Was the ‘race card’ pulled??

Wowsers is used to show surprise, not dismissal.

OP has spent the thread lamenting that this family assumed she was treating them differently based on their race and calls this 'pulling the race card' and yet it turns out she herself thinks she was treated differently based on race but thinks this isn't 'pulling the race card'.

You've then gone off on a tangent and called people racist for pointing out the irony.

The three of you are equally at fault in my opinion. The reason I chose yours was because your “wowsers” comment was particularly dismissive.

I note you don’t attempt to rebut anything I’ve said which is telling.

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Is there a reason why you've jumped ahead of the three other people who were similarly bemused by OP's statement and landed on my post?

@nomas Your response encapsulates all that’s wrong with much of the Left and their toxic attitude to the racism, and why it’s completely counterproductive and stokes racial tensions…

If a person of colour said they believed someone had judged them on their race, the response would have been sympathetic, supportive and understanding, and the perpetrator accused of being racist, one of the worst things you can label
someone.

However, a white person says this, and it’s “wowsers”.

You don’t right the wrong of historical racism by inverting it… you only perpetuate it and ensure that racism will be with us for another generation.

In my opinion the portion of the Left that push this are as much responsible for continuing racism as the Far Right. In their own way, and from different angles, they continue to stoke and fan its flames as part of the culture war they seem determined to fight. Shame on them both.

@Glittercloud17from your OP it was very clear that the other people were clearly seeing something that wasn’t there. As I said in my post earlier I have witnessed non white people play the race card to avoid accountability. On a thread like this you will always have people who will nitpick everything you say in a gotcha type way. If you can - ignore and move on.

So yeah, at that point I did think they had judged me on my race.

Wowsers, OP.

Right

at that point I did think they had judged me on my race.

Oh, the irony!

Because it's all BS. Just get the thread taken down.

Aren't you pulling the race card now? 😜

But it HAD crossed your mind that they were black/asian as you have assumed they were referring to race even though it wasn’t mentioned, so it’s you pulling the ‘race card’

She's certainly not debating this issue with honesty and integrity, so I'm done with her.

Have you heard of the phrase "the process is the punishment"? He punished his young, new to the job, female teacher by making a false, potentially career ending, allegation. For the terrible crime of pulling him up on bad behaviour in front of his friends.

And these things are permitted to happen when we have the likes of @Tandora saying that it just can’t and is impossible.

I’m afraid I can’t see any other way of interpreting @Tandora’s posts other than that they are gaslighting… moreover, gaslighting which inflames racial tensions rather than calm them, and exacerbate racial division rather than promote racial harmony.

when the data starts showing that black people have any sort of social, political and economic advantages, I’ll accept you may have a point.

Sorry, “defended” not “defined”.

This is simply “heads I win, tails you lose” nonsense. If @RhaenysRocks hadn’t defined herself, you’d have presumed that the boy in question likely had faced racism and was a victim, even though he was not.

You might want to look into the case of Richard Bilkszto, a Toronto principal who was falsely accused of being a white supremacist merely for saying Canada does not have much racism as America. He was actually disciplined for it, as crazy as that sounds, it destroyed his life and he eventually killed himself. The benefit to his accuser was shutting down a point of view she didn't like, and, it seems, the fulfillment of a sadistic desire to bully him and ruin his life. She was even recorded laughing about it. It sounds unbelievable, but it happened.

Nobody said racism itself is a system that can be gamed and that isn't what the term race card refers to IMO, so it's a misnomer. What can be gamed is taking advantage of personal and institutional fear of being accused of racism. Other people's fears can always be used to gain advantage. So if you admit false accusations happen, you are de factor admitting that they could potentially be used for personal gain of some sort, such as the examples given. Your claim is that such usage is not effective. It's irrational to believe there are no times when people back down or shut up because they don't want to be seen as racists. It can be very effective in shutting down debate, which is why it is often employed in threads like this one. Multiple people have accused the OP of being a racist based on nothing but her use of a term, totally ignoring that the OP isn't even white British, she's Hispanic. Fortunately, it has not been effective in this case because a number of posters have called it out as bullshit, but I have witnessed occasions when it has been effective. It totally depends on the people involved.
Even if it never worked, since it is something people do (which they wouldn't if it never worked) it can still be considered a card they play. Whether it's a winning card or not does not negate the reality that it has been played and likely will continued to be played by certain unscrupulous people. The term race card is a lazy way of expressing it, but tbf I can't think of a term which wouldn't be long and clunky, so it probably comes down to simple convenience in OP's case. I don't use it myself because it's been used by white supremacists.

Perhaps you're thinking more in terms of accusations being used for something more substantial, like beating out other applicants for a job or housing? I would agree that accusations of racism are not effective for a goal like that and that people assuming that is how a POC secured a job are undoubtedly racists.

I don’t know how many more times or how many more ways I can say it- this “benefit” privilege is entirely theoretical: hypothetical. It didn’t actually occur. There’s a very good reason for that.

And yes, I know he didn’t benefit in that way because @RhaenysRocks successfully fought it, but clearly many don’t challenge in the way she did, and do get away with it!

Had @RhaenysRocks not challenged his false accusation, the boy would have had relative impunity compared to other children, and have had more freedom and power to behave how he wanted. That’s a clear and obvious benefit for him… a privilege that his white counterparts wouldn’t have been able to obtain using similar tactics.