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My mind has actually been blown...

60 replies

lanbro · 02/08/2025 17:28

Saw my dsis yesterday, her xp, df of her child, is looking after his work friend's 2yo for a fortnight whilst her dps holiday alone....

Xp is dropping his own dd at nursery, friend's dd at her nursery in the opposite direction, then going to work, and obviously reverse at the end of the day.

Xp is a people pleaser, likely didn't know how to say no, but admits the toddler doesn't seem to have a clue what's going on

AIBU that you don't ask a work friend to look after your toddler for 2 weeks whilst you holiday without them? Not a funeral, a wedding, a long weekend, a necessary work trip, but a 2 week adult only pleasure holiday?! Mind. Blown that people think this is ok?!

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Paperthin · 02/08/2025 18:08

Who leaves their 2 year old for two weeks to go on holiday? I agree with you op, mind blown!

CurlewKate · 02/08/2025 18:07

Are they friends?

Ineednewcurtainsandblinds · 02/08/2025 18:06

It’s not something I would ever do, but reporting it? To whom? And what would you say? A couple have left their child in the hands of a capable adult man, who is also a parent? Which agency would care?

Azandme · 02/08/2025 18:01

I doubt you or your dsis know the full story, so I don't feel able to judge.

Bluetoothpaste · 02/08/2025 18:00

The couple asked a friend, also a parent, to look after their child and he said yes.

He’s a competent an adult man, presumably he could have absolutely said no if he wanted to.

I’m not really sure what is has to do with you or why you are so exercised about it?

notevencharging · 02/08/2025 17:56

This is bonkers. Does he know this child at all?

SixteenClovesOfGarlic · 02/08/2025 17:52

The sisters ex boyfriend must think it's ok, too, since he chose to have his colleagues young daughter.

Really weird of him to not think of basic safeguarding or if it's in the child's best interests to be given to some unrelated male.

tripleginandtonic · 02/08/2025 17:48

LividSquidward · 02/08/2025 17:37

I'd say dropping a 2yo with a random man was a safeguarding mega risk and I'd be reporting it.

He's not random.

Bread121bread · 02/08/2025 17:40

I would assume he wanted the child's parent for something. Is a promotion coming up? Or is he after something else?

It would be great if he did it out of kindness. I would just worry, that he is planning on doing the reverse. And let them look after your niece. But then I suppose the father would vet them and only leave his children with people he trust.

LividSquidward · 02/08/2025 17:37

I'd say dropping a 2yo with a random man was a safeguarding mega risk and I'd be reporting it.