To be a bit put out with my friend..

Remember the fun parts of the holiday, put the negative thoughts away somewhere so you don’t continue to feel bitter towards her if you want to continue the friendship. However make a mental note NOT to be generous towards this friend and her children again and certainly don’t invite her to share anything like this with you again.
We’ve all been there and learnt the hard way about a friendship at some point. Just learn from the experience and don’t repeat it!!!!!

That's very rude! She sounds entitled.

I think the wording is key here. YOU booked a holiday and INVITED her and her kids. She doesn't feel she needs to offer anything as it was an invitation.

However, she is a CF to turn up empty handed, not go halves on a shop or pay for a kid's activity. She could have got everyone a take away etc. She would have still been paying for food back home, even if money was a bit tight. Does she have form for being a CF?

I would also be miffed. You may not see it as friendship ending but it would put an end to me inviting the Moaning Minnie away in the future.

As a PP, it is hard to believe that she is normally "brilliant" and then suddenly becomes rude, ungrateful and grabby! Are you sure she is normally a decent friend??

Also, I could understand you offering her accommodation as you are paying anyway and invited her later but why on earth would you pay for her food and activities??

I am sorry your holiday was spoiled.

It's really rude. Do the kids say please & thank you?

Challk it up to experience and don't ask her again. Hopefully all the kids had a great time together.

That’s poor OP & I’m with DisplayPurposesOnly - is she really a brilliant friend?

She should have said thank you and offered to share the cost of food and treats but I think it is fine for her to just buy toys for her kids. Sounds like neither of you communicated the rules of the trip very well and both had different expectations. She might have thought she was doing you a huge favour by coming to keep you company?

That's pretty poor. I wouldn't offer again and it would change my opinion of her.

Is she really a brilliant friend? Is this out of character?

“Don’t cast your pearls before swine”. I had to learn the hard way that you can’t control people’s behaviour through kindness. You assume that people are automatically motivated towards being grateful but they are not and you can’t make them.

Some people are never grateful and are unlikely to change. She does seem rude and ungrateful, don’t do anything like that for her again.