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To not transfer money at petrol station

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Phugs · 02/08/2025 11:50

Yesterday I put fuel in the car and went in to the petrol station to pay. There were a couple of people in front of me in the queue. When I got to the front I said pump 7 please and the cashier informed me that someone had already paid for pump 7.

The man who had paid was just getting back in his car so the cashier gestured for him to come back in from his car and said he had paid for the wrong pump. Immediately he turned aggressive and started shouting at me to pay him the money back by bank transfer.

I refused, I wasn’t going to transfer money to a random person in the petrol station and it immediately felt like a scam.

I requested the cashier just refund the man his money so that I could pay my bill and he refused and started pressuring me to just “pay the man what I owe him”. The customer who had paid my fuel then started calling me a fucking bitch, saying I wasn’t fucking leaving with out paying him his money and he would “do me in” if I tried to leave. He had clearly been drinking, and his friend, who was originally a passenger drove the car away from the petrol station. At this point another customer stepped in and called the police.

The customer then got really aggressive with the man on the phone to the police and started pushing him around, it escalated really quickly and I was asking the cashier again and again to just refund the man his money so that I could pay for my fuel. I asked him to bring a manager out and he said he was manning the station on his own and there was no one else to assist.

Two female police officers arrived and the man was increasingly aggressive with them, calling them both fucking bitches and insulting their appearances. Eventually he was arrested, the cashier then could magically create me another bill and I paid.

When I was leaving the cashier told me I could have avoided the altercation if I’d just paid the man what I owed him and when I’ve tried to lodge a complaint with the petrol station manager, she’s said the same and that it was between me and the other customer to sort out, that the cashier had done nothing wrong by refusing the customer a refund.

Im fairly certain I’m not in the wrong here, would anyone transfer money to a random stranger in a petrol station and walk away without any proof of payment?

OP posts:
RJ2023 · 02/08/2025 14:31

Money laundering?

Dodgy bloke puts in the minimum amount of petrol in their car. Then pays for your £55 worth of fuel with dirty money. He then gets £55 of clean money from your bank account. Dodgy bloke pays the minimum spend for his fuel.

Put that scenario in your email to the CEO - I guarantee that will get his attention!

Or alternatively the bloke pays for your fuel on a card. Gets refunded by you. Then attempts a charge back on his card.

Or the card he used to pay for your fuel is stolen.

So many alarm bells ringing about what the petrol station / that bloke were up to!

Confabulations · 02/08/2025 14:28

At the risk of derailing, this is an advantage to electric cars that I had not previously identified. Impossible to pay for someone else's by mistake/scam even at a public charger.

JustMyView13 · 02/08/2025 14:28

Phugs · 02/08/2025 13:37

I thought I was going to get a smack when he called me a fucking bitch just as the police arrived and I responded with “looks like it’s you that’s about to be someone’s bitch tonight” it was my one and only retort through the whole thing and I swing between being mad at myself for lowering myself to his level and being a little bit pleased with myself for not silently taking his shit.

I LOVE that!
I would say it’s less lowering yourself, and more telling him what he needed to hear.
Honestly, these emotional ‘men’ need to learn to control themselves in public.

LakieLady · 02/08/2025 14:26

Poppyseed14 · 02/08/2025 13:07

It's ridiculous because not everybody puts in "the £20" of fuel that you seem to assume they do.

I never do, either.

I hate filling the car up, so I generally wait till it's in the red and then fill it to the brim, unless I'm going a fair way away.

OnlyFannys · 02/08/2025 14:22

Wow yanbu at all op, I had this exact scenario happen to me recently at a shell and the cashier refunded the person who paid for the wrong pump then allowed me to pay for it. The whole resolution took less than 10 mins

EviesHat · 02/08/2025 14:20

Completely unreasonable of the cashier.

I went in to pay for my petrol and was told that it had already been paid - was I sure I was asking for the right pump? Pointed out my car was parked on said pump, cashier called for senior staff member to authorise recharging of pump amount to me. No drama, all swiftly and easily done.

Having said that, the customer who accidentally paid my pump had left by then, so if they’d still been in the shop I don’t know what would have happened.

SerendipityJane · 02/08/2025 14:19

Phugs · 02/08/2025 13:26

He was waiting for me to give him “his” money back. Police were with us in less than 5 minutes after being called.

