Why doesn’t my partner care?

What’s your housing situation @30Days1? Do you own or rent together?

Dating yourself for a while is definitely the way forward. Chuck the man in the bin and choose yourself.

How much longer are you going to accept him treating you like this?

What advice would you give your best friend?

Take a few days to get stronger, make a plan and then do it. You clearly don't need whatever he is bringing to this relationship.

He’s shown you who he is, believe him.

He has no respect for you and you’re not a priority for him.

Going on for years, you might ask why you have tolerated it. I wouldn't waste any more energy on it though, instead invest it in your future happiness without him.

There's honestly no point asking why as you'll never know. Stop wondering why and make a decision to leave him.

Your life would be so much better without him. You say this is the final straw, are you sure? Because plenty of women say this then do nothing.
If it really is and you pay the bills and it’s your property, spend today like PP’s say packing up his stuff. If you’re well enough that is.
Be decisive. You’ll thank yourself once you’re out of this ridiculous situation with an uncaring sponging man child.

Sorry OP but tough love says @hmmimnotsurewhy is correct.

Don’t focus on the things you can’t change but what you can. Your Q about your DP is irrelevant. The only Q worthy of your time at this stage is what do I need to do to get this man out of my life and start becoming a stronger and more assertive version of myself. ♥️

Simple, short answer… because he’s a complete prick!?

There are far better men out there.

You need to look at yourself but the reason he treats you like that is because you let him. You need to be single and concentrate on yourself, you won't meet a decent guy until you have healed yourself and you can absolutely do that.

You are the fool that’s putting up with it. The biggest question you need to ask yourself is what is wrong with you for accepting this. He treats you like shit, and you are paying him to do it too.
take some responsibility and accountability for your own decisions.

you can’t complain about something that you accept and tolerate.

Good.

He doesn’t love you OP. He’s had all doesn’t even like you. And you can’t possibly like him after all this.
He’s had all of your 20s, don’t give him a minute more of your life.

Before you meet anyone else I think you need to do some reading up on expressing yourself in relationships and asking for what you need. It doesn’t sound like that is happening - maybe you once did but soon learned he ignored your needs so stopped asking? You’re definitely not the only person to have had a meathead take advantage of you. But you need to stop that now. He isn’t bringing anything positive to your life He doesn’t care about you. Tell him you want him gone with a deadline of this minute.

Totally selfish. I’ve had 10 ERCP’s (pancreas issue) and I have had 5 acute pancreatitis attacks in the 24hrs after, a side effect. He doesn’t care OP, time for getting your ducks in a row.

Aren't you sick of his shit by now?

He doesn’t like you. You don’t treat people you like in this way.

You need to stop worrying about how long it’s been and worry how long it will be if you don’t leave him.

The question you should be asking is why you are continuing to tolerate this behaviour?

He's made it abundantly clear from his behaviour that he doesn't give a shit about you and he adds nothing to your life, either financially or emotionally. There is literally no point to him whatsoever. Why is your self-esteem so low that you think this is all you deserve? What did you learn about relationships growing up which made you believe this is what you deserved?

You know already you need to leave him. If you need permission, it's freely given here. Give yourself that gift and leave him. I guarantee you your life will improve.

Does he have any good points? He sounds like a waste of space. It doesn’t matter why he doesn’t care, he just doesn’t and that isn’t going to magically change. Life is much easier when you can care fully about yourself instead of being constantly disappointed by someone else. Plus, when you don’t have the stress of being in a miserable relationship you will be able to focus on your health

It’s a you problem. You have no boundaries and no respect for yourself.
Leave him and maybe consider counselling to try and understand why this has gone on for so long.

Well, this is your choice now

Put up with it or use this to motivate you to move on

Take control... good luck

What a waste of your life.
So sad that you think this loser is all you deserve.
Far, far better to be alone than with such a complete waste of space.
You are being used.

Who does the house belong to/rented to?

Why don't you care enough that he doesn't care and throw the fucker out? Are you that desperate not to be single op?