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How much alcohol for a 15 year old?

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Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

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Miyagi99 · 02/08/2025 18:41

phoenixrosehere · 02/08/2025 15:43

I remember being 15 and my parents never thought to give me alcohol to take to a party nor did I think to take alcohol to a party myself because there these things called laws and I didn’t want to get arrested if police were called or have been said to have brought alcohol in the first place.

My parents were aware of the possibility of there being alcohol at parties but trusted me to be smart and was told if I needed to leave or get home, to call regardless of the state I was in. Still didn’t take the chance nor was there peer pressure for me to do so.

It’s always been legal in the UK. In fact the law used to be even laxer in that 14 year olds could purchase alcohol themselves if they were also having a meal (we used to go to Pizza Hut regularly as 15 year olds and have a pint).

Encrochat · 02/08/2025 18:40

I disagree wth the ' they will get it anyway'
make it HARD for them to do so

CeeJay26 · 02/08/2025 18:39

Ohdearwhatnow4 · 31/07/2025 20:32

I personally would rather have control and either buy alcohol pops or premixed drinks. But only a couple.

Agreed! We’ve all been teenagers - they get hold of harder stuff if they really want to. A few premixed drinks or low vol pops would be my suggestion.

i suppose it could depend on the child and their friendship group though.

Miyagi99 · 02/08/2025 18:38

Cheswick · 02/08/2025 15:13

May I ask for the source of information please?

I just double checked and according to gov.uk (alcohol young people law) its illegal for under 16 to consume or purchase alcohol. The OP DD is 15, isn't she?

To purchase, not to consume.

Jhigs · 02/08/2025 18:36

We are a Muslim family so no alcohol for us

Dramatic · 02/08/2025 18:35

TheFunDog · 02/08/2025 18:21

My son went to a party at 16. Unknown to me he took a litre bottle of vodka from the house thinking it was smirnoff ice like his older sister sometimes drank.
(the vodka had been in house for years brought back from holiday).
We weren't drinkers at all.
Anyway he consumed most of it... Neat...
By the time I was summoned and arrived he was deathly pale and unconscious... One of his mates had done first aid and had put him in the recovery position, as he was vomiting... Probably saved his life.
Ambulance called and he was blue lighted to nearest hospital.
He survived and still doesn't drink many years later!

What I discovered was he nor his mates understood the alcohol proofs system.
So he assumed a pint of neat vodka was the same as a pint of beer...

So at least teach them the basics....
I wish you all luck with your teenagers.
They're a tricky breed! 😂 😂

Wow! I'm surprised he managed to force it down, it must have tasted awful

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Greenalien1 · 02/08/2025 18:32

1 can of something weak. They will only try and get it from somewhere else otherwise.

dca860 · 02/08/2025 18:32

Miyagi99 · 02/08/2025 18:29

Its legal for children to drink at home in the UK.

You're a very dull parent. They will get alcohol one way or the other, so get with their development rather than fight it and then lose a battle.

Ilovelurchers · 02/08/2025 18:30

I'm a pretty liberal mom, but also not keen on alcohol (several years sober myself).

I was recently a little shocked when my 13 year old informed me that at a pre-party party she was given prosecco AND vodka, and the hosting mom was aware...

I wouldn't give spirits to my own teenager, let alone someone else's!

In this case, I would try to find out what the deal is with the party, who will be bringing what, what level of supervision is in place, and go from there.

But my general rule (about sex, drink, drugs, smoking, everything) is to be as non judgemental as possible and teach my daughter how to explore these things safely, because repressive parents are never successful in stopping these things, they only ever provoke their teens to try them in less safe ways. I am 100% confident that this is the case.

dca860 · 02/08/2025 18:30

That depends on what you usually allow them in household, and from that you will have an idea of their tolerance.
Try to get them to take beer, rather than liquor and get a brand that's 4.5% or less alcohol
Full them up with food nervous they go.
A 6 pack of 250ml bottles is ample if they've prrvioydly had alcohol at home

Miyagi99 · 02/08/2025 18:29

Riverswims · 01/08/2025 12:55

None
and I’d call social services on the parents

Its legal for children to drink at home in the UK.

