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To agree with the new guidance in Scotland to ban cake at nursery?

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AmericanMummmy · 01/08/2025 11:22

The new guidelines from the Scottish government are effective today (1st August) - among other food restrictions, cake should not be brought into nursery to celebrate a child’s birthday (or any other reason). The goal is to fight childhood obesity and promote healthy eating.

I’m totally in favour of this and don’t understand the backlash! Everything I read on this topic is about parents and staff thinking it’s a huge overstep and sapping all the fun out of life, like kids need cake to be happy. If parents want to feed their child cake outside of nursery, that’s completely their choice, but why does it need to be at nursery too? I allow my 3 year old to have sweet treats on occasion (such as birthday parties or holidays/weekend activities), but it drives me nuts when he’s being offered cake at nursery (several times a month), and it’s always at pickup right before dinner time. They give him lollies on most days too from what he tells me, it’s just too much sugar!

Am I the only one who agrees with this guidance? Are there not other ways we can teach children to celebrate that don’t involve ultra processed sugary treats? No judgement to how people parent - and I love sugary treats myself- but I want to teach moderation and show that there are plenty of other ways to celebrate.

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CatKings · 01/08/2025 20:02

Honestly this is ridiculous, this is exactly the time that cake should be eaten and always has been eaten.

Obesity is caused by the things that were occasion/special food being eaten constantly, not just on special occasions/rarely.

ive known a few people whose children are morbidity obese. DDs friend was eating whatever she liked whenever she liked, McDonald’s a few nights a week, other takeaways, packets of cakes. Denying her a single tiny piece at nursery would have made zero difference.
Pointless.

Coffeeandcrochet · 01/08/2025 19:51

TheNightingalesStarling · 01/08/2025 17:16

Ate they allowed to offer fruit and veg along side this?

To me the guidance itself isn't super clear but the sample menus further down do suggest serving a piece of fruit alongside so perhaps it's not quite as bleak as it first seems! I do know our nursery staff - who are uniformly wonderful - have been working their socks off to try to figure out how to implement the new guidance but still keep the food appealing enough that the weans will actually eat it.

ThyroidOnTheBlink · 01/08/2025 19:45

IcedPurple · 01/08/2025 13:56

All cultures, throughout history, have celebrations where people eat food which is more calorific and 'unhealthy' than the norm. What matters is what you eat every day, not what you eat on special occasions. Banning cake on children's bdays is draconian and vaguely dystopian.

I completely agree with you. A huge overstep and completely the wrong thing to focus on.

Kibble19 · 01/08/2025 19:35

I think many nurseries won’t take on the new guidance. You do have to wonder about a government who are like fascists when it comes to 3 year olds but somehow accept burger vans serving food to school kids.

As others have said, obesity doesn’t come from birthday cake at nursery.

What does come from it, in my experience, is a boost to the birthday child’s self esteem, a chance to feel special with their friends, a good example of sharing. I’m shocked that a parent would tell the nursery that their child shouldn’t have a bit of cake just because they’re so anal about health, imagine how that one child feels. Shit parenting, and far more damaging than an occasional square of cake with their pals, IMO.

Cheesetoastiees · 01/08/2025 18:02

No it’s a step too far. When I worked in childcare years ago it was a lovely social thing. Birthday child would choose a friend and a few others who had not had a chance to bake a cake. Then at snack they’d all sit together and sing happy birthday. They did this in most council nurseries in Scotland that I worked in.
It was lovely, the odd treat a couple of times a month at nursery is not a problem. It’s education in the home environment that really matters. Really nice for children who didn’t bake or parents couldn’t afford or wouldn’t get a cake and simply nice for any child. Scottish government are being far too heavy handed.

NoAprilFool · 01/08/2025 17:40

FunnyOrca · 01/08/2025 12:08

You might be very surprised be the rest of the guidance! 😬 The healthy eating guidance for Nurseries in Scotland is incredibly strict to the extent that when the children bake they should not even use honey or raisins for sweetness.

For me, the guidance makes sense that a lot of children have poor diets at home and should be offered the chance to explore healthy eating at Nursery. It stops making sense when it curtails learning experiences and hen they enter P1 they can eat yoghurt and chocolate filled pack lunches every day.

What the heck is wrong with yogurt??

needtostopnamechanging · 01/08/2025 17:36

Children are not fat from the odd bit of birthday cake

they are fat from generations now having no idea what a healthy diet looks like.

In a class of 10 kids - that’s cake every month on top of the cake and treats they get at home and from grandma - get enough kids and it’s cake every week which isn’t a treat it’s a habit

Kwamitiki · 01/08/2025 17:33

DD's nursery didn't allow cake. Instead they invited parents to provide fruit and they would make an amazing fruit 'cake' from it.

Unorganisedchaos2 · 01/08/2025 17:33

Children aren't fat because they have a piece of birthday cake, there's far more too it than that - in my experience they only get a tiny piece anyway

Differentforgirls · 01/08/2025 17:27

HerewardtheSleepy · 01/08/2025 11:57

You really cannot see that this is a step too far OP?

What business is it of the Scots government what a Scots parent feeds their child in a private nursery they pay for?

Don't you get your free hours?

