Yes, you're right. By her logic @ThankYouNigels husband is not raising his own kids. But it's all double standards with her isn't it?
She calls post partum women pathetic for needing help with their toddlers, she says it's disgusting that women are swanning off to gasp the gym! And beauty appointments! While grandparents look after their children! You know she wouldn't bat an eyelid at fathers going to the barbers or the gym and she actually calls nurseries immoral.
It's all so clear that it's all about expecting women to be subservient once they become mothers, all a man has to do is work while a woman shouldn't even expect to get her hair cut until her baby goes to school four years later. It's misogynistic and totally absurd.
Although she calls women weak for needing a break from their own kids which she finds appalling, she overlooks the fact that she gets 30 hours a week break from hers, whilst having no pressure to work so can do as she pleases in that time and says that if she had to work and then do housework on top or god forbid, ask her husband to share the house work with her, it would put strain on her marriage. So she hardly sounds resilient herself. She just thinks it's wrong for women to not be everyone's maid and actually want things for themselves.
Just garden variety internalised misogyny.
And yes, @ThankYouNigel you are dependant on your husband, you only have the cushty life where you come and go as you please and have all the time in the world to ferry kids around because he bank rolls you. Nothing in life is free, you have to pay for it, and if he wasn't paying, you would have to actually work for a living. Working parents pay through the nose for their kids childcare when they aren't available to pick up at certain times or anything else, we certainly aren't relying on any free labour. We aren't dependent on grandparents and most working parents aren't, you just have a very narrow, negative view of them because you want them to be less than you to feel superior.