To ask neighbour to close curtains

Neighbour is likely to forget on occasion so this may not be the best solution available. The stick on stuff on your windows is a guaranteed way to consistently ensure that your son can’t see our. Perhaps that is worth a try first.

If my neighbour asked this of me, I'd say yes with no issue. Why make other people's lives harder when we can help them with so little effort.

We have a very big window and tv but no curtains or blinds. There might be nothing they can do to help but you won't know if you don't ask them.

Actually, this post has changed my mind

I was concerned about more requests but I'd just cross that bridge when I came to it..
You're right, helping a struggling neighbour out for a week is easy.
Going to have a think about why my first response was negative and defensive thank you @Eerrnohun

🤣

Go and talk to the neighbour……explain the issue and ask her if she wouldn’t mind closing the curtains. She is probably oblivious of what’s happening and I’m sure, if you ask her she will oblige.

I’m a weirdo who sleeps with my curtains and blinds open so I’d struggle with this as I really hate closed curtains.
But I would try to help a neighbour out.

You’re not sorry though are you? And “my house my rules” is one of my least favourite mn tropes. It’s in the same vein as “I always speak my mind”.

OP I would do that if you asked. It sounds so stressful for you all, I hope you find a solution.

I think this is good advice I'd be happy if was asked to do for a fixed period to break a really difficult cycle but in the longer term I dont really like having my curtains drawn (we're not overlooked so they stay open all year round usually), and I'd struggle to remember.

OP, At risk of sounding totally patronising also wanted to say it sounds like you're doing an amazing job of navigating some really difficult parenting.

Jeez, that's way beyond salty and into actively hideous.

You're saying that if the exhausted parent of a disabled child asked politely and considerately for a very small favour that would make her life easier for half an hour a day, you wouldn't just exercise your right to say no, but would actively try to make her life worse?

People are being such weird arseholes here.

If my neighbour came over and asked if I could close my curtains for half an hour for a week to see if it helped my situation I’d have no issue giving it a try. Other than that I might just forget to close them.

OP has been clear if the neighbour refused she’d accept it. Asking someone for a small bit of help should be acceptable but nobody seems to give a shit about each other now.

I agree this is not your neighbour’s issue. The film suggested by others would address your current problem. If he peels off any privacy film your next option would be reglazing with frosted glass.

Some absolute arse holes on this thread, no need for it.

Ds has similar needs, trying to break these things isn't easy. Personally I wouldn't ask and would find my own solution but if you asked me I'd happily help you out.

Is it possible to move ds to another room? We had to do this with ds. Not easy that's for sure but solved the issue we had in the long run. Window film could help to break the cycle, im thinking more frosted window film. It's going to be hell for a while but hopefully it would break the cycle. Does he like sensory lighting, a distraction perhaps. Failing that external shutters.

Good luck!

YWNBU to ask, but your neighbour WNBU to politely decline.

I never shut my curtains until it is dark. It makes me feel gloomy and glum. And
I have a lovely view from my house and I like to see it, not shut it out.

I'm afraid if someone asked me to close my curtains before nightfall, I'd say no.

Most empathetic people will be fine with a request. Perhaps take a moment to ponder on why you’re calling the mother of a severely disabled child entitled. It’ll have more do to with you, than her.

I would say yes OP. It’s sounds so hard for you.

I’m sorry you’ve had some awful responses on here. I’ve been genuinely shocked at some of them.

You could always try reading the thread for that answer?

I suppose the only positive point from your post is at least you're honest about being a less than nice human

You need to solve yourself, external shutters are the answer, don’t ask someone else to solve when you can solve with no impact to anyone else.

Can’t you just buy those no drill shutters, and make a habbit of closing the curtains / blinds & shutters at 6:30 to prepare your home for relaxation?

I’m sure your neighbour will understand anyone with a heart would. Good luck 💐

It literally says in her post that he just opens them or finds a different window.

Honestly I’d likely forget and then go oh shit it’s 9pm was meant to close the curtains. So might just be easier for me to say no.

Would also be worried what other ask might come next too.

Asking is not dictating.

Jeez some people are very ungenerous to each other.

I'd say yes if asked