Butchyrestingface · 01/08/2025 17:19

Coffeeandcrochet · 01/08/2025 17:08

The guidance goes well beyond birthday cake - as you can see from the excerpt (once it makes it through the image checker) it's pretty prescriptive. I agree something needs to be done about childhood obesity, I'm just not sure this is the best strategy.

And I suppose the adults who came up with this guidance are all nibbling away on their bi-annual rice cake, are they?

Soulless ghouls.

Butchyrestingface · 01/08/2025 17:18

Oh nose, willnae someone think of the weans eating a slice of cake a whole THREE times a month??

The lollies I would say are far more of an issue.

TheNightingalesStarling · 01/08/2025 17:16

Coffeeandcrochet · 01/08/2025 17:08

The guidance goes well beyond birthday cake - as you can see from the excerpt (once it makes it through the image checker) it's pretty prescriptive. I agree something needs to be done about childhood obesity, I'm just not sure this is the best strategy.

Ate they allowed to offer fruit and veg along side this?

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 01/08/2025 17:14

Coffeeandcrochet · 01/08/2025 17:08

The guidance goes well beyond birthday cake - as you can see from the excerpt (once it makes it through the image checker) it's pretty prescriptive. I agree something needs to be done about childhood obesity, I'm just not sure this is the best strategy.

I agree.
Dear God - what a joyless society we are becoming. What happened to the philosophy of everything in moderation?

DustlandFairytaleBeginning · 01/08/2025 17:09

My daughter hasn't ever had cake from/at nursery, so this seems a bit of an overreach? People share things for their kids birthdays- Hello Panda biscuits, party rings or something similar to take home. Sometimes little party bags with a few chewy sweets and some bubbles. That cake is considered a big enough problem to legislate is strange!

Coffeeandcrochet · 01/08/2025 17:08

The guidance goes well beyond birthday cake - as you can see from the excerpt (once it makes it through the image checker) it's pretty prescriptive. I agree something needs to be done about childhood obesity, I'm just not sure this is the best strategy.

To agree with the new guidance in Scotland to ban cake at nursery?
User79853257976 · 01/08/2025 17:03

Banning pudding every day yes, for the occasional birthday, too far.

DiscoBob · 01/08/2025 17:01

BarnacleBeasley · 01/08/2025 15:15

No it isn't - it normally has sugar in too. Nurseries can still serve fruit and natural yoghurt together. Our nursery never gave flavoured yoghurt in the first place, so there's no change there.

Ok then let them serve fruit and natural yoghurt. I would've thought they'd do that anyway. And the puddings wouldn't be highly sugared either. So a tiny bit of cake, or one small individual cake a couple of times a month shouldn't be outlawed.

BarnacleBeasley · 01/08/2025 15:27

FloofyBird · 01/08/2025 15:18

Just nursery? Just birthday cake? Weird, bizarre and an utterly pointless piss in the ocean imo.

Yes, just nursery because this is guidance issued by the Care Inspectorate which is responsible for nurseries. No, not just birthday cake - that is just a side effect of the comprehensive new guidance which is, on the whole, very good.

Ringosandskinnywhips · 01/08/2025 15:26

hub.careinspectorate.com/media/6013/setting-the-table.pdf

BarnacleBeasley · 01/08/2025 15:26

Radiowaawaa · 01/08/2025 15:21

I agree with you. It’s a start and might be the only time that children are being taught to eat healthy food.

They can still sing happy birthday and do all of the fun things, you don’t need a cake at nursery to feel special.

Out of interest, what are the primary and secondary (or equivalent) schools like for food in Scotland?

Primary are okay but not brilliant - they have free school meals for everyone from primary 1 to 5, so the kids are all getting the same. But the menus are a bit samey and a bit more 'kid food' than the nursery ones, and they're not so strict about nutrition. Secondary is an utter shit show as they just let the kids off school grounds to go and buy junk food every lunchtime.

x2boys · 01/08/2025 15:22

Bikergran · 01/08/2025 14:58

But it's not what a parent feeds THEIR child, they're feeding other people's children as well, and that parent may be trying really hard to feed their child a healthy diet. In my area of England, there have been dietary restrictions on what children can bring in their lunchbox in some of our local schools for years, (no nuts, choc bars or biscuits, no sweets, no fizzy drinks) and there's been no drama.

No they are not feeding other children other parents can just say no.

FloofyBird · 01/08/2025 15:22

Does anyone have a link to the wider guidance? It sounds like this situation is more complex than cake just being banned.

Radiowaawaa · 01/08/2025 15:21

I agree with you. It’s a start and might be the only time that children are being taught to eat healthy food.

They can still sing happy birthday and do all of the fun things, you don’t need a cake at nursery to feel special.

Out of interest, what are the primary and secondary (or equivalent) schools like for food in Scotland?

CopperWhite · 01/08/2025 15:20

My initial reaction to this was that it’s the sort of rule made up by fun sucking jobsworths, but actually I think there’s some sense behind it.

Whatever parents opinions are on this, it is an undeniable fact that childhood obesity is far too high so something has to be done. If children are being offered treats and cake from parents who want to send them into nursery more than once or twice a month, then it’s too much. I can remember there being a couple of times when my dc were at school that I have to avoid giving them treats I’d have liked to because they had already had cake and a packet of haribo.

Children can celebrate and acknowledge a classmates birthday without cake being involved. If parents want a big fancy centrepiece for the pictures, they can make something out of a watermelon.

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