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It's not "passed" or "passed away", it's "died"

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SherlockHolmes · 31/07/2025 19:32

So sick of this euphemism being used everywhere. It's not factual - no one has passed anywhere, they're dead.

I get it if it's someone close to you and you can't bring yourself to actually mention death, but it's being used in news reports etc. Utterly ridiculous.

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RedPony1 · 01/08/2025 08:58

BookishBabe · 31/07/2025 19:38

I hate "unalived".
I know some people find it triggering, but its a serious topic, anyone who is discussing it will know what you mean and the severity of the action. "Unalive" just makes it sound less than it is.

"Unalived" is used on social media platforms like TikTok to stop people getting banned from talking about death....

Dangermoo · 01/08/2025 08:52

doodleygirl · 31/07/2025 23:08

Before my lovely mum died a few months ago I would have agreed but at the moment I just can’t say the word, died. I can write it but not say it out loud.

❤️ 🫂

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vodkaredbullgirl · 01/08/2025 08:46

Typical OP has not come back.

FluffykinsTheFerociousFeralFelineFury · 01/08/2025 08:43

PaddlingSwan · 31/07/2025 19:58

Totally agree.
Whenever I see that someone has "passed" I wonder what they have passed. Wind, water, the salt?

I get a mental image of the deceased sitting on the lavatory.

Laughandleaveit · 01/08/2025 08:25

Elbowpatch · 01/08/2025 08:16

To me, “passed on” or simply “passed” makes a bit more sense than “passed away” when referring to someone who has passed on to the next life.

Unalived raised an eyebrow at first but now I know the reasons behind it, that seems reasonable too.

I really couldn’t care less. Whatever people are happy with themselves is fine by me. They are all “correct” words or terms in the context of their use.

Exactly. Should've just said "what she said"😀

Jackiepumpkinhead · 01/08/2025 08:24

BopItWinner · 31/07/2025 20:42

Are you the same poster who started this exact thread last week and got deleted?

I think so. They were quite vile on it too.

Laughandleaveit · 01/08/2025 08:23

I think people should use what they feel comfortable with and other people should respect that.
Also, some people consider passing /passed away as the equivalent or passing over as in passing over to the other side if that's what they believe.

Elbowpatch · 01/08/2025 08:16

To me, “passed on” or simply “passed” makes a bit more sense than “passed away” when referring to someone who has passed on to the next life.

Unalived raised an eyebrow at first but now I know the reasons behind it, that seems reasonable too.

I really couldn’t care less. Whatever people are happy with themselves is fine by me. They are all “correct” words or terms in the context of their use.

clarepetal · 01/08/2025 08:13

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 31/07/2025 19:39

I think people who are grieving should use whatever language helps them.

Can’t stand language policing around this sort of thing.

Thankyou for this. It's taken me years to be comfortable to refer to the fact that my lovely dad has died.
If you don't like the fact I may have used the phrase "he passed away" annoying then you can fuck right off. My grief, my way to deal with it.

saraclara · 01/08/2025 08:07

To be fair to OP, she mentioned news reports, and I don't think the TV and radio news should shy away from using the 'correct' word.

Having said that, for a long time, BBC news would announce a famous person's death by saying "Joe Blogs is dead" which even I found pretty bleak. It also felt oddly disrespectful, as it took the action away from the deceased, in my mind. It seems to me much better to say "Joe Blogs has died"

Yachties · 01/08/2025 07:36

Agree

Radionowhere · 01/08/2025 07:34

You seem nice OP 🙄

Tablesandchairs23 · 01/08/2025 07:22

Why do you care so much. Calm down.

wearyourpinkglove · 01/08/2025 07:20

I think it's ok for someone to say "passed away" about a loved one but it's not ok for health care professionals or news readers to say it as they should use the correct terminology for clarity.

Willyoujustbequiet · 01/08/2025 00:54

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 31/07/2025 19:39

I think people who are grieving should use whatever language helps them.

Can’t stand language policing around this sort of thing.

This.

It's perfectly fine and an odd thing to get worked up about tbh.

Howdoesithappenlikethis · 01/08/2025 00:49

I hate people using the term passed away, always have

Vitrolinsanity · 31/07/2025 23:42

I think you follow the bereaved in the language you use. I’m in favour of died, but I’d never say that if I gauged the person preferred a different term in their grief.

taybert · 31/07/2025 23:30

Euphemisms for death bother me too and this thread has prompted me to wonder why. I think in the most part it’s because they are ambiguous and can cause confusion but when I really think about it, it’s probably because the existence of a euphemism usually means something is shameful or embarrassing or needs to be hidden. The culture in the uk isn’t great with death. Bereaved people are often isolated because people feel worried about what to say or do- so they avoid saying or doing anything. It feels like the use of phrases to avoid saying that someone has died sort of feeds that belief that death is a subject to be avoided at all costs. So I think that’s the real issue, it just supports the idea that death is a taboo, which is really unhelpful to people experiencing bereavement.

GanninHyem · 31/07/2025 23:28

I don't even think you know what you're frothing about tbh. You're crying about it being not factual but say it's ok if it's a close relative? It doesn't change it being "not factual" (despite it being a well used phrase for dying but ok..)
What are you actually angry about?

And the crew moaning about the use of unalived, this is, the vast majority of the time, used when refering suicide and social media will ban / delete videos or posts using the correct wording, but again people have to whinge their tits about something

Stravaig · 31/07/2025 23:24

707girl · 31/07/2025 23:00

Ooh, I might cause trouble here but I love the African use of 'late', like they're just around the corner!

Mine can feel very much like that, especially in the first year or two, but even now sometimes, many years after he died 😆

mindingmyown37 · 31/07/2025 23:23

unalived Is a stupid word too.. say what it is…. Depending on the context, it’s dead or killed. Like why complicate the term. I don’t use the term passed away. I’ll always say died. Im not religious, but I used to hear catholics say this more than anyone. Like someone has passed on to another life… not 100% sure that’s true though.

Tryingtokeepgoing · 31/07/2025 23:23

Gowlett · 31/07/2025 19:40

I’n okay with passed away, but not passed. Died is best.

Passed away certainly grates less than passed, but can we also add ‘lost’ to the unhelpful euphemisms around death?

I realise this is going to sound hypocritical, but when my husband died I definitely used ‘passed away’ in the first few months as the word ‘died’ was too difficult to say. It might even have been a couple of years before I could say he’d died without struggling. Even though if you’d asked me before he died I would have had no, just use died! I never used passed though; it just sounds twee, to me. But everyone is different.

I won’t stand for lost though, and I didn’t at the time. I haven’t lost him, I know exactly where he was / is. He’s just not alive.

steff13 · 31/07/2025 23:18

The post that was created on this last week got deleted. But I will say the same thing then that I say now: let people say with their comfortable with. It's not for you to decide what's right for other people to use.

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