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Climbing Frame and Privacy

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HappyKite2067 · 03/08/2025 10:16

We don’t want to be ‘those neighbours’ but our neighbours have put a climbing frame for their children right next to our fence. We now constantly have little faces popping up over our (2m) fence and looking straight onto our patio area and into our kitchen.

Their garden is probably 4m x 6m at a push, so I think anywhere in the garden would probably intrude.

We really want children to make use of a garden, we don’t mind noise (and they are noisy!) and we don’t even mind the occasional ball being kicked over- but this is our privacy now.

Anyone been in this position before? I imagine they are unlikely to take down.

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HappyKite2067 · 03/08/2025 10:24

Didimum · 03/08/2025 10:21

You can’t dictate the use of their garden this way, OP. It’s just part and parcel of having neighbours with kids. Ask them politely to speak to their kids about not staring over the fence or you could add a trellis to the top of your fence.

I think we can if it’s within 2m of a boundary line?

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Lammveg · 03/08/2025 10:22

Pinkgiraffe34567 · 03/08/2025 10:21

Does This type of bamboo spread or get out if control? I googled it and it looks really nice and I quite fancy it for my garden.

You could plant in pots

NuffSaidSam · 03/08/2025 10:21

HappyKite2067 · 03/08/2025 10:20

Our fence is already at the maximum legal height and it is also their fence!

You might need to use trellis or something else as pp said. It doesn't have to be more fence you can be creative!

Spies · 03/08/2025 10:21

Honestly if you want total privacy then the only way to achieve that is with no neighbours. Getting annoyed about privacy and that they've put up a climbing frame is silly when you live in a built up area with neighbours who can probably all see into your garden from their houses.

Didimum · 03/08/2025 10:21

You can’t dictate the use of their garden this way, OP. It’s just part and parcel of having neighbours with kids. Ask them politely to speak to their kids about not staring over the fence or you could add a trellis to the top of your fence.

Pinkgiraffe34567 · 03/08/2025 10:21

DisplayPurposesOnly · 03/08/2025 10:19

Trellis? Potted or clumping fargesia bamboo (sounds fab in a breeze). One of those sail things?

Does This type of bamboo spread or get out if control? I googled it and it looks really nice and I quite fancy it for my garden.

HappyKite2067 · 03/08/2025 10:20

NuffSaidSam · 03/08/2025 10:18

You'll just have to make you fence higher I think.

Our fence is already at the maximum legal height and it is also their fence!

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 03/08/2025 10:19

Trellis? Potted or clumping fargesia bamboo (sounds fab in a breeze). One of those sail things?

NuffSaidSam · 03/08/2025 10:18

You'll just have to make you fence higher I think.