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Pressured into having a baby by older partner

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courtneyk92 · 02/08/2025 22:03

I've been seeing a 45 year old man, I am a 32 year old female. He looks after me so well. I've been dating him since 2023, and just these last few months gotten serious where we've moved in together. He has 3 grown children, all 20+ (had them young). I have a 8 and 6 year old who he adores. He really wants more kids, since he met me he has said "every single day I vision what our children will look like" , "my dream is to have a baby with you", "are you prepared to give me a baby", " I want lots of babies with you" and just begs me for a baby constantly. to the extent he keeps taking the Condom off.. and purposely ... inside me and I keep taking the morning after pill and its making me so sick. I feel so pressured because he gets moody if I say no :( any advice ?

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PermanentTemporary · 02/08/2025 22:08

Yes leave him! Why on earth did you move in together?

For now if you don’t feel safe to leave, get an IUD inserted. Doing that can also be emergency contraception if done at the right time.

IcyMint · 02/08/2025 22:07

Taking a condom off during sex is rape. You need to leave.

Amanitacae · 02/08/2025 22:07

He’s trying to trap you.

Buzzy1234 · 02/08/2025 22:06

This is really sinister, and illegal. You need to move out, it sounds like he’s got a breeding fetish.

MigGril · 02/08/2025 22:06

Yes run far away.

beetr00 · 02/08/2025 22:06

this is absolutely a deal breaker @courtneyk92

Do not be pressurised. Tell him straight then whatever the outcome is, so be it.

OpenThatWindow · 02/08/2025 22:05

Run.

Jesus. He's awful.

Raise your standards!

ObtuseMoose · 02/08/2025 22:04

Run fast and far. He's technically raping you.

SeagullFreeZone · 02/08/2025 22:04

Ditch the fucker,