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To think that nobody knows how to have fun anymore?

31 replies

HappyPlayer · 03/08/2025 10:25

Everyone’s either too busy, too cynical or too glued to their screens to actually enjoy life. Whatever happened to just being present and having a laugh?

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Thepeopleversuswork · 03/08/2025 10:56

It's a very sweeping statement but there's a germ of truth in this.

Younger people in particular seem to have lost some of the capacity for that exuberance which goes with coming of age. The period from the age of about 17 to 30 was, for me, unbridled thrill seeking. I spent my time learning about the world and having fun in a very directionless way. People in the age group now seem far less able to do this.

I think there's a number of factors: life is much more expensive these days, it's much harder than it was to get "good" jobs so they have to be much more driven and focused from a much younger age, there's far more social anxiety and of course people seem to spend a lot of their social time online and go out a lot less.

There's a lot to worry about here; the lack of social contact worries me a lot and I think the fact that its much harder to be exposed to other young people and involves so much more anxiety is a terrible thing which we, as a society, should worry a lot about.

On the other hand, I actually celebrate the fact that young people's social lives revolve so much less around alcohol. It's very fashionable to say that this was an important rite of passage, but honestly I spent about 15 years of my young life in an alcoholic stupor and if I knew then what I know now about alcohol and cancer, I'd have given it a swerve. My generation (Gen X) was raised in a very very permissive way which I think set us up for a lot of physical and mental problems which I'm really seeing to start to play out now.

So it's swings and roundabouts.

NuffSaidSam · 03/08/2025 10:48

I do. And pretty much all if my friends and family.

It sounds like you need a new social group.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 03/08/2025 10:47

I think young people drink less alcohol so that might be one reason.

vodkaredbullgirl · 03/08/2025 10:45

I'm having a day at home, been out every day for the past week. Got time off work and have walked hundreds of miles seeing places.

Goldenbear · 03/08/2025 10:45

I definitely have fun with my friends, we laugh like we did 20 years ago!

JaniceScott · 03/08/2025 10:42

That’s such a sweeping generalisation! There are definitely some people finding it hard to find fun right now. But you have given me a nudge to put down my phone and get outside. The swans in my local park have had babies and I’m going to visit :)