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Silly to get guilt over this?

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Lilaaacslavender · 03/08/2025 06:16

Long story short - we had a day out planned to a national trust site today. We're membersl went on a last minute night out last night (fine btw not bashing him aha!) But got in later than expected and from what I csn tell when he got in he will probably be slightly hungover today lol

We planned to go early get there for opening at 10 which we usually do so we can get a good space have a picnic packed lunch and get as much time there as possible

But also, my 3yo and 1yo were sleeping a bit light last night and have woke early. They were both up a little bit. So they're going to be tired

Eldest probably wouldn't nap on way there but on way back would have a danger nap but a short one as its not a major drive away so hed be a bit crabby and probably crabby there as we'd have to go later

I was going to suggest either I take them tomorrow (im part time) or we go next weekend. The weather looks brighter too

I feel guilty whenever I rearrange plans? My kids are young and if I explain to 3yo why we've changed plans hes usually okay if hes had his mind set on it! And last Monday we went to a national trust site, they have 3 days in nursery and eldest does swimming a weeknight, we went to a play centre Friday and eldest has football on saturday so we do always do things!

They're both so young and I can assess when a day out may go slightly awry if theyre both over tired and I think we can do something low key, and see family (DH has a big side so visiting people usually takes half a day ahah)

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Lilaaacslavender · 03/08/2025 06:52

And again thats an issue worrying thay a day wont be 100% perfect and will end up with tantrums etc probably just need to go and accept that'll happen sometimes

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Lilaaacslavender · 03/08/2025 06:50

CurlewKate · 03/08/2025 06:29

I don’t understand-why would you not go? You say it’s not a long way.

Im waiting and seeing mainly but this one does get full and as DH wont be yp for us to get there handy 1) car space is an issue 2) kids will probably be a bit tired by the time we go and its not far its about 40 min drive but it was more the worry we'd go and the kids wouldnt enjoy as much as they haven't slept great

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CurlewKate · 03/08/2025 06:29

I don’t understand-why would you not go? You say it’s not a long way.

Lilaaacslavender · 03/08/2025 06:17

And i need to not worry and get like this because we do a lot and like when it goes to tbe kids going to school in the summer holidays they'll be off for 6 weeks everyday I wont be able to take them on outings everyday

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