To not understand Dh’s problem with me working like this

Childcare? That’s called parenting. He’s a parent. “Childcare” does not just have to fall on the woman in a relationship. It’s for 6 hours. Total. Two hours a night, which op has already said they generally eat dinner together (which she has already cooked for them!), watch tv/walk dog and then it’s bed time. Should a father not do bedtime at least 3 nights a week? OP is doing the childcare most of the rest of the time, so he can work ft, which can be a lot with a child with health issues.

Unless he’d prefer to be the one having to leave work to look after their ill child and do all drs appointments etc instead, and then OP can go back to work full time instead. If she can earn just as much as if she only worked school hours why would she choose to do that if this is a better option? Again, one of them would still need to take time off for appointments or when their child was ill, (and we already know that would still fall to her), so it doesn’t even make sense for her to do those hours anyway. If he’s resentful that he has to do a bit of parenting to his own child then that’s an entirely different issue. Especially as he chooses to see his friends 3/4 evenings a week. It sounds like OP doesn’t get to socialise with her friends in the evenings, and if he’s whining about no “quality” time spent with her in the evenings because she’s working for a massive 2 hours then maybe he can cut back his socialising in the evening.

Like I said, if he has a problem with what OP is doing then there are other, more important issues going on in the relationship. I genuinely could not imagine any decent man resenting this at all.

He sounds like a lazy bastard. Maybe check to see if he has any actual reasons, or is just a lazy, selfish arse, like so many fathers.

he's simply jealous. good for you being able to earn so much on 6hr per week (unless like others mentioned sex/drug related).
if he's that interested he could improve his work options and cut back his hours while maintaining his pay.
pathetic man he should be proud of all that you do.

My friend works full time from home, nights. She does all the housework, admin, walks the dog, kids stuff, everything. How can men not feel bad about these situations?

Your DH sounds like he would never be happy, no matter what you do.

Is there an issue though?? You've only said your DH 'seems' resentful.

The key point is whether DH agrees that your work needs to be flexible so you can be on standby for DD, or whether he thinks it would be possible for you to be as flexible as DD needs but still work more than 6 hours a week.

It probably seems unfair to him that you have a lot more free time than he does. Housework and "life admin" won’t take up all that extra time.

I can see why your DH may be a little annoyed (I am not agreeing or disagreeing with anyone just FYI, just noting how it comes across to a random internet stranger!).

It seems as though you have the house to yourself all days of the working week and then when your DH finishes work, you are busy with the tutoring or whatever job it is (I know you didn’t say exactly), and your DH has done a full time job and also dealing with DC alone three nights a week. It is like you get three days off a week actually from parenting (with your DC at school and then working past the time she is in bed).

I think it would be a fair call if your DH got part time hours himself and had time to enjoy the house and organise those doctor appointments, these sorts of things are easy to manage realistically so many online options to book appointments and manage everything for the house including finances, appointments, grocery shopping online. I do this OP. I have a full time job, run the house, do all the ‘life admin’ (dislike that term lol) and do majority of childcare. This is quite normal.

You sound like you have a great deal with the three days off. I would also hang tight to it but I think your DH has cottoned on.

OP - what do you do? Sounds like a great job.

Why are you coming on here to ask us what your DH thinks? We don’t know. Ask him and then come back to us if you think his viewpoint is out of order.

Bizarre the number of people who start threads and don’t seem to talk to their partners about anything. 🤯

Your work arrangement is brilliant.
If he doesn't like it so strongly, perhaps he should consider taking on any sudden DC things every Thursday and Friday as and when they come up, and half the Wednesdays. Then you could work for sure those days on top of your evenings.
Honestly, do these men think magic fairies do the childcare?

My ex was like this. Turned out no matter what I did he would criticise and almost sabotage it (whether this was PT work, FT work or SAHM). I was expected to drop everything when the kids were ill and do all the house and life admin. He would also spring changes to his hours last minute so i was constantly trying to get childcare last minute. He didnt have a care in the world.

Along with 3 DC with special needs/contant appointments were all down to me. When he was meant to do them he 'forgot'. I think he was just resentful of family life and had a chip on his shoulder about women. His own mother didn't work yet he worshipped the ground she walked on. No woman could match up.

I would maintain your career as it was my saving grace when we got divorced. I love the fact I now earn more than him!!

So you still haven’t answered the question - what is he resentful of? Why do you think he’s resentful? What does he do or say to make you think this? All you’ve said is that he “seems” resentful- what do you mean by this?

Also, just talk to him - “you seem to be resentful of my working pattern, could you explain to me what you’re unhappy about?” Listen to his concerns but also point out that if you worked a regular mon-fri then you’d both have to fork out for /arrange childcare in school holidays and when your child is ill and you wouldn’t be able to take care of the housework, life admin etc during the day.

And he could choose not to spend 3-4 evenings a week out with friends.

I am not sure what it is that some posters are reading, but it's not your posts!

he's got it sweet, you fo practically everything, he has loads of 'free time' & a wife who does everything.

You're making never- think thus 'straight' life & asking you if you fancy 'swapping sides' too!

I'd love to know what work you're doing.

if there's any resentment I'd say it's that you're earning so well in those few hours & he earns less per hour than you, but that's pretty shitty when he benefits hugely.

im sorry your DD has the health issues she has xx

I can’t see the issue

You don't seem to have asked him what the issue is.

Don't jeopardise your financial independence for someone who is also being given free childcare, home cooking and housekeeping services. Don't second guess yourself...it seems to me you have found a brilliant way to work...you could ask him..but why does it matter, why would you sacrifice or change this? If he is missing you, he could make weekends extra special ❤️

OP it sounds as though what you're doing is tutoring or something which is a perfectly reasonable thing to do during those hours.

Why do you say Dh is resentful? How does he show this to you? From your account it sounds as though you do the bulk of the childcare/housekeeping as you're effectively almost a SAHM, so I can't see what he's got to be resentful about unless he's not happy that you don't get evenings together?

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But OP isn’t working from home on a laptop. Can’t imagine which professional freelance role is paying £60 ph for 6hours a week. The only that springs to mind is a photographer but then it wouldn’t be set times /days it would be sporadic.

Then she'd get £1800 doing a 30-hour week and £360 doing a 6-hour week.

Those are not the same numbers, which is what pp was questioning (and what I was wondering).

Edited to add - From OP's most recent post it looks like she means she'd be doing a different, or at least lower-paid job in the day, though.