. It was the first time I had ever seen a jar of instant coffee. I thought it was very sophisticated. Sometimes I would get sixpence from the lady that Mam cleaned for. She would always tell me to save it. Happy simple times.