Ring doorbell goes off continuously

Hmm1234 · 01/08/2025 21:37

SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 04:44

Neighbourhood kids - 2 families the kids are ringing doorbell from 11ish to 7/8 in evening. I put a note on door yesterday saying “child name can’t play today sorry” but the same kids came several more times to read the note. They didn’t ring bell but the notifications went off. I thought I was a genius putting a note on the door and my problem was solved but why are they checking same note so many times? If it says she can’t play today why will that change an hour or 2 hours later? After 6pm and I think the 8th alert on my phone I let DD play with them, I did speak harshly to the eldest one (10) yesterday and said I’ve told them all before that she’s not always home during the day but is free evening from 6pm onwards to which the child responded back “6pm is day time not evening” my dd chimed in and they all did too that I was wrong 😂 I felt I was in school again!

this is obviously affecting be as I’m up at this hour stewing over this incident and many others since the start of summer. My DD never knocks on anyone’s door as she’s too shy so if I do let her play during the day she just hangs around the gardens to hear if they are playing - the parents never get disturbed.

Can’t believe you put a note on the door telling them not to knock instead of speaking to them or parents directly. Strange behaviour

Jerseygirl2023 · 01/08/2025 16:04

SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 05:49

So you’re happy with kids coming into your property numerous times a day when you politely asked them many times in past few weeks not to come during the day as said child is in camp and parents working from home plus you’ve left a note on the door but they still keep coming into your property. Wow you have the patience of a saint.

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I was trying to be helpful Op. If they are not knocking on the door then change notifications and become oblivious to it. The way we all were before ring cameras.

ZenGarden89 · 01/08/2025 15:44

I have voted YABU for not being more assertive but I also feel sorry for you as this particular girl (who sounds like a weapon) obviously triggers you in some way and it’s terrible if it’s effecting your mental health.

You are probably unaware of it but you’re entrenched in a bargaining/negotiating/pushing the boundaries situation with a ten year old girl and you need to take back control. Writing notes, continually answering the door, repeating yourself ad nauseum and answering their ‘why’s’ are all simply fuelling a fire. It’s providing engagement, entertainment and they will not stop doing it based on your current responses.

You have already answered the door once today (I wouldn’t have come to the door and just spoken over the speaker) and you don’t need to engage any further. No notes, put notifications on silent and simply ignore. And so be it if they see you through the windows, it’s your own home and you can sit and work wherever you wish.

We have kids calling around constantly and I don’t mind in the slightest but when the kids are not here I’ll tell them once and then ignore the door. They all get the message!

You’re the adult and in order to alleviate your own anxiety you have to take a more proactive stance by no longer engaging with them. Once is enough. The other children sound nice and respectful but you have to stop letting this girl make you feel like this.

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 15:19

@liveforsummer not sure, maybe it’s due to him not hearing/not caring someone is at door. I can directly see front yard as dining table overlooks front driveway from kitchen window.

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liveforsummer · 01/08/2025 11:31

youve not answered why your DH, who you say yesterday was sitting watching tv, isn’t dealing with something that’s actually affecting your mental health while you are the one trying to work

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 11:07

brunettemic · 01/08/2025 11:04

Meh, agree to disagree then. As for disturbing your meetings, that’s laughable…just turn off the notifications or silence the chime, it’s literally there on your phone. I put my phone onto do not disturb for meetings all the time.

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That’s good point but I work in the kitchen. So I can literally see them from my dining table. I don’t have a study and don’t fancy doing meetings from my bedroom

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 11:06

Thank you all the ones who have understood where I’m coming from! You’ve really helped me this morning and some of you have made me laugh. This isn’t a small thing for me as it’s affecting my mental health, those lucky enough not to have experienced this I hope you do so you can see yourselves. Thank you all, have a lovely day

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brunettemic · 01/08/2025 11:04

SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 10:57

No I disagree. As I said other kids respect it I saw one little boy read the note and he didn’t return at all, same with the other kids BUT it’s the one kid who keeps checking the note - her sibling also comes with her and another little girl follows. If a younger boy can read the note and not return then this 10 year old should also do same and not keeps returning. If I don’t put up a note they will keep ringing and disturbing my meetings so what can I do. I don’t want her on my property when I’ve clearly written on the note there will be no playing today. As I’ve just posted earlier today I already told them she’s at grandparents but the same girl has returned! The other kids haven’t.

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Meh, agree to disagree then. As for disturbing your meetings, that’s laughable…just turn off the notifications or silence the chime, it’s literally there on your phone. I put my phone onto do not disturb for meetings all the time.

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 10:57

brunettemic · 01/08/2025 10:50

You put a note and they’re probably checking to see if you’ve changed it. Essentially you’ve created something for them to check to see if their friend can play. They’re kids and they think differently to you.

No I disagree. As I said other kids respect it I saw one little boy read the note and he didn’t return at all, same with the other kids BUT it’s the one kid who keeps checking the note - her sibling also comes with her and another little girl follows. If a younger boy can read the note and not return then this 10 year old should also do same and not keeps returning. If I don’t put up a note they will keep ringing and disturbing my meetings so what can I do. I don’t want her on my property when I’ve clearly written on the note there will be no playing today. As I’ve just posted earlier today I already told them she’s at grandparents but the same girl has returned! The other kids haven’t.

