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Phugs · 02/08/2025 11:50

Yesterday I put fuel in the car and went in to the petrol station to pay. There were a couple of people in front of me in the queue. When I got to the front I said pump 7 please and the cashier informed me that someone had already paid for pump 7.

The man who had paid was just getting back in his car so the cashier gestured for him to come back in from his car and said he had paid for the wrong pump. Immediately he turned aggressive and started shouting at me to pay him the money back by bank transfer.

I refused, I wasn’t going to transfer money to a random person in the petrol station and it immediately felt like a scam.

I requested the cashier just refund the man his money so that I could pay my bill and he refused and started pressuring me to just “pay the man what I owe him”. The customer who had paid my fuel then started calling me a fucking bitch, saying I wasn’t fucking leaving with out paying him his money and he would “do me in” if I tried to leave. He had clearly been drinking, and his friend, who was originally a passenger drove the car away from the petrol station. At this point another customer stepped in and called the police.

The customer then got really aggressive with the man on the phone to the police and started pushing him around, it escalated really quickly and I was asking the cashier again and again to just refund the man his money so that I could pay for my fuel. I asked him to bring a manager out and he said he was manning the station on his own and there was no one else to assist.

Two female police officers arrived and the man was increasingly aggressive with them, calling them both fucking bitches and insulting their appearances. Eventually he was arrested, the cashier then could magically create me another bill and I paid.

When I was leaving the cashier told me I could have avoided the altercation if I’d just paid the man what I owed him and when I’ve tried to lodge a complaint with the petrol station manager, she’s said the same and that it was between me and the other customer to sort out, that the cashier had done nothing wrong by refusing the customer a refund.

Im fairly certain I’m not in the wrong here, would anyone transfer money to a random stranger in a petrol station and walk away without any proof of payment?

OP posts:
TheBigFatMermaid · 03/08/2025 18:26

It's always telling how quickly police can turn up to some incidents.
it's almost as if they have a "favoured artist" system ....

The OP was in imminent risk of real harm. I'd expect them to prioritise that over say investigating a burglary that has already happened and there is no chance of catching the burglary.

Plumnora · 03/08/2025 18:22

You're not on the wrong. And personally if you want to be petty- I know I would- I'd publicise what happened everywhere you can because the cashier was completely out of order.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 03/08/2025 18:06

Definitely not your fault and you did the right thing.

Not sure it was a scam but the petrol station just wanting to make their own lives easy. If you had sent money to him, would they have insisted he then pay for his own? I suspect they’d have had trouble!

I reckon he was kicking off because he thought he’d got a bargain paying less than the bill for the fuel he actually had.

Putneydad7 · 03/08/2025 18:02

Phugs · 02/08/2025 12:40

I did think that maybe they were in on it together, my thought process later was that the customer hadn’t paid for my fuel, the cashier insists I “refund” the customer, I walk away without any proof of payment and later I get a letter claiming non-payment.

I was wondering how it could be a scam, so glad you said this, makes total sense and doesn’t sound too far fetched. People can be so sneaky.

tommyhoundmum · 03/08/2025 17:55

plinkityplink · 02/08/2025 12:28

I don’t do internet / phone banking so they would have been screwed…

I could have posted him a cheque 😂

Me too!

JSMill · 03/08/2025 17:55

Gosh you must have been scared. I just spoke to ds1 who worked in a petrol station when he was a student and he agrees that it sounds like a scam.

Judecb · 03/08/2025 17:46

How awful for you. I would 100% be following this up with the garage owners. They were completely in the wrong here.

Hecatoncheires · 03/08/2025 17:37

OP, I’m horrified that the petrol station staff tried to pressure you to refund the man. It was 100% on them to rectify the situation. Definitely follow up with Shell as this is outrageous. I hope you’re okay after what sounds like a horrible experience.

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 03/08/2025 17:34

Report the petrol station to their head office. This sounds like a fairly unsophisticated scam, involving the "customer " and the cashier.

Nickynicks · 03/08/2025 17:24

AngelicKaty · 03/08/2025 16:05

No-one paid for the fuel at the pump he filled up at - he was carted off by the police and his passenger drove off!
OP's already told us that her bill on pump 7 was £55 and she has no idea how much shouty man's was.

