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Volunteering with asylum seekers and refugees

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Lemniscate8 · 03/08/2025 10:09

There is so much said on MN about asylum seekers and refugees, and often it is speaking about them as a block, rather than by people who know any as individuals.

AIBU to suggest that some of you who currently feel fear and hostility have a go at some volunteering to get to know one or more individuals and see if your feelings change?

There are lots of ways to get involved in helping welcome a refugee to the country, and maybe more people extending more welcome will help with intergration, which seems to be one of the main concerns of some posters.

Many places have volunteers facilitating english conversation sessions, or literacy support. Many councils look for volunteers to support refugee and asylum seeker children in schools, you can ask your local council, or one of the main refugee organisations what volunteering opportunities are available in your area.

Also volunteering with any homeless charity is ineviatably going to bring you into contact with refugees, as so many are sleeping rough

You can find out about people first hand, rather than through the right wing press. Personal relationships can only help people understand each other better

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BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 11:46

Somerford · 04/08/2025 11:45

It is all about me actually, when you're addressing me directly and putting words in my mouth.

I did no such thing. Never heard of or used the generic “you”?

Somerford · 04/08/2025 11:45

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 11:41

I was talking societally. It’s not all about you. Although it’s interesting that your personal focus is on immigrants when pensions cost many multiples more.

It is all about me actually, when you're addressing me directly and putting words in my mouth.

AzurePanda · 04/08/2025 11:43

@BlossomtoesI haven’t seen anyone here blaming illegal immigration solely for our economic woes but the estimated £4- £8 bn annual cost
(and isn’t it terrible that the UK can’t even accurately calculate this figure?) sure isn’t helping. Let alone the impact on social cohesion.

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 11:41

Somerford · 04/08/2025 11:36

What on earth are you going on about? Try to read what is written, I said nothing about pensioners or disabled people or anybody else.

I was talking societally. It’s not all about you. Although it’s interesting that your personal focus is on immigrants when pensions cost many multiples more.

Somerford · 04/08/2025 11:36

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 11:25

Until 2006 my tax was repaying the debt for a war that ended nearly a decade before I was born. It’s how government spending works. It’s not support for immigrants that’s caused our economic woes - the national debt rose steadily through the austerity that was supposed to pay it down, then went through the roof with Covid. But you keep othering - it’s immigrants, it’s pensioners, it’s sick and disabled people. Who will you blame next?

What on earth are you going on about? Try to read what is written, I said nothing about pensioners or disabled people or anybody else.

VaseofViolets · 04/08/2025 11:26

AzurePanda · 04/08/2025 10:54

@BlossomtoesThe OBR predicts that UK debt could rise to 310% of GDP within 50 years based on current trends while government borrowing rose by £6.6bn to £20.7 bn in the last year alone. We are definitely on the road to bankruptcy unless things change.

The IMF are paying close attention, and can see the writing on the wall. We’re replaying the 1970s at this point - except we’re in a much worse state now. The question is not if, it’s when.

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 11:25

Somerford · 04/08/2025 10:37

Very well said. Our great grandchildren are going to be paying for the largess and unending benevolence of these people. They have absolutely no morale right to advocate for saddling unborn generations with yet more debt and giving their country away.

Until 2006 my tax was repaying the debt for a war that ended nearly a decade before I was born. It’s how government spending works. It’s not support for immigrants that’s caused our economic woes - the national debt rose steadily through the austerity that was supposed to pay it down, then went through the roof with Covid. But you keep othering - it’s immigrants, it’s pensioners, it’s sick and disabled people. Who will you blame next?

AzurePanda · 04/08/2025 10:54

@BlossomtoesThe OBR predicts that UK debt could rise to 310% of GDP within 50 years based on current trends while government borrowing rose by £6.6bn to £20.7 bn in the last year alone. We are definitely on the road to bankruptcy unless things change.

Somerford · 04/08/2025 10:37

NidaNearby · 04/08/2025 09:29

We cannot afford the obligations we have, and yet we are adding more people who will be massive drains on the system over the course of their lifetimes. This will ultimately undermine and lead to the failure of our welfare state - helped along the way by do gooders like you who tried to shut down all conversation about this problem because you felt it was ‘pernicious.’ I hope the moral righteousness keeps you warm in your eighties when there’s no state pension.

Very well said. Our great grandchildren are going to be paying for the largess and unending benevolence of these people. They have absolutely no morale right to advocate for saddling unborn generations with yet more debt and giving their country away.

Phobiaphobic · 04/08/2025 10:31

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 10:29

You can say whatever you like. That doesn’t make it true.

As of the latest available data, the UK's national debt, measured as public sector net debt excluding public sector banks, was £2.87 trillion in June 2025, equivalent to approximately 96.3% of GDP.

In 2025/26, the UK is projected to spend £111.2 billion on servicing its national debt, equivalent to about 3.7% of GDP.

Your response is absurd.

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 10:29

Phobiaphobic · 04/08/2025 10:15

Given we're almost bankrupt as a country, I'd say it is far from pernicious.

You can say whatever you like. That doesn’t make it true.

AzurePanda · 04/08/2025 10:25

@Blossomtoes immigration to the UK has risen from an average annual figure of just 7,800 between 1951 - 2001 to a figure almost 100 times that in recent years. Surely the rise of an analysis of “net contributors” is in response to this astonishing increase and the potentially related economic issues rather than anything “pernicious”?

florathedress · 04/08/2025 10:17

Lemniscate8 · 03/08/2025 13:19

The "extra bodies" are contributing to public services, once they have refugee status, to the point where they are helping some services avoid total collapse

What all of them? They’re all doctors and engineers are they?