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brunettemic · 01/08/2025 10:50

You put a note and they’re probably checking to see if you’ve changed it. Essentially you’ve created something for them to check to see if their friend can play. They’re kids and they think differently to you.

pzzzzls · 01/08/2025 10:45

Shut the door and looked through the spy hole and she's there flipping me off with both middle fingers in my own front garden 😅

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 10:39

I feel I was a bit harsh. They said but we did t ring the doorbell. I explained the doorbell still alerts me. I wish I had said its private property.

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 10:37

Sheflippedmeoff · 01/08/2025 10:13

I've had to NC for this post, just in case because I've told numerous people 😆

My NDN kid, aged 6, always knocks on mine, numerous times a day. No matter how many times I say no she still comes, bang bang bang, bell bell bell, bang bang, you get it, it sends me from 0-100 with rage.

So about 2 weekends ago she knocked on for about the 6th time in an afternoon and I was a bit firm with her at the door and told her no, I said not today. She said why and I said because I said so!...
Shut the door and looked through the spy hole and she's there flipping me off with both middle fingers in my own front garden !🤣 I was fucking seething.

Anyway I got my DP to answer the door the next few times & he isn't as friendly looking as I am so I think she got the message and I've had quite a peaceful 2 weeks so far... 😆

That’s exactly how I feel! I get so angry! They just came now! I feel so silly - my legs are shaking as I’m so angry, I stayed calm and I said I told you yesterday she’s at grandparents. I then said why did u guys come 6 times yesterday after I left a note she can’t play today?

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TheGrimSmile · 01/08/2025 10:18

Just get rid of your ring doorbell- they're a bloody nuisance. It's the summer holidays. I think this is a nice problem to worry about, tbh. Your dd has lots of friends that want to play with her. That's sweet.

Santasbigredbobblehat · 01/08/2025 10:17

Do you have her carer’s number? Can you say your daughter is at camp today, but will be back at xxx time/day.
But don’t be afraid to be blunt, I can assure you that child will not be bothered.

Sheflippedmeoff · 01/08/2025 10:13

I've had to NC for this post, just in case because I've told numerous people 😆

My NDN kid, aged 6, always knocks on mine, numerous times a day. No matter how many times I say no she still comes, bang bang bang, bell bell bell, bang bang, you get it, it sends me from 0-100 with rage.

So about 2 weekends ago she knocked on for about the 6th time in an afternoon and I was a bit firm with her at the door and told her no, I said not today. She said why and I said because I said so!...
Shut the door and looked through the spy hole and she's there flipping me off with both middle fingers in my own front garden !🤣 I was fucking seething.

Anyway I got my DP to answer the door the next few times & he isn't as friendly looking as I am so I think she got the message and I've had quite a peaceful 2 weeks so far... 😆

Wingedharpy · 01/08/2025 09:54

Sounds to me like it's the trampoline that is the attraction rather than your wee girl.
Try adding "trampoline is broken" to your note.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 01/08/2025 09:40

SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 05:54

oh never mind I figured out how to do! I rather not to be honest incase I miss something important

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You won't miss anything important I promise you.

liveforsummer · 01/08/2025 09:26

If dd wants to play when she gets home, have you tried putting time on the note so they don’t need to keep coming back. ‘If you call round after 6.30 she will come out’. Or if DH is sitting about watching tv send him out. He might be less anxious about it all

RoseAlone · 01/08/2025 09:14

This really sounds like a you problem. Your tolerance for anything outwith your control or your own bubble sounds unreasonably limited.
I've worked from home for years and adapted long ago to neighbourhood noises, kids coming to the door etc. It really is only a problem if you allow it to be.

Maybe it's not the neighbourhood for you, perhaps somewhere isolated and completely detached might be better, but I'm guessing that wouldn't be right either and other things would bug you.

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 09:09

@Topseyt123 thank you!

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Topseyt123 · 01/08/2025 09:05

SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 09:02

thank you guys. She’s in grandparents today and I made sure I told them all yesterday. If they knock I’ll just remind them and keep reminding.

No. Just ignore the doorbell if it is them. They are getting a rise out of you always coming to the door, so just don't. Stop doing it. No matter how persistent they are, they will get bored and move on.

Topseyt123 · 01/08/2025 09:03

Lighteningstrikes · 01/08/2025 08:38

Fgs they’re kids.
Move and let your DD be lonely and unsociable like you.

What a ridiculous and unhelpful comment.

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 09:02

thank you guys. She’s in grandparents today and I made sure I told them all yesterday. If they knock I’ll just remind them and keep reminding.

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SuzieJ221 · 01/08/2025 08:59

Lighteningstrikes · 01/08/2025 08:38

Fgs they’re kids.
Move and let your DD be lonely and unsociable like you.

Are you okay? My DD is in camp! Do u want me to let them in and I’ll jump on the trampoline with them rather than do my job? Maybe I should keep DD at home and that way she can play all day with them and I can miss my meetings and not work as I have to keep looking in on her. She’s 7! I can’t get her to make her own lunch. But thank you great advice.

just to add yes I am bloody unsociable as I’m bloody working! I’m not going to invite the neighbourhood kids in and have them making noise when I’m trying to deal with serious meetings! Gosh you’re probably the mother of one of these brats.

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