Encrochat · 02/08/2025 18:26

Rewis · 02/08/2025 18:19

Went a a wonderful party in Lyon when I was 16. Let's just say the French kids were not enjoying a civilised glass of Bordeaux.

this made me die dead 😂

currentlybrunette · 02/08/2025 18:26

Four cans of lager or cider or four of those little 5% cocktails you can pick up in Tesco. That’s obviously assuming they won’t have access to a lot more so they don’t get horrendously drunk.

Miyagi99 · 02/08/2025 18:25

4 stubbies.

Rewis · 02/08/2025 18:23

Wasn't there a study that showed parents giving alcohol to minors increased adolecent alcohol use and increased alcohol related problems?

TheFunDog · 02/08/2025 18:21

My son went to a party at 16. Unknown to me he took a litre bottle of vodka from the house thinking it was smirnoff ice like his older sister sometimes drank.
(the vodka had been in house for years brought back from holiday).
We weren't drinkers at all.
Anyway he consumed most of it... Neat...
By the time I was summoned and arrived he was deathly pale and unconscious... One of his mates had done first aid and had put him in the recovery position, as he was vomiting... Probably saved his life.
Ambulance called and he was blue lighted to nearest hospital.
He survived and still doesn't drink many years later!

What I discovered was he nor his mates understood the alcohol proofs system.
So he assumed a pint of neat vodka was the same as a pint of beer...

So at least teach them the basics....
I wish you all luck with your teenagers.
They're a tricky breed! 😂 😂

Rewis · 02/08/2025 18:19

Ddakji · 02/08/2025 18:13

My parents did this. Didn’t stop me from drinking to excess a fair amount through to being a heavy drinker in my mid-20s to mid-30s.

The difference being of course that regardless of what British parents do, Britain’s drinking culture isn’t that of France or Spain.

Went a a wonderful party in Lyon when I was 16. Let's just say the French kids were not enjoying a civilised glass of Bordeaux.

Encrochat · 02/08/2025 18:17

someone always come out wiht the. ' in France ' shit
I can tell you that it falls differently here: kids think ' oh my parents let me so it is ok'

Also France has an increasing problem with alcoholism so go figure

PalePinkPeony · 02/08/2025 18:14

Some of the posts on this thread are absolutely hilarious. It’s so odd how different people seem to operate on completely different cultures and universes within such a small geographical area!

Ddakji · 02/08/2025 18:13

Mokel · 31/07/2025 20:50

Those who said none. Do you realise that in mainland Europe, such as Spain, France and Italy, the families introduce alcohol to their kids in small quantities with meals?

My parents let me have a very small glass of sherry, wine and sweet spirits as a kid. There is a photo of me aged 3 drinking a creme de menthe. The introduction to alcohol at a young age, made me appreciate alcohol. Only threw up once due to drinking too much alcohol. Some 18-25, do this on a weekly occurrence.

At 15, I drank alcohol at friend's homes, with their parents. Think we were limited to 2 cans of Carlsberg. None of us got drunk, caused damage etc.

My parents did this. Didn’t stop me from drinking to excess a fair amount through to being a heavy drinker in my mid-20s to mid-30s.

The difference being of course that regardless of what British parents do, Britain’s drinking culture isn’t that of France or Spain.

ShallIstart · 02/08/2025 18:13

I thinknwe had tbe bacardi breezers at that age, that kind of thing. Possibly I would get them 4 or something. Or some kopparbergs. Something weak and fruity.
Ideally none but lets be realistic, zero tollerance isnt going to work. We were raiding the spirits cabinets and being sick at that age and it wasnt ideal. Sensible allowance I think is the way to go.

Rewis · 02/08/2025 18:10

None. I kinda feel like the teenager sourcing it themselves and doing it in secret is part of growing up if they want to (belive it or not, not all 15 year olds are drinking) I wouldnt want to make it too easy, accessible and normalised.

I also don't belive if you give a teenager one cider, they would stick to one cider. And if you give none, then they would get off the rails.

GoldenGail · 02/08/2025 18:09

I wouldn’t encourage a 15 year old to drink

caringcarer · 02/08/2025 18:08

None.

Atina321 · 02/08/2025 18:05

None. My 17 year old has never been to a party with alcohol - it isn’t something they even consider in her friend group.

Seeing your best friends Dad die of a heart attack due to alcoholism tends to do that to young people.

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