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AIBU to consider asking DP to move out

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KZNGirl1 · 02/08/2025 19:36

Just got home from a week away with DS 15, DD 13 and DP. DP has very recently moved in full time temporarily until his work accommodation is ready in November. Kids are typical teenagers but generally really good. Week away was tense to say the least. DP was increasingly frustrated by DD who is high energy and can be loud. After dinner one evening she was chatting and joking around quite loudly. DP got quieter and quieter and then suddenly yelled Shut Up and stormed out the room. He didn’t speak to anyone for the rest of the evening and pretty much gave everyone the silent treatment the following day. It feels like a massive red flag and I’m thinking about asking him to move out. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting but, to my mind, his behaviour was unacceptable. When I spoke to him about it he told me he didn’t feel he’d done anything wrong and that if someone spoke to him that way he’d be fine with it because he’d ‘deserve’ it. WWYD?

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RhaenysRocks · 02/08/2025 19:40

Yeah that dynamic isn't working. I'm not going to call him names or say he's a awful person but other people's kids are a million times more annoying than your own. It doesn't even mean you need to split up but moving a relatively random adult into a home with teens is not easy or usually desirable. DP and I have been together a decade. It will be another 5-10 until our kids are flown and we can cohabit. Blended / step stuff not for us. He needs to find a short let to tide him over.

Lavenderandclimbingrose · 02/08/2025 19:39

You need to tell him to pack his bags and go. Yelling shut up is not adult and neither is being a dick and ruining the holiday on days after

Unilaterallyinsane · 02/08/2025 19:39

Yes, he’s toast.

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 02/08/2025 19:37

Do you even need to ask?? Get him out of your daughters home.