It's always telling how quickly police can turn up to some incidents.

it's almost as if they have a "favoured artist" system ....

Phugs · 02/08/2025 14:13

Namechangedforthis2525 · 02/08/2025 14:01

I know you’ve said you’ve logged a complaint now but I would strongly encourage you to forward your complaint to the CEO inbox. For something so ridiculous and also dangerous given the way the altercation progressed physically to others trying to help, it should be raised top down.

You won’t get a reply from the CEO themselves but their direct team will handle it and ensure any actions with the store themselves will happen and not just a general sorry but not sorry/brush under the carpet

[email protected]

Thanks for this! I will be making sure they get a copy of the complaint.

OP posts:
Phugs · 02/08/2025 14:11

To those asking about the amounts, mine was £55, I don’t know how much his was. We didn’t start with a reasonable discussion about a resolution that escalated, he immediately got aggressive as soon as he was told he had paid for the wrong pump, demanding I transfer the money to him which put me straight on guard. Straight away then the only reasonable resolution for me was to pay the cashier and get a receipt as proof of purchase.
The cashier didn’t offer any suggestion to resolve such as paying / refunding the difference, just suggested I bank transfer the money which was a flat out no from me.

OP posts:
LakieLady · 02/08/2025 14:09

WearyAuldWumman · 02/08/2025 11:56

He'd have been stuck if he'd asked me. I can just about manage an electronic transfer on my laptop at home, but wouldn't be able to transfer money to a new payee on my mobile phone.

ETA You behaved perfectly correctly, OP. Sounds like a scam to me.

Edited

Same here. I haven't got a banking app on my 10+ year old phone, and it probably wouldn't work on it anyway, as it's so old.

I generally pay at the pump at for petrol anyway, and I thought most people did. Even our rural petrol stations have that option these days.

AffableApple · 02/08/2025 14:08

CinnamonJellyBeans · 02/08/2025 13:57

It's a shame that the OP didn't bother enquiring about the cost of each purchase.

If it was a few pounds difference, I'd have just paid his and asked him to put a few quid in a charity box or made him buy me a few packs of sweets/milk/coke or vice versa depending on who owed what.

Yes, the pump attendant was useless, but maybe the whole situation could have been avoided if you two and his sober driver had made a bit more effort to resolve the situation.

Nope. Totally nope.

Not the customer's responsibility to deal with shouty scam man.

At best you'll end up down money, at worst you'll get a fist in your face or a knife in your ribs.

Cashier in relative safety refunds and rebills. Coppers called if drama persists. Any other way, madness lies.

KarmaKameelion · 02/08/2025 14:08

I would be absolutely fuming! Def escalate to their head office

ginasevern · 02/08/2025 14:05

WearyAuldWumman · 02/08/2025 11:56

He'd have been stuck if he'd asked me. I can just about manage an electronic transfer on my laptop at home, but wouldn't be able to transfer money to a new payee on my mobile phone.

ETA You behaved perfectly correctly, OP. Sounds like a scam to me.

Edited

Same here!

steff13 · 02/08/2025 14:03

The cashier should have refunded him. Expecting you to refund the guy was ridiculous. I don't understand why the cashier didn't ask you to move your car from the pump that was already paid for to let the guy that paid use that pump and then you could have paid for whichever new one that you chose.

Ooothatsagoodone · 02/08/2025 14:03

Phugs · 02/08/2025 12:24

He didn’t, it occurred to be last night when I was repeating it in my head that he hadn’t paid for his own fuel at any point. Hopefully an additional incoming bill from the petrol station for that! He didn’t get a refund for mine either, so the petrol station have actually been paid twice, but I didn’t care, I just wanted a proof of payment at that point so I could leave.

You have to think out of the box...Its a type of scam where the driver and the cashier are in cahoots with eachother. He pretends to have got petrol, the cashier pretends to call him back - you pay him £30 to make angry man go away and its a win win for the angry man. The cashier may also have been under pressure from God knows who - and wasn't able to 'refund' because he hadn't even paid had he?

Tulipvase · 02/08/2025 14:02

You were right not to transfer the money. The staff should have been able to sort it. The other customer was an arse and got was coming to him. Had the man been reasonable and the amounts the same, I might have considered paying for his fuel as I can’t see how this was a scam. I think it was an error which was handled badly by the staff initially.

