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How much alcohol for a 15 year old?

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Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

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Serenesage · 03/08/2025 21:11

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Serenesage · 03/08/2025 21:11

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dca860 · 03/08/2025 21:06

verycloakanddaggers · 03/08/2025 20:40

The source you quoted supports what I'm saying and reflects the research: 'The safest option for young people is an alcohol-free childhood'. Childhood ends at the 18th birthday.

It also says they should wait until at least fifteen - that's the earliest and is clearly not recommended.

The piece you've quoted supports all I've said - it's healthiest not to drink because all alcohol is harmful.

Seriously, you're being rediculous. Sugar is harmful, butter is harmful. Etc etc
Much of the danger from alcohol is from change in behaviour, and misjudgement of situations, not the direct medical implication.
Like the article says, at 15 in moderation, the harm implication is minimal. As is life in general.
If you cut out everything that has an element of health impact from its participation, you're being rediculous. Be realistic about our kids, ams help them along the road instead of trying to wrap them in cotton wool. BTW, the age is 18 is set because they have free choice at that age (and it's the law for purchasing), not because they're suddenly immune from alcohol effects!

Lurina · 03/08/2025 21:04

WinnerwinnerGinfordinner · 03/08/2025 20:32

Well I was buying a litre of vodka from the off licence at that age so ......
I'd say a few cans of cider or pre mix cocktails. However my just turned 16 year old has a few friends coming round and ive asked him if he wants me to buy another bottle of rum as the one he likes is almost empty so I'm probably not the best person to give my opinion as I'm buying spirits for mine 😂
If parents are there I dont see the issue. I've always let my kids drink at home so they've tried it in a safe environment rather than going out and doing it anyway. None of them have ever drunk very much as once they start to feel a bit tipsy they stop and I feel happy that they will be sensible drinkers when at parties etc.
All these people saying nothing have shocked me but then I'm a pretty chilled parent as long as they talk to me and tell me what theyre doing (which they always do as they know I'm chilled about things, I wonder what all these kids get up.to behind their parents back because they're scared of them!)

Kids aren’t scared of me 😂

They just don’t go partying yet (mid-teens) and if they were I wouldn’t be buying them alcohol. I wouldn’t let underage teens have it at a party at my house either,

verycloakanddaggers · 03/08/2025 21:02

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:19

Oh dear oh dear. YES, I KNOW drinking nothing is 'better' than drinking regularly (and that goes for all ages), but the harm to a teenager of 15 is insignificant and that's a fact.
The very first Google AI search brought this up, so I'll not bother looking further.
Counter all you wish, but this is from a creditable source and pretty much directly responds to the OP.
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Edited

Edited to add: posted two similar things in error, apologies!

The piece you've quoted says it is better not to drink alcohol at all.

The piece doesn't say harm is 'insignificant' - that's your personal view. Harm will vary person to person.

The piece doesn't say it is healthy to start drinking alcohol at 15 - because it isn't.

KaleQueen · 03/08/2025 20:56

Here’s a sobering read for you
www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/north-east-news/north-tyneside-mum-alcohol-prices-20704454.amp

Lassofnorth · 03/08/2025 20:56

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BlueMum16 · 03/08/2025 20:53

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:40

It's absolutely not illegal. I don't know where you got that from (they're not ordering at the bar in a pub here!)
Your choice for your child, no problem

It absolutely is illegal to buy a child alcohol.

https://www.gov.uk/alcohol-young-people-law

verycloakanddaggers · 03/08/2025 20:40

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:19

Oh dear oh dear. YES, I KNOW drinking nothing is 'better' than drinking regularly (and that goes for all ages), but the harm to a teenager of 15 is insignificant and that's a fact.
The very first Google AI search brought this up, so I'll not bother looking further.
Counter all you wish, but this is from a creditable source and pretty much directly responds to the OP.
***

Edited

The source you quoted supports what I'm saying and reflects the research: 'The safest option for young people is an alcohol-free childhood'. Childhood ends at the 18th birthday.

It also says they should wait until at least fifteen - that's the earliest and is clearly not recommended.

The piece you've quoted supports all I've said - it's healthiest not to drink because all alcohol is harmful.

WinnerwinnerGinfordinner · 03/08/2025 20:32

Well I was buying a litre of vodka from the off licence at that age so ......
I'd say a few cans of cider or pre mix cocktails. However my just turned 16 year old has a few friends coming round and ive asked him if he wants me to buy another bottle of rum as the one he likes is almost empty so I'm probably not the best person to give my opinion as I'm buying spirits for mine 😂
If parents are there I dont see the issue. I've always let my kids drink at home so they've tried it in a safe environment rather than going out and doing it anyway. None of them have ever drunk very much as once they start to feel a bit tipsy they stop and I feel happy that they will be sensible drinkers when at parties etc.
All these people saying nothing have shocked me but then I'm a pretty chilled parent as long as they talk to me and tell me what theyre doing (which they always do as they know I'm chilled about things, I wonder what all these kids get up.to behind their parents back because they're scared of them!)

Lurina · 03/08/2025 20:30

Screenager · 03/08/2025 20:15

OP, mumnets is batshit crazy most of the time… this thread proves that! I’d rather my dc be brought up with a healthy outlook on alcohol, most people drink it. Most teenagers certainly do. I’d rather know about it than them sneak being my back… at least then I can keep them safe.

