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How much alcohol for a 15 year old?

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Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

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Sometimeswinning · 02/08/2025 20:23

I’d tell my kids not to tell me about their parties. I’d also let them know to call me at anytime and if they come home drunk we’ll move on from it.

Im not encouraging it. I think it’s stupid but all that makes me a massive hypocrite. However, I was way more savvy imo.

LarkspurLane · 02/08/2025 20:18

ItsAllTooMuch4Lisa · 02/08/2025 20:11

Nothing
its illegal
its irresponsible
it’s dangerous
it’s a fast track to a social care referral

The social care thing has come up a few times.
I have a 15 year old DS and parties are full of alcohol (pure luck rather than anything else that alcohol does not interest him yet) - do you really think that social services are going to be interested in that?

Jhigs · 02/08/2025 20:16

dca860 · 02/08/2025 19:58

It's not a sin to drink alcohol in the UK. A breach of your religious views is entirely different.
Goodness, I detest all this religious nonsense.
The imagination just amazes me.

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I teach my children that it is a sin. I've explained all the damage it has caused and why we don't drink it. There's many good reasons

ItsAllTooMuch4Lisa · 02/08/2025 20:11

Nothing
its illegal
its irresponsible
it’s dangerous
it’s a fast track to a social care referral

19lottie82 · 02/08/2025 20:04

dca860 · 02/08/2025 19:22

Not always the case with muslims, and your response doesn't really help the OP

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I think you must have misunderstood the OP. The question was “how much alcohol would you let your 15 yo take to a party?” This was answered.

Mjin · 02/08/2025 20:02

I have children all 40-50 now. At 15 they were all bright, thoughtful people. They wouldn’t have asked me about taking alcohol to a party, they would just have done it, and I’d have just trusted them.
Seems to me there is an awful lot of molly coddling going on here.
PS None of my children are alcoholics!

dca860 · 02/08/2025 19:58

Jhigs · 02/08/2025 19:35

Then they are being sinful. We do not drink alcohol and we teach our children not to as well.

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It's not a sin to drink alcohol in the UK. A breach of your religious views is entirely different.
Goodness, I detest all this religious nonsense.
The imagination just amazes me.

nalione · 02/08/2025 19:47

Mix her up some punch youll know how much alcohol is in it. Put it in a large water bottle to tell her dont drink from anyone else cause other people can nasty and they might spike her drink. That

Lndnmummy · 02/08/2025 19:36

Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

This is a joke right?

Jhigs · 02/08/2025 19:35

dca860 · 02/08/2025 19:22

Not always the case with muslims, and your response doesn't really help the OP

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Then they are being sinful. We do not drink alcohol and we teach our children not to as well.

nalione · 02/08/2025 19:35

At that age id say none. However if everyone else has drink then she'll end up drinking theirs
Mix her up a punch in a large It will seem like alot but thats the idea. Only youll

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 02/08/2025 19:25

Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

My 15 year old gets 0% beers on the odd occasion and is quite happy with that

Skybluepinky · 02/08/2025 19:23

Zero, as you aren’t supervising them.

dca860 · 02/08/2025 19:23

Dancingsquirrels · 02/08/2025 19:11

None

I don't want to condone under age drinking or be a "cool mum"

This isn't about trying to be a cool mum, so why point the finger at the OP?
It's about being realistic worth teenagers, and it sounds like you're kidding yourself.
Far better to be in control as a parent than be naive. Regulate it, don't close the door.

Simbadaninja27 · 02/08/2025 19:22

Absolutely none

dca860 · 02/08/2025 19:22

Jhigs · 02/08/2025 18:36

We are a Muslim family so no alcohol for us

Not always the case with muslims, and your response doesn't really help the OP

Sunaquarius · 02/08/2025 19:17

Teenagers will find a way to drink, older siblings and friends will buy it for them or they'll nick it from parents spirits cupboard.

I suppose the benefit of buying it for them is that you have control over what you give them. Spirits can be drunk too fast and lead to alcohol poisoning more easily than something with more volume, but you can easily become ill on wine or beer as well.

I just think teenagers are going to do what they're going to do.

I don't know if I'd buy them any or not but I'd warn them about drinking too quickly, drinking on an empty stomach, and what to do if you or a friend is throwing up, and regretful decision making that comes with alcohol but the biggest lessons are learned through experience and I imagine they'll toss my advice aside and try everything anyway.

3 years time they can drink as much as they like anyway.

Mossey55 · 02/08/2025 19:12

NONE

Dancingsquirrels · 02/08/2025 19:11

None

I don't want to condone under age drinking or be a "cool mum"

CairnTerriersRule · 02/08/2025 19:07

NONE

Encrochat · 02/08/2025 19:06

these anecdotes miss the facts that
A) they are kids with developing brains
B) booze is sweeter and stronger now than in the past
C0 they are not supervised by adults who can get help
d) You don't know of existing health concerns/addictive nature of other kids who are drinking the ( admittedly lets face it) poison you are giving your kids

Encrochat · 02/08/2025 19:03

a bottle of rose is nore than an ADULT shiould have fgs

Ineednewcurtainsandblinds · 02/08/2025 19:03

A four pack of weak pre mixed drinks or cider. Big meal before they went.
They are going to try alcohol, banning it makes it all the more enticing. My parents were fairly relaxed about it, therefore it was never a big thing for me. For my friends whose parents were really gung ho “NO” it was a big deal and most of them ended up in a mess at some point.
Same when I went to university. I could take or leave a drink. Those who had parents who had strictly controlled it got shedded all the time.
Did the same for DD and now DGD, had no problems.

Isthismykarma · 02/08/2025 18:59

Either a bottle of rose or 4 alcopops.
I was going out in town at 16 with all my mates so find it shocking some people say none at 15

Tigergirl80 · 02/08/2025 18:56

Ladamesansmerci · 31/07/2025 23:47

Lol at all the people saying none. Most teens at some point drink underage. It's far better to try and teach a healthy attitude towards alcohol and know it what they're having, than risk them going crazy and getting someone older to buy them a whole bottle of vodka.

I'd personally get them a couple of VKs or two weak ciders 🤷

Idk what childhood y'all were living on this thread, but I vividly remember girls bringing vodka disguised as water on school trips, and people drinking frosty jacks in fields. Teens have been drinking underage since the dawn of time.

There is a difference between encouraging it Vs letting your child and their friend have can of cider whilst supervised in the house.

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VK is disgusting 🤢🤮I can’t drink it. I did used to drink WKD and Smirnoff ice. But found out how much sugar is in 1 bottle.

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