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To not understand Dh’s problem with me working like this

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Beautymagazineswillonlymakeyoufeelfat · 02/08/2025 23:10

I work part time around our Dd. She’s had some health issues and I need to be on standby and be flexible for any issues that may arise.
I work three evenings per week, two hours per evening…granted, not much..but the pay is the same (if not a tiny bit more) as I would get working say Mon-Fri- school hours.
I also do pretty much everything around the house. Weekends are free with nothing really to be done, Dh comes home to dinner and has not much to do, aside from washing up some days and putting Dd to bed some nights. I also do all bills, Drs, dentists, school things etc etc
I think I’ve arranged it well around my Dd, make good money, am pleased I can make the same in a short space of time as I would working every day and can have lots of time with Dd

Dh seems resentful

Aibu or doing something wrong?

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Beautymagazineswillonlymakeyoufeelfat · 02/08/2025 23:17

Silvertulips · 02/08/2025 23:15

So he probably objects to working full time and then on parenting duties.

He would prefer you do a full time job and then do the parenting and house work.

Why don’t you ask him?

There’s not much parenting to be done in two hours! He comes home to dinner made and eats that with Dd. He watches tv with her, occasionally plays with her or they take the dog for a walk

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NuffSaidSam · 02/08/2025 23:15

Is this going to be a massive drip feed and what you're doing in those two hours is sex work/drug dealing/something else a bit mad?

Silvertulips · 02/08/2025 23:15

So he probably objects to working full time and then on parenting duties.

He would prefer you do a full time job and then do the parenting and house work.

Why don’t you ask him?

steff13 · 02/08/2025 23:13

It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. In what way does he seem resentful?

Freeme31 · 02/08/2025 23:12

What is his side of the story, what does he say he is resentful about ? Its unclear from your post what he actually wants