Back to original question… 4 pack of cider seems sufficient.

Teenage drinking (or at least binge drinking) seems to vary a lot by country. Unfortunately the UK isn’t included in the link below but it’s interesting all the same.
https://www.euronews.com/health/2024/02/17/binge-drinking-rate-in-adolescents-is-double-that-of-adults-in-europe-its-worse-in-these-c

I think 15 is far too young to be okaying alcohol consumption at parties. I’m not in the UK though.

Which countries in Europe have the highest rates of underage drinking?

Which countries in Europe have the highest rates of underage drinking?

More than a third of adolescents in the EU reported heavy episodic drinking, twice the number of adults. It's a major issue in one country in particular.

https://www.euronews.com/health/2024/02/17/binge-drinking-rate-in-adolescents-is-double-that-of-adults-in-europe-its-worse-in-these-c

Screenager · 03/08/2025 20:15

OP, mumnets is batshit crazy most of the time… this thread proves that! I’d rather my dc be brought up with a healthy outlook on alcohol, most people drink it. Most teenagers certainly do. I’d rather know about it than them sneak being my back… at least then I can keep them safe.

Back to original question… 4 pack of cider seems sufficient.

Lurina · 03/08/2025 20:14

None!

dca860 · 03/08/2025 20:02

Jhigs · 03/08/2025 19:47

I eat whatever is halal.

Driving a car and riding a bike actually have a purpose, to get you from A to B. Alcohol damages you and just makes you "feel good"

Is that journey necessary (car or bike)? Or is it recreational transport? For enjoyment?
I actually enjoy many types of alcoholic drink. Don't you?

Danikm151 · 03/08/2025 19:48

It’s not illegal for a 15 year old to drink in a private premises.
The law on alcohol for under 18s applies to public premises.

How much alcohol for a 15 year old?
Jhigs · 03/08/2025 19:47

dca860 · 03/08/2025 18:43

Hahaha, and sustain from those delicious meals with the red content warnings, or stop driving a car, or riding a bike. HAZARDOUS! I suspect you live a somewhat sedate life!
Good luck 👍

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I eat whatever is halal.

Driving a car and riding a bike actually have a purpose, to get you from A to B. Alcohol damages you and just makes you "feel good"

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:40

BlueMum16 · 03/08/2025 19:35

Or my child would not drink at 15 in another person's care

It's illegal and unsafe.

It's absolutely not illegal. I don't know where you got that from (they're not ordering at the bar in a pub here!)
Your choice for your child, no problem

BlueMum16 · 03/08/2025 19:35

dca860 · 03/08/2025 18:25

But nothing in this suggests this is a random party. It is being supervised by another parent. If you don't trust them, then clearly, your child stays home!

Or my child would not drink at 15 in another person's care

It's illegal and unsafe.

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:24

But it doesn't, that's where your wrong.
Type this in to Google search
"at what age is it safe for a child to drink alcohol in moderation"
Tyke AI search result is as creditable as they come!

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:22

AngelRoja · 03/08/2025 18:59

It's a party. The parents will probably be upstairs and maybe pop in from time to time. I wouldnt be too happy about it.

So how do you know that? Big disrespectful assumptions. If you don't trust the parents, your kid doesn't go; simple!

dca860 · 03/08/2025 19:19

verycloakanddaggers · 03/08/2025 18:45

You are repeatedly posting incorrect information, you can't ask people not to respond.

You gave your kids alcohol, that's your choice.

But all the research says the same - the less a person drinks, the better. The older they are before they first drink, the better.

Oh dear oh dear. YES, I KNOW drinking nothing is 'better' than drinking regularly (and that goes for all ages), but the harm to a teenager of 15 is insignificant and that's a fact.
The very first Google AI search brought this up, so I'll not bother looking further.
Counter all you wish, but this is from a creditable source and pretty much directly responds to the OP.
***

How much alcohol for a 15 year old?
Lemniscate8 · 03/08/2025 19:03

dca860 · 03/08/2025 18:22

Oh please. That's just narrow-minded. Wake up!

no, that is what all the research shows - look it up

AngelRoja · 03/08/2025 18:59

dca860 · 03/08/2025 18:25

But nothing in this suggests this is a random party. It is being supervised by another parent. If you don't trust them, then clearly, your child stays home!

It's a party. The parents will probably be upstairs and maybe pop in from time to time. I wouldnt be too happy about it.

verycloakanddaggers · 03/08/2025 18:45

dca860 · 03/08/2025 18:30

Well clearly we read from different sources. Either way, we bring our kids up in the best way we can. Mine were both allowed to have alcohol before the magical age of 18, and both grew up to appreciate the positive side of drinking alcohol and thankfully continued to moderate it.
No point in disagreeing any more, as we are unlikely to see eye to eye.

You are repeatedly posting incorrect information, you can't ask people not to respond.

You gave your kids alcohol, that's your choice.

But all the research says the same - the less a person drinks, the better. The older they are before they first drink, the better.

dca860 · 03/08/2025 18:43

Jhigs · 03/08/2025 18:33

And if you abstain from it completely it doesn't do you any damage. No need to willingly consume a poison and and intoxicate yourself because "it feels good".

Hahaha, and sustain from those delicious meals with the red content warnings, or stop driving a car, or riding a bike. HAZARDOUS! I suspect you live a somewhat sedate life!
Good luck 👍