Phobiaphobic · 04/08/2025 10:15

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 08:45

There are more ways of contributing than money. This concept of “net contributors” that’s suddenly shown up over the last couple of years is pernicious.

Given we're almost bankrupt as a country, I'd say it is far from pernicious.

nearlylovemyusername · 04/08/2025 10:13

JHound · 04/08/2025 01:42

Because we closed all safe asylum routes for everybody except Ukranians

you didn't answer the question - presumably asylum seekers fleeing the countries where their lives are in danger, so the choice for them to is to die there or in the sea, with a slim chance of making it safely to the UK. I'd assume that women and children are in the same danger as men. Why men are coming here alone then? aren't they concerned about leaving their families there? presumably these women and children left behind will be prosecuted for being a family of a runner?

I'd imagine they realise that authorities would be more compassionate to children?

Or is this situation more nuanced than some people are willing to admit?

Phobiaphobic · 04/08/2025 10:12

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/08/2025 07:42

I too am feeling powerless and threatened by a cultural change that I'm deeply concerned about.

As a child, I was taught that we should be caring and compassionate towards people in need and that we should do what we can to help them. I was also taught to be tolerant and open-minded towards those who were different from me. These lessons came not only from my parents, but from my school and from the other adults around me etc. While there were always people who failed to live up to those societal ideals, they were generally accepted as things to which we should all aspire. I remember reflecting with some pride on the culture that actively promoted those values when I first found myself in a society which clearly did not share them.

These days, the values that were passed on to me as a child are rapidly fading from British society. Compassion and tolerance are increasingly seen as weaknesses. I mourn the loss of the culture that I grew up with but I guess I have to accept that society moves on and changes.

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Having a strong in-group preference is not a bad thing. Minority cultures in the UK have it in spades. It is also a core feature in most animals, especially mammals.

Why do you think it is a bad thing for the indigenous Europeans?

AmateurNoun · 04/08/2025 09:52

NidaNearby · 04/08/2025 09:29

We cannot afford the obligations we have, and yet we are adding more people who will be massive drains on the system over the course of their lifetimes. This will ultimately undermine and lead to the failure of our welfare state - helped along the way by do gooders like you who tried to shut down all conversation about this problem because you felt it was ‘pernicious.’ I hope the moral righteousness keeps you warm in your eighties when there’s no state pension.

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You cannot have porous borders and generous non-contributory benefits.

There are so many people on here who think they are morallly superior but are woefully ignorant on economic issues and think we can just increase taxes for whoever is earning more than them to solve all of life's problems.

VaseofViolets · 04/08/2025 09:36

@NidaNearby

Well said!

NidaNearby · 04/08/2025 09:29

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 08:45

There are more ways of contributing than money. This concept of “net contributors” that’s suddenly shown up over the last couple of years is pernicious.

We cannot afford the obligations we have, and yet we are adding more people who will be massive drains on the system over the course of their lifetimes. This will ultimately undermine and lead to the failure of our welfare state - helped along the way by do gooders like you who tried to shut down all conversation about this problem because you felt it was ‘pernicious.’ I hope the moral righteousness keeps you warm in your eighties when there’s no state pension.

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 09:09

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AzurePanda · 04/08/2025 08:47

@itchybritchesand of course so many Muslims aren’t calling their son variations of “Muhammad” because they are “boring or unoriginal”. It is to signify their religious devotion.

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 08:45

NidaNearby · 04/08/2025 02:10

These people will never be net contributors. The data from Denmark couldn’t be clearer about that. They are extra bodies taking up resources. Nothing more.

There are more ways of contributing than money. This concept of “net contributors” that’s suddenly shown up over the last couple of years is pernicious.

EasternStandard · 04/08/2025 08:04

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/08/2025 07:42

I too am feeling powerless and threatened by a cultural change that I'm deeply concerned about.

As a child, I was taught that we should be caring and compassionate towards people in need and that we should do what we can to help them. I was also taught to be tolerant and open-minded towards those who were different from me. These lessons came not only from my parents, but from my school and from the other adults around me etc. While there were always people who failed to live up to those societal ideals, they were generally accepted as things to which we should all aspire. I remember reflecting with some pride on the culture that actively promoted those values when I first found myself in a society which clearly did not share them.

These days, the values that were passed on to me as a child are rapidly fading from British society. Compassion and tolerance are increasingly seen as weaknesses. I mourn the loss of the culture that I grew up with but I guess I have to accept that society moves on and changes.

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I doubt you are alone on this particular horse, for a start many took in Ukrainians into their homes, did you?

We are not unkind as a nation. Women still care about safety and reports of a 12 year old who was raped will concern most. Sort out border control and you’ll see the unrest go down.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 04/08/2025 07:42

I too am feeling powerless and threatened by a cultural change that I'm deeply concerned about.

As a child, I was taught that we should be caring and compassionate towards people in need and that we should do what we can to help them. I was also taught to be tolerant and open-minded towards those who were different from me. These lessons came not only from my parents, but from my school and from the other adults around me etc. While there were always people who failed to live up to those societal ideals, they were generally accepted as things to which we should all aspire. I remember reflecting with some pride on the culture that actively promoted those values when I first found myself in a society which clearly did not share them.

These days, the values that were passed on to me as a child are rapidly fading from British society. Compassion and tolerance are increasingly seen as weaknesses. I mourn the loss of the culture that I grew up with but I guess I have to accept that society moves on and changes.

Itchybritches · 04/08/2025 07:00

JHound · 04/08/2025 01:48

The reason Muhammed is the most popular boys name in England is because Muslims are far less original / more boring when it comes to naming their sons.

6% of the population is Muslim. That’s
it.

That’s still a core cultural change and it’s still factually the most popular male baby name in the Uk. It is linked to Islam. Nothing I’ve said is incorrect.