To not understand Dh’s problem with me working like this

I see both sides to this.

Being honest, how flexible do you actually need to be for your DD? As in, are we talking multiple appointments every month and lots of time of school, or one appointment and the odd phone call from school?

If it’s more like the latter, I can see why he’s resentful - you have a lot of free time to do whatever you fancy, while he works nine hours a day and then takes over in the evenings.

Only you know how much time your DD actually takes up though.

Have you tried talking to him?

She pretty much has sole responsibility for everything else

You need to ask him not us. If communication is an issue then you can get a counsellor to assist. He may have access to one for free through work or health insurance if he works at a reasonable size company.
I notice it's an aibu, so no you're not unreasonable to not understand given that it sounds like you're guessing, and it is reasonable to make further efforts to communicate, otherwise whatever it is will fester until it becomes a wedge between you

I think he's envious that you work fewer hours than him. He probably thinks your life is easier than his, because like many men, if he was at home all day, he'd likely do much less than you, so sees it as 'doing nothing'. It's surprising how many people see their partner as a rival and play the my lifes harder than yours game in their head. Not sure what you can do about it really, because if you have a partner who wants your life to be as difficult as theirs (in their perception) your only route is to convince them it is, which isn't a very nice way to have to live.

@rwalker but "stuck at home" also can be described as "quality family time". The op is back for a normal adult evening after the DD is in bed.

A weakness in AIBU is that we don't hear the other side of the story

For all we know, OP's child may have occasional minor health issues, no need to stay home, husband is resentful she's only working 6 hours per week, she coukd work longer / during the day and feels its unfair he has pretty much sole responsibility for supporting the household financially

Isn't this the case for most parents though? He also goes out 3 or 4 nights a week. Doesn't sound very restrictive to me.

Maybe try communicating with him and asking him if there's an issue?

Please tell us what you do, OP! It sounds ideal!

If you are bringing in the same income as school hours, I don't see the problem. Is he resentful that you work fewer hours maybe?

Even if you were working full time I bet he'd still expect you to do everything in the house

I think your DH has a great deal.

Doesn’t sound like he has a particularly demanding job, everything else taken care of for him, so when he does spend time with your DC he only has that to focus on. He should look forward to this time as special one on one time.
You on the other hand are juggling a lot to ensure nothing impacts his life. Things would be very different for him if you did work in the day and everything had to be split.

Yet another man who doesn’t know how lucky he is.
Good for you for securing such a suitable job for your circumstances.

How is he expressing this resentment?

You keep saying he “seems” resentful but you’re not answering, how?

What's he doing or saying exactly?

There might not be a problem OP, or if there is it could be one of many things - financial burden, jealousy, things being less fair than you think etc. The only way to know is to ask him.

This is bonkers OP - TALK TO HIM NOT US

Did you conveniently miss the bit about ops dd frequent health issues.
Multiple medical appts and time off school?
Why should op work more hours for less money? You'd have to be daft to do that. If the poor little man wants to do that there's nothing stopping him.

He doesn’t like doing his share of parental duties. He can’t really say so though so he’s resentful.

Oh MLM isn't real income, it's just tactics to reel extra people in by making them think there is a magic money tree.

Home educated, home-schooled, homeschooled are all the same term styled differently and I'm not writing a green paper that needs to get every overly sensitive contributor onboard. You can use the term home educated if you wish to, but you might like to consult a grammar book before correcting strangers.

You say he seems resentful. How does this actually manifest? What does he say or do? How have you linked this perceived resentment to your work?

All we can do is guess. Working on the presumption that he is resentful, could it be that you are earning at a rate that is much lower than your potential and as such this puts pressure on finances or your families quality of life. Maybe he just wants you to earn more money. Maybe he sees it that you are exaggerating your child’s needs in order to only work 6 hours per week.

Who on here knows? You have given so little detail. The reality is, if he is resentful, you know exactly the reasons why, whether they are reasonable or not.

His resentment is because he thinks parenting and housework and life admin is easy. My ex once took my place at a kids meet-up at a soft play centre and had the audacity to say to one of yhd itger mums ‘This is a nice life for TypicalWave lot - sitting around drinking coffee all day whilst the kids play’

Mum pointed out that in the short hour he’d been a present father the kids hadn’t bothered to come up to him bevause they’d learned there was no point in seeking his support or attention.

Men frequently think it’s all easy as pie and a grift.

Are you an evenings only tree surgeon?

It's his choice to see friends 3 or 4 evenings a week!

I can't believe posters are scrabbling around for unconvincing reasons to justify his stroppiness. I suspect he's jealous that the OP is efficiently earning money on low hours and managing everything else so capably.

OP you need to get him to explain what exactly he's in a strop about.

Can I ask what % of time does your child miss school? Is it 40%? 50% or is it more like 5/10%. If the latter maybe he resents that you have every day free when child ok. (Yes some housework etc does not take up a whole day). How many hours is he out if the house each day? Maybe he thinks you should go sone work in the day (not necessarily the same) and increase household finances a bit? I’m not saying this is right or wrong just trying to see why he is resentful

Don’t under any circumstances ask him if he’s resentful or why.

Take the advice of dozens of strangers who can divine his feelings with their insight into all men everywhere.