I expect I’ll be told to get a grip!
DS is 19, nearly 20, home for the summer after 2nd year of university. He’s very sociable and has lots of friends, and like many young people goes out to pubs and clubs.
9 times out of 10 he’s sensible, and has several pints but stays coherent. But there have been a handful of occasions in the last couple of years when he’s got stupidly drunk - falling over, slurred speech, maudlin, argumentative, stroppy and sometimes very miserable. He never gets into fights, but if I’m around he argues with me, and is belligerent and frankly pretty vile. We end up barely speaking for 24 hours afterwards,
The rest of the time he’s a great lad - pleasant, working hard at a holiday job, helpful, doing well at uni.
The thing is, because of the times when he’s got stupidly drunk, I’m now completely paranoid when he goes out. I can’t sleep, and if I nod off I wake an hour later. I’m menopausal and I don’t sleep well anyway, and I work during the week, so weekends are my time to catch up on sleep. I find myself dreading him going out and feeling really resentful that I’m going to have a crap nights sleep.
Does anyone else worry like this? Am I weird because I can’t sleep when he’s out? That’s what he says, and he says other parents just chill out about it. I’m OK when he’s away at uni because I suppose I just adjust and disconnect to an extent. In view of the times he’s been in an awful state, am I entitled to be a bit grouchy about it? Or should I just smile and wish him a pleasant evening?