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To think I do have muscular arms?

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Chronicworrier123 · 31/07/2025 20:07

DH keeps saying they're not as muscular as I think but that I definitely have been able to remove my "bat wings" .

I feel like what he says is true, but also that I do have muscle!

I'm also aware they could.be more defined, but probably need to.lose more body fat for that.

To think I do have muscular arms?
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DollydaydreamTheThird · 01/08/2025 21:11

Chronicworrier123 · 01/08/2025 08:25

I'm doing Hyrox! But to be fair to my husband I do tell him constantly that I feel like I already look too muscular and that's it not a look I necessarily like (I have broad shoulders and a masculine face).

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Just do what feels right for you then, you know your body. Don't take any shit off him though. I'll come round and sort him out. 😂

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Chronicworrier123 · 01/08/2025 08:25

DollydaydreamTheThird · 31/07/2025 23:05

You look fab OP. I'm thinking your husband is doing the usual man tactic of trying to lower your self esteem so you don't leave him for someone who will actually be nice to you.
I absolutely hate how men feel they have the right to comment on our bodies. They can fuck right off. I'm older now but some of the things ex's said about me at a young age really stuck in my conscious mind. I don't remember ever telling them what was wrong with their bodies( believe me there was a lot). I certainly wouldn't cop for it now. I'd tell them to get to fuck.
To reiterate you look great and you should be proud of yourself. Don't let him rain on your parade. When are you signing up for gladiators? 😁

I'm doing Hyrox! But to be fair to my husband I do tell him constantly that I feel like I already look too muscular and that's it not a look I necessarily like (I have broad shoulders and a masculine face).

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DollydaydreamTheThird · 31/07/2025 23:05

You look fab OP. I'm thinking your husband is doing the usual man tactic of trying to lower your self esteem so you don't leave him for someone who will actually be nice to you.
I absolutely hate how men feel they have the right to comment on our bodies. They can fuck right off. I'm older now but some of the things ex's said about me at a young age really stuck in my conscious mind. I don't remember ever telling them what was wrong with their bodies( believe me there was a lot). I certainly wouldn't cop for it now. I'd tell them to get to fuck.
To reiterate you look great and you should be proud of yourself. Don't let him rain on your parade. When are you signing up for gladiators? 😁

bindin · 31/07/2025 23:00

This is MNs though so unless you look like a young Arnie someone will criticise you.

bindin · 31/07/2025 22:57

That is muscle to me. Like pp I am tall with long limbs & just dont really build muscle. I did years of dancing as a dc too.

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Chronicworrier123 · 31/07/2025 22:55

Tgat was in February. I only do Peloton strength workouts

To think I do have muscular arms?
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saveforthat · 31/07/2025 22:45

ExercicenformedeZ · 31/07/2025 22:16

Wow, that's rather rude.

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Not really rude IMHO. If you post pictures of yourself half naked on an anonymous forum you could get a lot worse.

Spaglasagneaise · 31/07/2025 22:44

Theres muscle in the bicep sure but i dont think these would be "muscular arms"

as someone above said an unflexed arm would have shape and definition. Your shoulders and triceps especially would be a lot rounder.

ELS20 · 31/07/2025 22:39

Your biceps are really big! You should be super proud of those! I work out everyday and I don’t think mine are as big!

YourFairCyanReader · 31/07/2025 22:35

Can you share your routine? What you started with and what you do now? I'd love to have arms like yours!

NorthXNorthWest · 31/07/2025 22:33

Depends on your definition of muscular.

IMO. Not in that picture. Muscular arms have shape and definition when unflexed.

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Chronicworrier123 · 31/07/2025 22:28

ShowOfHands · 31/07/2025 22:26

Your dh probably needs an eye test.

Are you at the point of being horrified by the price of weights yet? I remember buying 30kg dumbbells to progress my workouts in lockdown and nearly had to sell one of the dc.

My 13yr old DS has started working out with me recently and he is making ridiculous gains. It's very annoying.

I buy them from Argos. Gym Sets UK have pretty decent deals too

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Proteinpud · 31/07/2025 22:28

I think people's perception of what 'muscly' is has got really distorted due to the fitness trends. The examples we see online are usually extreme in terms of genetics, muscle definition, how lean - if you compare someone who was considered ripped twenty years ago, eg Brad Pitt in fight club, these days people would think he's pretty skinny/scrawny!
I think you look fab btw, and the hard work is paying off!

ShowOfHands · 31/07/2025 22:26

Your dh probably needs an eye test.

Are you at the point of being horrified by the price of weights yet? I remember buying 30kg dumbbells to progress my workouts in lockdown and nearly had to sell one of the dc.

My 13yr old DS has started working out with me recently and he is making ridiculous gains. It's very annoying.

Glitchymn1 · 31/07/2025 22:25

Yea they are muscly, toned tum too!

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Chronicworrier123 · 31/07/2025 22:24

ExercicenformedeZ · 31/07/2025 22:16

Wow, that's rather rude.

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I don't have a six pack, but I do have visible obliques which are abs.....

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ExercicenformedeZ · 31/07/2025 22:23

ThatLoudBear · 31/07/2025 22:20

No, it's not. OP has a fantastic physique, but those aren't visible abs. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Why did you feel the need to say that? On a thread which is about OP's husband belittling her gains, you then go and do the exact same thing.

ThatLoudBear · 31/07/2025 22:20

ExercicenformedeZ · 31/07/2025 22:16

Wow, that's rather rude.

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No, it's not. OP has a fantastic physique, but those aren't visible abs. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ExercicenformedeZ · 31/07/2025 22:16

ThatLoudBear · 31/07/2025 22:14

Possibly bad lighting, but you don't have visible ab definition.

Wow, that's rather rude.

ThatLoudBear · 31/07/2025 22:14

Possibly bad lighting, but you don't have visible ab definition.

Getitgirl · 31/07/2025 22:13

Yes, you have muscly arms.

You also have a husband with dubious judgment of your body. I would lean into the likely reasons for his negativity rather than trying to understand what your physique is/isn't. On a gut level you must know he's talking bollocks, surely.

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Chronicworrier123 · 31/07/2025 21:35

Thanks ladies! I sometimes wonder if he's jealous! Those are my abs for reference

To think I do have muscular arms?
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NeverAlways · 31/07/2025 21:13

you've got big muscles compared to me!

Ineffable23 · 31/07/2025 21:07

Gosh I have got to the point where I think I have muscle-y arms and they are way less muscled than yours. Your DH is talking nonsense.