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How much alcohol for a 15 year old?

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Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

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LimeQuoter · 02/08/2025 14:21

Zero

Widower2014 · 02/08/2025 14:11

Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

Depends, is he/she responsible
Also as the child is underage, are you prepared to deal with police or social services if it happened

AmpleQuoter · 02/08/2025 14:10

Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

15 is too young to be drinking; however, if they're part of social circle dabbling in alcohol, they're going to do it, whether you want them to or not. Teens are inventive. They'll find ways to get their hands on alcohol and drink behind your back. IMO, this is worse than supplying them booze because they'll drink irresponsibly and against your knowledge. So, my advice would be to provide a few alcopops. Nothing harsh or strong, just something to include them in the dynamics without them feeling left out or peer pressured whilst they're there. That way, you are aware of what's going on, and it will discourage them sneaking around.

Mummyto7lovelife · 02/08/2025 14:06

0 none

Loz2323 · 02/08/2025 14:03

Dramatic · 31/07/2025 20:29

If your 15 year old was going to a party (supervised by parents at the house) how much alcohol would you allow them to take with them?

Absolutely none! Why on earth would you allow a 15yr old to take any alcohol

tuvamoodyson · 02/08/2025 13:38

None.

ConcernedOfClapham · 02/08/2025 13:10

I could handle much more at 15 than I can now at 51 😔

PalePinkPeony · 02/08/2025 12:48

Rosscameasdoody · 01/08/2025 19:58

It’s OK to drink at a private house at 15, but there are several posters saying that the same is true in a restaurant, when accompanied by a meal. This isn’t correct. To drink on private restaurant premises you have to be aged at least 16, having a meal, accompanied by an adult who is buying the alcohol, and it’s restricted to either wine, cider or beer.

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But not on private property where the OP’s child will be going in this case

namechangeGOT · 02/08/2025 12:43

Riverswims · 01/08/2025 12:55

None
and I’d call social services on the parents

Hahahahaha!! That’s it love you waste the valuable time and resources of SS and maybe it’ll only be a small delay that a kid like Arthur Labinjo Hughes will have to suffer, sure they won’t mind. Pathetic.

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Dramatic · 02/08/2025 10:39

neverband · 01/08/2025 19:55

What does your child's mother think?

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I am my child's mother?

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Cinaferna · 02/08/2025 07:20

None. At that age I made cocktails and offered alcohol free beer and nosecco and coke and diet coke. Some probably smuggled booze in but I didn't supply it for them. Buy her a couple of pretty cans of alcohol free cider or mocktails in a tin.

livelovelough24 · 01/08/2025 20:43

justanotherdrama · 31/07/2025 23:16

There was a situation near us where there was a party at a house and a teenager became unconscious after too much drink, the kids were all 14/15 the parents were there and ambulance was called, as were the police and social services

it’s illegal so why on earth would anyone facilitate this?

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Thank you for saying this.

Rosscameasdoody · 01/08/2025 19:58

PalePinkPeony · 01/08/2025 18:56

How is drinking on a private property at 15 illegal? It isn’t at all!

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It’s OK to drink at a private house at 15, but there are several posters saying that the same is true in a restaurant, when accompanied by a meal. This isn’t correct. To drink on private restaurant premises you have to be aged at least 16, having a meal, accompanied by an adult who is buying the alcohol, and it’s restricted to either wine, cider or beer.

neverband · 01/08/2025 19:55

Dramatic · 01/08/2025 09:55

Maybe, I don't think my experience was particularly out of the norm though.

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What does your child's mother think?

PalePinkPeony · 01/08/2025 18:59

19lottie82 · 01/08/2025 17:32

Hmm hard one. Ideally they wouldn’t be drinking but if their social group is already at it then you’re best handling this realistically.

Id make sure they had a good stodgy meal and send them off with 2 or 3 cans of pre mixed cocktail and instructions to drink a glass of water before and after each one.
Better that than sticking your head in the sand while they neck straight vodka.

Absolutely this.
My DD is nearly 16 and all but 1 Muslim girl in her wide social group (50-70 people) drink at parties. We life in a nice part of the SE.
Doesnt mean they have to get off their face- a couple of mixer cans is enough but there is usually sprits there as well and if boys are going lots and lots of beers and spirits. Rather than saying your not going, I prefer the talking and introducing slowly and controlled - after all she will be 18 in 2 years

OneFunBrickNewt · 01/08/2025 18:58

A glass of wine or two.

PalePinkPeony · 01/08/2025 18:56

raspberrysparkles · 01/08/2025 17:19

Hmmm seems a few people think drinking is a norm at 15 years of age … as mentioned it is illegal, interferes with brain development, increases likelihood of dependency in later years, more likely risk of harm when under the influence and also there are no benefits. It is a poison hence the flavours that are added to disguise the taste. 375ml of neat alcohol is lethal. I appreciate that some teenagers will drink … but I would never encourage.

How is drinking on a private property at 15 illegal? It isn’t at all!

Brokeandold · 01/08/2025 18:08

None! Our 15 year old DD takes a can of coke,
Alot of her friends now drink, vape, put some kinda tobacco thing on their inner mouth lips(?) theres quite a bit of throwing up at these parties, thats the reality of it
I’ve told her not to drink, vape, I know about peer pressure tho so i expect shes tried it, she appears sober, cant smell alcohol on her when i pick her up. We have 2 older boys , the teenage years are hard but they fly by, soon be 18 and off somewhere? )
I worry about the effect booze has on their developing brains at 15, i realise that from age 18 she can do what she likes….

19lottie82 · 01/08/2025 17:32

Hmm hard one. Ideally they wouldn’t be drinking but if their social group is already at it then you’re best handling this realistically.

Id make sure they had a good stodgy meal and send them off with 2 or 3 cans of pre mixed cocktail and instructions to drink a glass of water before and after each one.
Better that than sticking your head in the sand while they neck straight vodka.

CantDecorateWontDecorate · 01/08/2025 17:25

Riverswims · 01/08/2025 12:55

None
and I’d call social services on the parents

Yep, SS will fly over in a car going née naw, nee naw to arrest the parents (for doing nothing illegal) and save the children from such horrors as a party in their teens.....
Or, alternatively they might be too busy trying to get toddlers out of faeces covered homes or homes with drug paraphernalia all over the floor. Perhaps they might be trying to get and older girl out of a home where she is being SA by a family member? Can you see the difference? SS won't give a toss about a few teens having a house party!

LarkspurLane · 01/08/2025 17:23

Riverswims · 01/08/2025 12:55

None
and I’d call social services on the parents

What do you think social services would do?

raspberrysparkles · 01/08/2025 17:19

Hmmm seems a few people think drinking is a norm at 15 years of age … as mentioned it is illegal, interferes with brain development, increases likelihood of dependency in later years, more likely risk of harm when under the influence and also there are no benefits. It is a poison hence the flavours that are added to disguise the taste. 375ml of neat alcohol is lethal. I appreciate that some teenagers will drink … but I would never encourage.

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gigthenfishdelish · 01/08/2025 16:51

I send them with a couple of premixed cans. Otherwise you risk them drinking the neat vodka that will invariably be there...

Redburnett · 01/08/2025 16:45

None. 15 is far too young.