That my neighbour’s paranoia is not my problem.

I think the OP is entitled to pass a few comments in light of the consistent, and unfair harassment this paranoid woman is carrying out.

The OP’s marriage is no more, she is living there and supporting her teenagers, and she’s making a bit of extra money fully legally, by letting a self contained annexe out very short term.

This woman sounds obsessed, potentially unwell, and is being a relentless pain in the arse.

Cool. You could move them. The OP is doing nothing wrong. At all. People banging on about the ‘vetting’, how much do you think Airbnb guests are ‘vetted’?
these are people staying for a couple of weeks in a self contained annexe.

And the ‘children’ are big teenagers! 😆

Tell her you're working with a local prison to act as a halfway house for sex offenders.

I wouldn’t want to live next to it either to be honest, I’d hate it but I would know I was stuck with it and start planting some conifers to screen you off.
Maybe she’s fled or experienced violence from men, her reaction is OTT.

Your neighbour has obviously got bats in the belfry.

But:

They are all fully vetted and usually just down for a couple of weeks or so

How have you “fully vetted” them?

You need to call social services. It is batshit that she is preventing her children from playing in their garden because someone might occasionally look out of their window at them. She sounds genuinely mentally ill. Since the father is away as much as possible, who knows what those kids' lives are like living with a mother who is so deeply unhinged? And to the usual performers who will say "oh they won't do anything" you have no idea if they will do anything, and they certainly won't if you don't report it.

Well you can if it is all legal and above board

Obviously you can do what you like with your property but she sounds very distressed and I feel
sorry for her for that. Not sure how tasteful it is to judge her marriage either tbh.

Did you not read that they aren’t around the teenagers and it’s totally separate? That’s the equivalent of complaining about someone living in a flat next to you

The lodger is no more 'around' the OP's children than a next door neighbour in a terraced or semi-detatched property would be...

What valid point?

You have no control over who lives near you - unless you grow ridiculously tall hedges, you've no say over who can see into your garden from a neighbouring window.

OP could sell up and anyone could buy her property. As could any of the other neighbours.

That doesn't give the paranoid neighbour the right to harrass OP about her perfectly legitimate lodgers!

Make sure you keep a record of her behaviour, so you have evidence if it escalates.

Well as the op would have done the sensible thing and checked with all the relevant authorities ie mortgage, council, done fire checks any other relevant body and made sure they were fping 100 thr right thing there would be nothing to catch them on

Your post drips in judgement, which is ironic now your exs workspace is housing random strangers. Her husband likely loves her, hence they’re together.

Teenagers also suffer abuse. Your posts show a distinct lack of safeguarding awareness. You’ve now said they’re not a risk as 1) they are workers at a household name company 2) your kids are teenagers.

Housing strangers in your loft conversion with no checks, and around children (yes, teens are still children), is questionable.

If the conversion and your lodger arrangements are all up to code and declared then she hasn't got a leg to stand on. A final firm response is needed - you're happy with your arrangements, you're sorry she feels the way she does but you aren't doing anything wrong and if she doesn't like it she needs to move somewhere with no houses around, and any further letters or complaints about the matter will be considered harassment and reported to the police as such.

Yeah, she’s definitely massively overreacting. That’s just crazy. I would have to assume some major trauma in her past that has caused this but you are not responsible for her mental health or managing it for her.

i Think there is a great solution here: rent it out to your neighbor!
She won’t be there too much, long stay could get a discount. Bob’s your uncle.

She doesn't. She lives in a residential area where the OP is sticking to the rules. If she really doesn't want to be overlooked by anyone she needs to live somewhere more secluded.

She was already overlooked by OP and her DH - they could be anyone!

Sensible man.

Get some cardboard cut outs of various celebs and stick those in the windows between lodgers.

She’s crackers. Make sure you’re all 100% within the rules - planning, letting, taxable income etc…..I mean I’m not sure what the rules are but she strikes me as someone who will want to try and catch you out

She's nuts but that doesn't really help you if she's going to keep going on about it. i think I would, as previously mentioned, say, firmly, I am happy with the arrangements I have made and I'm not prepared to discuss it anymore.

She’s not nuts 😂 She has a valid point.

Your choices impact her so you’re being impacted. Sorry op. That’s life. Some people have issues some don’t. Just happens your neighbour does. I’m with her and would not like to live next to you.

It's not just the childless that rent out rooms or run bed and breakfasts or hotels!