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To think that if it is illegal to use a mobile phone while driving a vehicle, it must be made illegal to push a pram?

134 replies

llizzie · 02/08/2025 19:00

I have just read this on another site which was discussing how the mobile phone is killing conversation.

  ''Saw an incident two days ago: Young mother pushing child in a pushchair was glued to her smart phone, not looking to where she was going. She was heading straight towards a fixed bollard at the side of the footpath. Last few seconds, she saw it, swerved suddenly, child rocked over to the side and hit bollard full face. Stupidity of the highest order. ''
OP posts:
llizzie · 04/08/2025 17:12

TeenLifeMum · 04/08/2025 13:56

Age 14 I was pushing my cousin’s pram and hit a bollard - I wasn’t on my phone but chasing away to baby cousin in his pram facing me, pulling silly faces as we walked to make him laugh. So by your theory, no talking at all should be the rule.

Honestly, I really think some people need a hobby away from judging others.

There is no judgement of others in the thread. It is a debate about whether it should be illegal to take a phone call with one hand and pushing a pram with an infant with the other. Obviously, from this thread, everyone does it and no one thinks it is wrong. Why?

You were not on the phone, but your attention was elsewhere.

OP posts:
GoldenRosebee · 04/08/2025 17:03

llizzie · 04/08/2025 16:45

Not at all. I have nothing against mobile phones. I have nothing against mothers of young children.

Nor is the thread about that. It is about a witness who saw a woman pushing a pram who lost control because she was speaking on a mobile phone. It never occurred to me that such a thing would happen, not being able to go out without being driven.

I would be horrified if I saw a powered wheelchair user on the phone, not paying due care and attention, or someone pushing a wheelchair.doing the same.

It is irresponsible, and if it happens. It seems people will do what they like until it is declared illegal.

The problem is that baby got hurt. You're not communicating this well. Obviously that mum is in real trouble, especially as child might have died. I do think it's stupid that parents in flimsy prams don't watch where they go, but problem here is that there was harm to baby. Not general usage of phones.

llizzie · 04/08/2025 17:01

JHound · 04/08/2025 01:10

I cannot see what the image says.

I typed it out as soon as the first posters were confused.

I was not the witness, which was why I quoted it on here, rather than have anyone think I saw this happen. It was recorded on another site by an eyewitness.

OP posts:
llizzie · 04/08/2025 16:58

ginasevern · 04/08/2025 16:52

I think anyone walking on the pavement glued to their fucking phone and completely oblivious to everyone else around them deserves to be bitch slapped. And please don't tell me they're all taking emergency calls about their dying grandmothers, having a mental health crisis or waiting for the 4 minute warning.

Without a law, would we be able to tell them to stop? It took years for it to be an offence for drivers. Now drivers who need the phone with them can have equipment to enable them to drive without holding a phone in their hands and one hand on the steering wheel.

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Topseyt123 · 04/08/2025 16:58

llizzie · 04/08/2025 16:29

Are you saying that it is perfectly OK to push a pram and talk on the phone at the same time?

The thread is about that, not about using a mobile phone while looking after a child.

Yes, it is perfectly OK to push a pram and talk on the phone. Not that I actually did it really. My youngest is 23 now and so mobile phones were much more in their infancy when mine were that age.

It is also perfectly OK to use one while looking after a child, especially if you are in the house. Nobody ever questioned whether it was OK to use a landline phone with a child in the house. A mobile should be no different. Obviously you have to pay attention to what said child is doing and some people don't do so well at that.

Using a phone while driving is clearly illegal and fuckwitted.

ginasevern · 04/08/2025 16:52

I think anyone walking on the pavement glued to their fucking phone and completely oblivious to everyone else around them deserves to be bitch slapped. And please don't tell me they're all taking emergency calls about their dying grandmothers, having a mental health crisis or waiting for the 4 minute warning.

llizzie · 04/08/2025 16:45

SnowyPetals · 04/08/2025 03:34

This thread is bonkers. It seems to me that the OP just doesn't like mobile phones and, as is pretty common, has singled out parents of young children as a lazy, easy target for their dislike. Some things never change,eh?

Edited

Not at all. I have nothing against mobile phones. I have nothing against mothers of young children.

Nor is the thread about that. It is about a witness who saw a woman pushing a pram who lost control because she was speaking on a mobile phone. It never occurred to me that such a thing would happen, not being able to go out without being driven.

I would be horrified if I saw a powered wheelchair user on the phone, not paying due care and attention, or someone pushing a wheelchair.doing the same.

It is irresponsible, and if it happens. It seems people will do what they like until it is declared illegal.

OP posts:
MageQueen · 04/08/2025 16:31

llizzie · 04/08/2025 16:29

Are you saying that it is perfectly OK to push a pram and talk on the phone at the same time?

The thread is about that, not about using a mobile phone while looking after a child.

Well yes, I think it's pretty clear that that poster thinks it's okay to use a phone while pushing a pram. In fact, it's what most people on this thread things. Because, as @Stompythedinosaur points out in her post, we only legislate things for which there is significant evidence of notable potential harm. Which is not the case in the case of a pram, a parent and a phone.

llizzie · 04/08/2025 16:29

Stompythedinosaur · 04/08/2025 01:41

You are on a site called Mumsnet, where people post a great deal about parenting experiences, but you didn't think people use their phones while in charge of a baby or toddler? When did you imagine they were posting?

We don't tend to have laws against things unless there's plenty of evidence it's dangerous, which there is for using mobiles while driving, but there isn't for using mobiles while pushing a pram.

