To not switch DSS’ bedroom?

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Vastimir · 31/07/2025 21:05

I have SDs, 13 and 12, and SS 9. We also have DD3.

We have recently moved to a four bedroom house. Master bedroom with en suite, big attic conversion with curtain down the middle (SDs), medium-sized room (DD) and a box room (SS).

SC are with us every other weekend and half the holidays. On the vast majority of the holidays we actually go on holiday or to stay with family, so they’re only really at this house on weekends.

SS wants the bigger bedroom because he’s older than DD. DH wants to draw straws or discuss it as a family. AIBU to just say no?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 31/07/2025 21:10

If she lives there full time then I think your current setup is fine.

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/07/2025 21:09

YANBU at all. A 9 year doesn’t dictate rooms, especially not one who stays 2 days a fortnight. As to drawing straws 🙄 What sort of doormat is your husband.

Ask DH why he doesn’t think your youngest who at 3 will spend their life playing with toys on the floor and only has one home shouldn’t have a decent sized room.

ShiverMeLogs · 31/07/2025 21:08

If they were all your biological children, would you be dividing the rooms up in the same way? I highly doubt it. Even if they also stayed at a dad's house some of the time.

Of course DD should get the box room. How much space does she need at 3?

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Vastimir · 31/07/2025 21:08

She’s 3, it’s in the OP.

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steelingmyself · 31/07/2025 21:07

How old is DD?

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