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Those who don't decorate but wear designer

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OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:20

AIBU to think those who choose to not properly decorate their homes but wear designer clothes/beauty treatments have their priorities wrong? Is it a class thing?

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SouthernNights59 · 01/08/2025 22:05

frozendaisy · 01/08/2025 12:59

Sorry ladies this isn't exactly what curating means. Not to diss an argos or second hand sofa, that is all perfectly fine, but curating it is not! :-)

If you wanted to truly curate a room, I guess, at a push, you would research each piece of furniture, the designer, when and where it was made, you would move through the room with a definite plan of how to best display the design classics of the time in relation to each other, there would be at the very least tentacles of unity between pieces, same age but different countries, same designer but from different eras of their career, the art and 3D pieces, lampshades, door handles and such like would all link to the common idea, hence bringing a sense of completeness and education of a particular design or age to the room and being able to impress, I guess, your guests, or show a passion and hopefully they leave with a deeper understanding of the influence of your chosen pieces on that particular time, reflecting social and commercial developments of that time and place.

Painting a new build's living room walls, buying a sofa and throwing in some pretty cushions is not curating. You might get away with it if you are using modern, designers, acknowledge in their field, reflecting society today with pieces that will stand the test of time, but this is very difficult, as it's not an exact science to know which pieces will come to reflect the 21st 20s.

It was a joke - aimed at the OP's nonsensical post and her pretentions of grandeur. Don't take everything so seriously.

Mochudubh · 01/08/2025 18:45

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 01/08/2025 10:19

It is not!

I have two cats, and my elderly neighbour, who is from the East Coast of Scotland, calls them The Broon One and The White One.

Ah, I thought something like that was more likely. I was thinking of the twin hillforts in Angus, the Brown and White Caterthuns.

www.historicenvironment.scot/visit-a-place/places/brown-and-white-caterthuns/

As you were.

Your cats are cute, though.

angieloumc · 01/08/2025 13:21

I think you’re showing exactly how ‘classy’ you are OP. I’m glad I don’t know you in real life.

TeeBee · 01/08/2025 13:03

I find my life is immeasurably better when I keep my nose out of other people's priorities and focus on my own. Everyone can orchestrate their own life as they see fit.

frozendaisy · 01/08/2025 12:59

SouthernNights59 · 01/08/2025 06:18

I bought mine from a second hand shop - is that curating?

Sorry ladies this isn't exactly what curating means. Not to diss an argos or second hand sofa, that is all perfectly fine, but curating it is not! :-)

If you wanted to truly curate a room, I guess, at a push, you would research each piece of furniture, the designer, when and where it was made, you would move through the room with a definite plan of how to best display the design classics of the time in relation to each other, there would be at the very least tentacles of unity between pieces, same age but different countries, same designer but from different eras of their career, the art and 3D pieces, lampshades, door handles and such like would all link to the common idea, hence bringing a sense of completeness and education of a particular design or age to the room and being able to impress, I guess, your guests, or show a passion and hopefully they leave with a deeper understanding of the influence of your chosen pieces on that particular time, reflecting social and commercial developments of that time and place.

Painting a new build's living room walls, buying a sofa and throwing in some pretty cushions is not curating. You might get away with it if you are using modern, designers, acknowledge in their field, reflecting society today with pieces that will stand the test of time, but this is very difficult, as it's not an exact science to know which pieces will come to reflect the 21st 20s.

IJWMM · 01/08/2025 12:55

Blimey, someone is very obviously bored 😂

frozendaisy · 01/08/2025 12:43

@SomeOfTheTrouble bet there were some rooms that were a struggle just like everyone's house, but guests don't get to see those!

frozendaisy · 01/08/2025 12:43

SomeOfTheTrouble · 31/07/2025 22:26

Randomly, I’ve been to Michael Heseltine’s house! Very nice it is too.

Details? :-) find any state secrets?

neverband · 01/08/2025 10:42

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:29

Painting walls and buying decorative items

Sounds petit bourgeois

DeanStockwelll · 01/08/2025 10:24

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 19:45

@Kirbert2 people who have bought homes have to decorate and most are paying a lot more then council rent

So not only do you look down at people that don't decorate , sorry curate, there homes to your standard you also look down on people that rent from council or HA.
. How about those that rent privately or have been lucky enough to inherited a house , where are they on your snobbery scale ?

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 01/08/2025 10:19

Mochudubh · 01/08/2025 10:09

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne

Totally off topic but I'm intrigued by your username. Is it a reference to Iron Age Hillforts by any chance?

It is not!

I have two cats, and my elderly neighbour, who is from the East Coast of Scotland, calls them The Broon One and The White One.

