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To ask what little joys you find in life?

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PeapodBurgundy · 31/07/2025 19:32

I've got myself into a little rut of self pity and can't seem to get myself out of it. Objectively things are tough at the moment, but I find myself jumping to the negative in everything, which isn't helping matters.

My usual go-to pick me ups genuinely are off limits for a period of time, but I know this will pass and things will start to fall back into step again.

I need to start focusing on the positives more. What little things do you see/do that give you that little moment of joy or satisfaction?

Today's 'happy' has been the TAAT of the batshit AIBU threads some people have posted. I could be much worse!

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PeapodBurgundy · 31/07/2025 19:43

Cupofteaandabiccy · 31/07/2025 19:41

The sun is out and my kids are happy.
cup of tea out of a nice mug.
I rescued a swift from inside today and got to hold it while it shook itself out and flew off. Like holding magic.
menopause means I don’t need to wash my hair every day
i always try to list five good things before bed. Hardy ever don’t find them. Always helps.

I bought a journal a while back with a view to noting down the positives, and steps I could take to manage the negatives. Again, I have done nothing with it. I will make the effort to start that today.

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SortYourselfOut · 31/07/2025 19:42

My 3pm hot drink with a biscuit (or two 😁)
a quick nana nap
going for a walk

TimothyIsNotAnArmardillo · 31/07/2025 19:42

Clean sheets
Listening to the geese honking as they fly overhead
Making a little bit of an effort with meals - bagels, cream cheese and salmon for breakfast.
The dogs absolute delight in being given a treat or new toy
Our boiler has been playing up but was fixed yesterday so a hot shower was blissful.
This one sounds weird but taking pictures of the sky - I have an Instagram account of sky pictures - makes me stop and look and see the beauty
Walking barefoot on grass or the beach
Tidying My house. I’m naturally messy, so this summer am making a real effort to declutter and tidy. I’ve only done two rooms so far but it’s giving me huge pleasure and I’m looking forward to living with less

Cupofteaandabiccy · 31/07/2025 19:41

The sun is out and my kids are happy.
cup of tea out of a nice mug.
I rescued a swift from inside today and got to hold it while it shook itself out and flew off. Like holding magic.
menopause means I don’t need to wash my hair every day
i always try to list five good things before bed. Hardy ever don’t find them. Always helps.

PeapodBurgundy · 31/07/2025 19:40

InSpainTheRain · 31/07/2025 19:38

My first coffee each morning
My kids making me laugh
A good book
Deep cleaning a room and tidying it - then enjoying it

I downloaded a new cleaning app to track my jobs, and have done nothing with it. I will put it on the agenda for tomorrow when we get home. Tidy house, tidy mind and all that :-)

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PeapodBurgundy · 31/07/2025 19:39

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 31/07/2025 19:35

When the weather is hot I often buy a four-pack of ice creams for me and DD (about £1, and cheaper than two individual ice creams). I give away the other two to the first two people we meet on the way out of the shop. DD is happy, two random people are happy, and I feel happier for improving someone else’s day a little bit.

This is an excellent idea. We have plans for a picnic in the park tomorrow. We can walk into the village the the Heron and do this while we're out. What a nice thought.

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PeapodBurgundy · 31/07/2025 19:38

taxidriver · 31/07/2025 19:33

flowers
my dog
the birds
something good on the TV

I did buy a new bird feeder a couple of weeks ago, I only watched it for about two days. I really should make the effort to sit out a bit and enjoy it. The fresh air will do me the world of good as well instead of festering inside

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InSpainTheRain · 31/07/2025 19:38

My first coffee each morning
My kids making me laugh
A good book
Deep cleaning a room and tidying it - then enjoying it

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 31/07/2025 19:36

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 31/07/2025 19:35

When the weather is hot I often buy a four-pack of ice creams for me and DD (about £1, and cheaper than two individual ice creams). I give away the other two to the first two people we meet on the way out of the shop. DD is happy, two random people are happy, and I feel happier for improving someone else’s day a little bit.

Love that! Going to do that!

NeuroSpicyCat · 31/07/2025 19:35

First coffee of the day

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 31/07/2025 19:35

When the weather is hot I often buy a four-pack of ice creams for me and DD (about £1, and cheaper than two individual ice creams). I give away the other two to the first two people we meet on the way out of the shop. DD is happy, two random people are happy, and I feel happier for improving someone else’s day a little bit.

taxidriver · 31/07/2025 19:33

flowers
my dog
the birds
something good on the TV

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