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Backlash after DP proposed on pre-Wedding holiday

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Westendgoer · 31/07/2025 20:19

I got engaged last month - DP proposed whilst we were on holiday prior to my friends Wedding. The holiday was in the same resort, but we went over a week before the wedding date as it was somewhere we’d always wanted to visit so made sense to combine the two.

I have had comments made by a couple of friends - not the bride - that this was a bit out of order and could have over shadowed the Wedding. I haven’t relayed to my DP, I don’t want it to taint the experience and personally I don’t see the issue with him proposing in the circumstances.

Do you agree with me that my friends have overreacted?

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User890976 · 31/07/2025 20:23

Depends how/when the news was shared

Crunchymum · 31/07/2025 20:23

Depends.

Did you getting engaged overshadow the actual wedding? IE did you start telling people at your friends actual wedding?

I'm totally and utterly agog at some of the bridezilla behaviour I read on here and I'm usually always on the opposite bridezilla side but there is something a little bit off about your partner proposing "at" someone else's destination wedding. Unless you were there independent of the bridal party?

I'm not explaining it very well but if you were at the resort as part of the bridal party on an extended stay with bride and groom then it just seems a little bit thoughtless? This is just my unmarried musing.

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Westendgoer · 31/07/2025 20:22

MrsTerryPratchett · 31/07/2025 20:21

Did you tell everyone at the reception?

If not, and the bride doesn’t care, you’re good.

We only knew my friendship group there and all knew after the proposal as I was excited and shared a photo with them. We didn’t go around shouting it at the reception!

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B1anche · 31/07/2025 20:22

Yes as long as you didn't stand up and announce it at the reception, it should.not be an issue.

MrsTerryPratchett · 31/07/2025 20:21

Did you tell everyone at the reception?

If not, and the bride doesn’t care, you’re good.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 31/07/2025 20:20

Your friends are dicks