Are you saying that it is perfectly OK to push a pram and talk on the phone at the same time?

The thread is about that, not about using a mobile phone while looking after a child.

OP posts:
MageQueen · 04/08/2025 15:51

well, I was walking holding DS once and I tripped. We both went down and and he had a black eye afterwards. I felt terrible. But it was a rare and unusual incident and did not stop me carrying him afterwards.

The pram hitting a bollardf thing sounds pretty bad, but that's got to be an extreme event surely. 99% of the time, there is little or no danger. If anything, it sounds to me like the mother didn't have the child strapped in very well.

amber763 · 04/08/2025 15:45

This thread is bonkers 🤣

NeverCouldGetTheHangOfThursdays · 04/08/2025 15:41

Are we just talking prams or are pushchairs and buggies included?

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/08/2025 15:11

TeenLifeMum · 04/08/2025 13:56

Age 14 I was pushing my cousin’s pram and hit a bollard - I wasn’t on my phone but chasing away to baby cousin in his pram facing me, pulling silly faces as we walked to make him laugh. So by your theory, no talking at all should be the rule.

Honestly, I really think some people need a hobby away from judging others.

You’ve reminded me of the Rowan Atkinson sketch from the 80s, I think?, with the lamppost 😁

Inchworms · 04/08/2025 15:03

What about pushing a pram and listening to music on one Bluetooth headphone

TeenLifeMum · 04/08/2025 13:56

llizzie · 02/08/2025 21:06

I thought it might be clearer like this:

Saw an incident two days ago: Young mother pushing child in a pushchair was glued to her smart phone, not looking to where she was going.

She was heading straight towards a fixed bollard at the side of the footpath. Last few seconds, she saw it, swerved suddenly, child rocked over to the side and hit bollard full face.

Stupidity of the highest order.

Age 14 I was pushing my cousin’s pram and hit a bollard - I wasn’t on my phone but chasing away to baby cousin in his pram facing me, pulling silly faces as we walked to make him laugh. So by your theory, no talking at all should be the rule.

Honestly, I really think some people need a hobby away from judging others.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/08/2025 13:39

steff13 · 02/08/2025 19:09

Illegal to push a pram ever or just when you're driving a car? Because I definitely agree that you shouldn't be pushing a pram while you're driving a car.

Absolutely

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/08/2025 13:38

llizzie · 03/08/2025 15:21

Is it just the degree of damage and injury which determines the law? Not everyone is injured in a road accident.

The witness saw a woman absorbed in her mobile phone, saw the bollard, quickly took evasive action which made the pram swerve and the child bang it's head on the bollard.

Only the person pushing the pram knows what happened next, because there is no law to make it illegal, so cannot be reported.

Yes, it is. That's why it's illegal to drive a vehicle with a blood alcohol level higher than x amount with consequences up to and including imprisonment, whilst it isn't illegal to be drunk in charge of a shopping trolley.

PollyBell · 04/08/2025 12:41

My ultimate pushchair bingo is pushing one in between 2 parked cars while on your phone in one hand and dragging another one behind happens more often than I thought possible

dynamiccactus · 04/08/2025 12:34

AhBiscuits · 04/08/2025 12:17

No because most people are capable of talking and walking at the same time without crashing into things. The odd freak incident does not mean we need a new law.

Actually the only reason most of them don't crash into things is because everyone else gets out of their way. They stare at their phone screens until the very last second and narrowly miss an impact on a regular basis.

dynamiccactus · 04/08/2025 12:33

A lot of pedestrians don't look where they are going because they are looking at their phones, so I can see the issue. If they are pushing a pram they are putting themselves and the child at risk.

The other advantage is that if you put your phone away, it won't get nicked.

AhBiscuits · 04/08/2025 12:17

llizzie · 04/08/2025 01:06

Why not stop pushing the pram when the phone rings? Wouldn't you hope that someone else pushing your child would do that?

No because most people are capable of talking and walking at the same time without crashing into things. The odd freak incident does not mean we need a new law.

Everyothernamewasalreadyinuse · 04/08/2025 12:17

Would you feel the same if the person was pushing a pram having a chat with another person walking with them? Surely that distraction is worse as they are talking, and also would be looking at the person they are talking to while walking. Or would you expect a mum and dad walking down the street to do so in silence and never make eye contact?

tigger1001 · 04/08/2025 12:15

Taking this at face value and not for the crazy idea it actually is....

  1. you are right, it is illegal to drive while holding your phone (you can still take calls though - on hands free) and the fact it is illegal doesn't stop people doing it sadly. Why would this law be any different?
  2. what would the punishment be? For driving points on your licence, potentially even losing your licence. What would it be for someone pushing a pram while using a mobile phone? Would calls on hands feee be acceptable?? That happens far more than you will ever know due to headphones

what about other things that cause a lapse in concentration?

BMW6 · 04/08/2025 12:08

OP the problem is people being inattentive while pushing a pram FOR ANY REASON not just because they're on their phones!

People used to have pram accidents before mobile phones were even dreamt of. I wonder pre 1980 say how many children have been injured or killed because a person pushed a pram onto a road without paying attention to traffic? Quite a number I'll bet.

You're barking up the wrong tree.

MuckFusk · 04/08/2025 03:44

SnowyPetals · 04/08/2025 03:34

This thread is bonkers. It seems to me that the OP just doesn't like mobile phones and, as is pretty common, has singled out parents of young children as a lazy, easy target for their dislike. Some things never change,eh?

Edited

Spot on. She has a rant about mobile phones in one of the posts.