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For not wanting neighbours kids in my property?

33 replies

Ihatemyneighb · 02/08/2025 11:51

Neighbour living about 12 doors down. Kid comes into my property around age12 I think, I know the mother by face but not name but never seen kid. I told kid to leave and don’t come again. Went to see the mother and asked her for this to not happen again but her reaction is it’s harmless and kids having fun and to lighten up etc.etc.

Don’t want to explain my reasons but what do u think - AIBU?

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frogyoda · 02/08/2025 12:02

My 13 year old and his friends might possibly walk onto someone’s garden - not fully appreciating how the owner might feel - i would hope he wouldnt do this and would have respect for other people - but if someone came to me and said he had done it, i would apologise and warn him not to that and explain why.

Silverbirchleaf · 02/08/2025 11:55

No, they shouldn’t be in your garden without permission.

Moonnstars · 02/08/2025 11:55

Does their property have a garden?
Does seem a bit odd they are wandering in like that. I wouldn't like it either. Do you have children though? Are they hoping to come round to find them out playing?

WhoFedTheFish · 02/08/2025 11:55

What’s the context?

random 12yo turning up in your house alone - YANBU

random 12yo who has been playing with your kids coming in with your kids - YABU a bit!

Purplecatshopaholic · 02/08/2025 11:54

I’d need more detail I think.. Are you saying a child you don’t know just randomly walked into your house unannounced? If so, I would say it’s not unreasonable to ask them not to do that. And also not unreasonable to keep your door locked..
However was the child invited by a child of yours perhaps?

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Ihatemyneighb · 02/08/2025 11:54

No my kid and their kid not friends

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Ihatemyneighb · 02/08/2025 11:54

In my driveway and then went into the garden by side gate

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PuppyMonkey · 02/08/2025 11:53

Was the kid visiting your kid?
Or just appeared inside your house?
How did they get in?

So many questions.

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