To think most men wouldn’t survive a year living the life of an average woman?

I wonder given that so many women on here can't cope without the DC for more than a couple of days, how they would survive being a long distance lorry driver and only seeing their kids for 1.5 - 2 days every week?

A 'weak' man will generally get trampled on in life. A lot of women don't really comprehend that.

Plenty of female bricklayers nowadays.

I've yet to see one in the 4-5 years I've been on construction sites daily. Two of those years I was delivering mortar directly to the brickies.

Why just men? I never got very painful periods and now my cramps are practically non-existent. The worst thing is the breast pain, but still perfectly manageable. I'd hate those simulators too. It's almost like you resent men not suffering enough, when it's far from the norm anyway.

Oil rig: no.
Manual job: yes.
Builder/bricklayer: yes if I’d had the training. Plenty of female bricklayers nowadays.

I see this argument with increasing frequency and it’s never from anyone who actually works at an oil rig.

Hmm, I'm not so sure about that. 'Men' hold the power as group but in reality it's a small proportion of men.

That homeless person freezing half to death in the winter is almost certainly a man. The individuals called up to war are mostly men. Sewage workers, binmen, manual labourers, etc. Admittedly women do most care jobs but the vast majority of dangerous and dirty jobs are done by men.

And despite the fact that it's frowned to 'live off a man', plenty still do. Men can't do that. They almost certainly have to work full time until their 70s. No going part time after you've had kids and then never returning to a proper career. And also being the vast majority of victims of violence etc and having to be 'competitive' in a different way to us to be taken seriously.

I think both sexes have their individual hardships but having to write the xmas cards every year is pretty low down the list IMHO.

no I wouldn’t

I hate this trope. My husband does far more than his fair share. Most men I know at least share the domestic load, and the ones that don’t are the product of mothers and wives that have enabled them to not be fully formed adults.

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The men in videos of period cramp simulators tell me all I need to know.

That would be the ones were they crank it up to 11?

I would love to see one were they put both the man and woman on one and then increase it gradually and see who taps out first.

Yes, my husband faffs and stressed endlessly about multiple presents for grown adults.

My parents want charity goats, get charity goats. Something for my niblings. Gifts for our son.

I do lots of stuff around Christmas, but it all boils down to "christmassy versions of stuff I was doing anyway" and I don't see any need for extra stress.

I'm a woman and I did a manual job for 30 years.
A quarter of farmers are women.
95% of grooms are women, 70% of the equine workforce are female.
My friend is a painter/decorator and volunteers on the local RNLI crew.
Not so long ago women worked down the mines.

During the war women worked the canals, were land girls and munitions workers doing long hours in factories. Men might have been on the front but if it weren't for women working like demons and looking after home and family at the same time the war might have ended another way.

We're not all wafting about in kitten heels wiping away tears with our ring fingers.

It is for you because that's what you prefer. Another person would suffer because they need to be out and about. Also, nothing stops him from changing his career to something that eases use of his shoulder. Just like women take jobs to work around kids.

Honestly I wouldn't survive a week living my husbands life - he's a tradie with a physical job, he has a fucked shoulder due to said job so is in constant pain, and he's self-employed so has to be nearly dead before he take a day off. My office job and monthly period is a piece of piss in comparison.

Because they received the good girl training as children. The onus is always on girls/women. First we train them to be good girls and once they enter the workforce they are all of a sudden expected to behave like men also or it will massively impact their salaries and careers.

When I was single-handedly raising my children they were clean and we had home-cooked meals around the dinner table every night, they did paid extra-curricular activities, they went to all the medical appointments they needed to, had friends over, and did well at school.

It took a lot of organisation at times and I'd have been screwed without my to-do lists and calendar. But as none of the day to day care seemed to require I have a vagina I managed fine.

You're assuming they would do it though. Many just wouldnt do it, so it doesnt get done

My OH doesnt do birthday or christmas cards for family, his own children. I used to do it and then stopped and said he needed to as its his family I dont expect him to do that for my family and friends. He doesnt do it. therefore his own children dont get birthday cards from him and grandchildren. Its just not on his radar

A lot of women have marta syndrom. They do things that don't need to be done.Then moan about doing them.

My 13yo DD has endured more pain and inconvenience just from her period in the last year than many men do at 30. We had a chat the other day about how most men are terrified of vasectomy because they have never experienced real bodily pain except from injury as children. The men in videos of period cramp simulators tell me all I need to know.

The women's network at my workplace offers confidence coaching to women. One day I will let rip what I think about this and get fired.

I have it pretty easy tbh. I opted out of relationships and motherhood (I suggest the constant moaners do the same!) as these were all options available to me. It's perfectly possible to lead a simple stress free life as a woman-if you want a man and family then obviously the type of thing you mention is what you sign up for. I'd much rather be a woman than a man though.

Agree with this.
Most women I know simply do not want husbands or partners to do things 'cause they would get it wrong'. Always say it a bit jokey but they mean it.
I have a bit of a do it later partner. I'm like 'fine' and go to bed. (and he does it) Others I know would be 'well I'll just do it then "and grump about it.

A year?

They'd barely last a week!

I don't have the husband part but I'd quite like to send men into work with regular periods. I'd also like so see them womansplained at, doubted what they say by women, having to work harder for promotions and so on.

I recently realised that I got rid of all the little admin stuff man at work try to assign to women but that I am still doing the mental load for them. Things like: I tell a coworker when I will be off and require cover and he simply responds with 'ok, I will be off after you'. Nothing else. Requires me to ask about dates, what needs doing etc. I'm going to figure out a way to stop this because I am sick of this shit.

You've been unlucky in that respect, my GP practices wherever I've lived have been overwhelmingly staffed by male doctors. The best doctor I ever had was female.

Yup. Mrs Shackleton did all the ironing on his boat trip.