Namechangedforthis2525 · 02/08/2025 14:01

I know you’ve said you’ve logged a complaint now but I would strongly encourage you to forward your complaint to the CEO inbox. For something so ridiculous and also dangerous given the way the altercation progressed physically to others trying to help, it should be raised top down.

You won’t get a reply from the CEO themselves but their direct team will handle it and ensure any actions with the store themselves will happen and not just a general sorry but not sorry/brush under the carpet

[email protected]

whitewinespritzerandastraw · 02/08/2025 14:00

Phugs · 02/08/2025 12:24

He didn’t, it occurred to be last night when I was repeating it in my head that he hadn’t paid for his own fuel at any point. Hopefully an additional incoming bill from the petrol station for that! He didn’t get a refund for mine either, so the petrol station have actually been paid twice, but I didn’t care, I just wanted a proof of payment at that point so I could leave.

What were the values? Were they similar?

For example if you’d put in £50 of petrol and he had put in £60 you could have just paid the £60 and netted it off by him giving him £10 or whatever.

But to start shouting about bank transfers, shouting about anything really, is madness and he (and the cashier) are absolutely at fault.

Anyway, if the amounts were similar, and they’ve been paid twice for one and not for the other, they’ll probably just write off the small difference.

Theyreeatingthedogs · 02/08/2025 13:59

darknightslightmorning · 02/08/2025 11:54

Is the petrol station part of a chain? Complain to them

This.

Maverickess · 02/08/2025 13:58

I really don't think you did anything wrong here, the only reason I can think that refunding wouldn't work in this situation is that you don't get it back for 3-5 days and if shouty drunk man didn't have enough to pay for the petrol he'd actually bought, because he'd paid for yours then that's going to be difficult. Bank transfers are normally pretty much instant so the money would be available for him to pay again.

It's not your problem and I don't agree with pressuring you to make the transfer, but I suspect it's what shouty man was trying to avoid and the cashier trying to avoid having someone who couldn't pay for the actual petrol they'd got after refunding him the cost of your petrol and shouty man kicking off at them instead.

It should have been rectified by you paying your actual amount you'd put in and letting you go, applying that amount to shouty mans bill and then either refunding or charging shouty man any difference between what he paid and what he owed. Well that's what I'd have done anyway. 🤷🏼‍♀️

bettytaghetti · 02/08/2025 13:58

WimbyAce · 02/08/2025 13:30

Funnily enough I have had exactly this!!! The petrol station man said he couldn't refund it and wanted me to transfer the money to his own account - WTF??!! Another suggestion was that I paid and did cash back to give the other person the money. It was really awful, he was making out that I was being difficult when all I wanted to do was pay for MY petrol. Mine was £30 which the other guy had paid, his was only £9 or something. In the end I went and got cash out a cashpoint to reimburse the other customer but I'm not sure this was the right thing to do.

Is it possible that he paid your £30 with a stolen card by just tapping and then got 'real' cash back from you?

CinnamonJellyBeans · 02/08/2025 13:57

It's a shame that the OP didn't bother enquiring about the cost of each purchase.

If it was a few pounds difference, I'd have just paid his and asked him to put a few quid in a charity box or made him buy me a few packs of sweets/milk/coke or vice versa depending on who owed what.

Yes, the pump attendant was useless, but maybe the whole situation could have been avoided if you two and his sober driver had made a bit more effort to resolve the situation.

goingtotown · 02/08/2025 13:57

Petrol attendant here. Cashier could have refunded the customer then he pays for HIS pump.
OR cashier refunds the difference if he’d paid too much, OR he pays the difference if it was more than his pump.
You OP pay for amount on pump 7
Customers do not transfer money if a mistake has been made. Cashier should rectify the mistake.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 02/08/2025 13:57

Scam and wonder if the petrol station are in on it?

GreyCarpet · 02/08/2025 13:56

MagicalMystical · 02/08/2025 12:08

This man made an error and paid for the wrong petrol pump.

This is nothing to do with you.

You therefore had no part to play in any rectifying actions. That transaction was between the man and the cashier.

If anything, I’d say you could have legally walked away and driven off with your petrol having been paid for. 😂

This.

Always easy to put the blame/ responsibility on the sole female to fix the issue for the shouting man.

And this

I wouldn't have transferred the money either

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