Those who don't decorate but wear designer
Those who don't decorate but wear designer
Ted27 · 01/08/2025 10:13

@Thingyfanding

I have both dado and picture rails - original features in my house

Mochudubh · 01/08/2025 10:09

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne

Totally off topic but I'm intrigued by your username. Is it a reference to Iron Age Hillforts by any chance?

TunnocksOrDeath · 01/08/2025 09:07

Yes, it is a class thing. Actual posh people can afford to decorate using very high quality materials which wear very well, and have solid furniture that lasts forever, so their stuff will be dated. Refreshing your home decor frequently is viewed in some circles as being a bit Hyacinth Bucket.
Refer to Alan Clark's comment about Michael Hesseltine being an arriviste who "Has to buy his own furniture" or The late Princess of Wales' brother saying that his stepmother's renovation of Althorp had "the wedding cake vulgarity of a five-star hotel in Monaco.".
But buying designer clobber is also viewed as an investment, since some people think you get better quality clothes if you pay more for them, though I don't think this is always the case, personally.

WearyAuldWumman · 01/08/2025 08:59

Bubblesgun · 01/08/2025 07:09

@OceanStorm
i do both. I curate my home (thats my job) and clothes (not necessarily designers).

but you come across as incredibly arrogant.

as long as the home is clean, i dont care about the decor at all. And the way they dress. Again as long as it s clean.

it s about making real connection with real people.

i hope you re not my friend because I i ow you d be judging me 🤣 and if you are I hope you are genuinely liking my family otherwise move over and dont bother.

you re so judgmental i dont know where to start!

The mantra when I was a child in the '60s was: "So long as it's clean and paid for!"

WearyAuldWumman · 01/08/2025 08:57

Jennps · 31/07/2025 21:18

Look at all the faux naivety on this thread.

oh but what a properly decorated house.

But whatever do you mean by designer gear and not decorating your house.

Surely a nicely painted wall is not more important than cheap and tacky brands or talon nails.

People know exactly what you mean OP. People who live in houses which look neglected, sometimes even dirty but will be wearing cheap looking false eyelashes, hair extensions and brands to show off.

I really don't see fake lashes, talon nails, etc counting as "designer".

BMW6 · 01/08/2025 07:55

AllTheChaos · 31/07/2025 18:48

What on earth does ‘curating’ furniture mean?!

"Absolute Wanker"

HTH 😁

Serpentstooth · 01/08/2025 07:22

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:20

AIBU to think those who choose to not properly decorate their homes but wear designer clothes/beauty treatments have their priorities wrong? Is it a class thing?

I don't do either of those things OP, I've got other concerns. Classify me if you must.

Thingyfanding · 01/08/2025 07:13

Wingedharpy · 31/07/2025 18:30

Does my woodchip wallpaper count OP?
It is painted magnolia!

Only if you have a dado rail
All coming back into fashion actually..

Bubblesgun · 01/08/2025 07:09

@OceanStorm
i do both. I curate my home (thats my job) and clothes (not necessarily designers).

but you come across as incredibly arrogant.

as long as the home is clean, i dont care about the decor at all. And the way they dress. Again as long as it s clean.

it s about making real connection with real people.

i hope you re not my friend because I i ow you d be judging me 🤣 and if you are I hope you are genuinely liking my family otherwise move over and dont bother.

you re so judgmental i dont know where to start!

echt · 01/08/2025 06:36

"Curating". Up there with "sourced" for pretension.

SouthernNights59 · 01/08/2025 06:18

Fancyfencepost · 31/07/2025 19:13

Does buying my sofa from the Argos catalogue count as curating? Chose it specially!

I bought mine from a second hand shop - is that curating?

lovepets · 01/08/2025 06:15

@OceanStorm Just because I don’t judge, it doesn’t me I don’t feel judged!! That’s why it affects me! You looking down on the likes of me really doesn’t feel good! I do have feelings! Genuinely, what difference does it make to your life if people don’t decorate to your tastes, but wear designer clothes?
The question should be, why does it affect you?! Is that seriously all you took from my post? Did it nt make you think?
If you feel uncomfortable in their ‘not to your taste’ (un)decorated homes, refuse their invitation. How can you be so shallow?

Nataliaa · 01/08/2025 04:25

You would never know what the inside of my
house is like, as I would hope when my friends come round my house, they are coming to see me, and not rate my painting and ‘decorative furnishings.’ 🙄 Who is actually letting you in their home? Do you always judge your friends and family like this?

Lucyweeks · 01/08/2025 04:08

WigglesMadness · 31/07/2025 20:03

Low blow for the OP who is one of those people who have to buy their own furniture!

This was my mother's favourite Alan Clarke? saying.