To not understand Dh’s problem with me working like this

A lot of hyperbole in here. The op is only working two hours and is back by bedtime, so I'm guessing 6-8 ish. If he works 9-5 and is home by 5.30 that's not exactly ball breaking and they still have plenty of time to hang out for an hour or so each night. It's absolutely his choice to piss off out with friends 3/4 times a week.
Sad that so many people seem to think it's unfair he has to watch TV and walk the dog with his dd 3x a week. Seems a pretty minimal input to me. It's not 3 toddlers all running about. 1 school age child is hardly a challenge for most parents and he should be happy to get some 1-1 with her.

Ask him outright what his problem is with the current arrangement……..he will no doubt fob you off with some pathetic excuse but the way I see this is he doesn’t like the independence you have established for yourself. He wants a Stepford Wife…….the little woman always there at his beck and call, dinner on the table, asking no questions of his actions, clean shirt immaculately ironed every morning, no identity for herself……………I divorced mine years ago!

If she wanted to say she would have said, so maybe either answer the thread on the info given or just move on instead of nosying?

Seriously doubt it's MLM, why would that be so time sensitive and I doubt OP would have actually made any money.

Posters act like every thread posted gives the OP an obligation to satisfy their curiosity in every respect. It doesn't. It doesn't matter what you do or don't "believe in." If you don't think it's real, don't post.

home-school and PRU kids in the daytimes

The term is "home educated." No hyphen needed anyway.

He's plain old jealous, OP. That's all it is.
Tell him you're doing some consulting or freelance too, during the day, either do it or pretend to be getting it started up, faff and moan about how much work it is, how much time you're putting in. That's what a man would do.
Then split the domestic chores equally.
Then after a month or so see which he prefers.

(That's presuming you actually COULD get him to take a equal part, sceptical because he sounds to me like he takes a lot for granted.)

You don't know the issue, all you do know is that he's choosing to go out every evening you aren't there. I presume he's having an affair and annoyed about not getting out to see her/ him on those days.

I do not believe in such a thing as a professional evening job that can't also be done in the daytime; even if money is slightly higher for unsocial hours it is not 5* higher for 2 hours in the evening. It obviously isn't tutoring, my friend gets lots of daytime work for home-school and PRU kids in the daytimes. Adult evening courses - again, training is just as well paid in the daytime. IT would be full overnight shifts, as wpuld duty solicitor etc. Marlet research, surveys etc pay the same whatever time they are done. So is this a new MLM selling tactic?

But you are working all day. Unpaid. Does he not realise that? If he resents washing up and childcare duties after work then he has to acknowledge that these activities are work too. And he's lucky to only have a few of them because you do most of them during the day and earn money at night. Explain if you worked day time, the same money would be coming in but he'd have 50% of all household and childcare chores which is way more than he does now.

Is it that you only work 6 hours a week?

Ok so to answer your question: you have to talk to home. He could be depressed, distracted, having something going on at work etc etc... a bunch of strangers cannot tell you what's going on in your husband's head.

It may well be that he just wants you at home in the evening to hang out with, which is fair enough, but selfish, so he can't quite admit it to himself yet. Or he may not understand how much more lucrative it is to work in the evenings: I'm freelance and it's a strange world, stuff that seems obvious to us I often have to explain to DH/friends. Tax on account wtaf. So have you actually talked to him??

Speaking of which... What is your job 😂 I'm so intrigued. I love being freelance but I get paid the same whatever time of day I do the work. Is it?

• photography (so evening events pay more than doing headshots?)
• some sort of engineering/tech support role where there's an on call rate?
• tutoring?
• music? Everyone loves a jazz singer but not at lunchtime (prob not paid hourly tho, and you don't need a degree)
• degree level dominatrix. Like you spank people if they get maths problems wrong (is this a thing?)

Go on tell us 😂 AI is changing my job and I'm a night owl, I need some inspo!

Ask him. He may be resentful you are not working more as another night a week would give the family a whole new lifestyle level, he may be annoyed you earn more, he may think childcare is a 'we omans job', he may just miss you. Only he knows.

Good grief the lengths people are going to msking out that OP is unreasonable for working 6 hours a week and dad being responsible for his own child

They could split up and he could get 50/50 imagine how much his head would explode being responsible during the day too

Do the two of you not talk to each other?

He ‘seems’ resentful, but you don’t know why? Posters here ‘think’ he has a good deal? Just bloody speak to him!

Why not just ask him?

You’re going to have to talk to him and see what he says, because this seems very reasonable. You are a SAHM and now you have a PT job that allows you to earn in a few hours what you would otherwise earn working far more hours. What’s not to like??

It’s not reflecting very well on your h.

What is your relationship usually like?

Of course it’s time to himself. It’s leisure time (he’s not working, doing childcare or housework) and he’s choosing to spend it that way. What a weird comment.

This wouldn’t work for my DH and I either to be honest but that’s just our marriage. We enjoy our evenings together after work and if our jobs meant that we were basically handing a baton from one to the other and not spending time together then one of us would have a problem with it. This obviously depends on a whole lot of things, including your finances, the division of household duties, whether you enjoy your work etc.

This is my point, it seems a win win situation to me. I could work during the day, more hours for the same or slightly less pay

Why not still do the 6 hours evening work & do another different p/t day job?

it isn’t financial as i’m making the same as I no would working school hours for example

The above doesn't make sense to me.

Is he feeling financial pressure?

I can't believe the OP would choose to work on the evenings that her husband deigns to stay at home. Doesn't she know that the evenings he doesn't fancy going out should be for family time.

It’s quite restrictive for him if your tutoring mon tue wed
after Sunday night he’s ether working or stuck in at home till Thursday night

What’s your role op? You say it can only be done in the evening. Is it something like OnlyFans and that’s why he resents it?

He is envious of your easy life which is understandable.

Your DH has a sweet deal. He should be happy. You are doing nothing wrong. Don't leave your job.

Is it potentially your role he is jealous of? You get more time with your daughter., you get more time at home, you get to select your hours - maybe he wishes he had some of this and does not like being in a trad man role? It could be very clear how all this works best for your family, he might just not like the bit he has got.