Guessing more! At least £70

weirdoboelady · 03/08/2025 17:15

Phugs · 02/08/2025 12:13

Yeah it’s shell, I’ve put a complaint in to their resolutions team now.

Do let us know what happens!

Confusdworriedmum · 03/08/2025 16:59

I don't have banking on my phone so he'd have been screwed if he asked me.
Yes you could have paid them but why the hell should you? It was his error not yours. The petrol station sound fucking useless too. I'm sure they could have refunded and solved the whole issue.
I hope you're okay.

Coffeeteasugar · 03/08/2025 16:34

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AgentLisbon · 03/08/2025 16:21

Sadcafe · 03/08/2025 15:23

Didn’t say they had committed an offence,just cashiers actions seem to have escalated the situation

But without the police having reason to believe they’ve committed or may have committed a criminal offence they can’t arrest them?

Corfumanchu · 03/08/2025 16:20

I don't think it is necessarily a scam and it is most likely a mistake, but whatever it had nothing to do with you. Tbe cashier probably did nor have the authority to issue refunds. Shouty man I am guessing paid too much which would explain his anger, but he was directed it at the wrong person

chachahide · 03/08/2025 16:20

BuildbyNumbere · 03/08/2025 13:18

100% the cashier should have refunded him and then billed you both correctly. Petrol station is in the wrong, I would avoid using it again.

l agree! You can’t order something and then be expected to pay for something else someone else bought. I hope he got done for drink driving too.

DailyEnergyCrisis · 03/08/2025 16:14

Myme · 03/08/2025 15:44

I don’t think the police said anything to the OP or about blame? It only seemed to be the cashier and then later on the manager to said she was at fault.

Sorry ignore me! Misread it!

VeryStressedMum · 03/08/2025 16:09

Is there any proof that drink man had even got petrol for his own car he could have been in cahoots with petrol attendant and just said her fuel was paid for. That's why noone mentioned the payment for drunk man's fuel.

AngelicKaty · 03/08/2025 16:05

Nickynicks · 03/08/2025 14:36

Sounds a bit dodgy. Anyway who paid for the petrol at the pump he was at? Say he was on pump 9 and filled up and he paid for your fuel.

Also what was the amounts for yourself and him? I am guessing yours was a lot less - about £20 less than his.

No-one paid for the fuel at the pump he filled up at - he was carted off by the police and his passenger drove off!
OP's already told us that her bill on pump 7 was £55 and she has no idea how much shouty man's was.

shuggles · 03/08/2025 16:00

@Phugs OP, if you receive a reply and it isn't acceptable, then keep escalating this further and further until you get the right response. I think everyone in this thread unanimously agrees that it's wrong for a business to try to instruct you to transfer money to another customer.

Phugs · 03/08/2025 15:51

Blindfaithfails · 03/08/2025 15:10

Commenting here on the hope that you update this when you get a response. Because I’m nosy.

I’m not expecting anything a reply until their offices open tomorrow, and I’ll give them a day or so before escalating, but I’ll be sure to update with any response 😊

OP posts:
Myme · 03/08/2025 15:44

DailyEnergyCrisis · 03/08/2025 15:36

YANBU- obviously the biggest fault lies with the aggressive, disgusting men but for the police officers to blame you is also outrageous. I would complain about their conduct too.

I don’t think the police said anything to the OP or about blame? It only seemed to be the cashier and then later on the manager to said she was at fault.

KatieCelf · 03/08/2025 15:39

OMG no you did the right thing. Almost feels like he cashier was in on the scam. It would have been so much easier to refund the guy and you just pay for your petrol!

No way would I have bank transferred money to a random under pressure like that!

For it to escalate so quickly something odd must have been going on. Hope you’re ok OP.

Unilaterallyinsane · 03/08/2025 15:37

Twice in the last week a different aggressive man has had a go at me. It’s always men having a go at a woman.

DailyEnergyCrisis · 03/08/2025 15:36

YANBU- obviously the biggest fault lies with the aggressive, disgusting men but for the police officers to blame you is also outrageous. I would complain about their conduct too.

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