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Air Bnb has ruined my life

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itsafan · 31/07/2025 16:57

There is literally no way out of this situation 😢 other than for us to give up our jobs and relocate in the hope that we can find new jobs and a place to live. There are literally no other rentals available in the area even if we could afford the rents. A mortgage is out of the question as we would need at least a hundred grand deposit.
There are at least 1000 properties listed on Airbnb within a 5 mile radius, many of them would be ideal but the rents on them are extortionate and aimed at tourists we are talking at least a grand a week.
We have lived here for years in a residential complex (well before Airbnb and booking even got popular) we have jobs here and friends here and a life here. It is on the whole fine for 9 months of the year mainly local people living around us who all respect that we are living and just trying to survive.
Then the Airbnb people turn up and every week it’s new people above us below us next to us. The noise is horrendous and probably the worst problem. Being woken at all hours with people rolling suitcases along floors, lifts going up and down, shouting in the corridors and doors banging. It just goes on and on like this for months.
My anxiety with it all is now so bad that I’m having to take medication. The noise just feels constant.
Do people even realise when they are booking Airbnb that these are people’s homes that they are disrupting? Why don’t people go to hotels anymore ?
So yeah there is a huge housing crisis due to the airbnb situation and I’m just a small person in a situation that I can’t change other than to leave somewhere I call home. I suppose my AIBU is am I being unreasonable to feel like a company has ruined my life ?

OP posts:
samthepigeon · 01/08/2025 10:25

Simonjt · 01/08/2025 06:29

@itsafan before airbnb was a thing we used other website marketing holiday properties, cottages4u, holiday villas etc. I’ve been doing it since about 2007.

Exactly.

Many of the properties on Air BandB are also advertised through other companies too. I am staying in one shortly that was on several platforms.

Crikeyalmighty · 01/08/2025 10:21

I think it needs to be banned in any areas with ‘a lot ‘ of tourism - I would ban it here in Bath, in fact most of the south west - or put a limit on it in terms of numbers- you have to be licensed and no more than xxx number with a radius etc - same in Lake District, London, Devon/cornwall etc - it’s an absolute menace and given that renting is needed by many due to house prices in many parts of the country, we simply can’t afford for potential rental stock to be depleted in this way . Mind you I would ban second homes too

samthepigeon · 01/08/2025 10:19

Livelovebehappy · 31/07/2025 23:17

225!!? That’s far more than what I thought. Absolutely bonkers. What are they going to use when they run out of hotels? Probably holiday parks.

The asylum seekers that are housed in hotels are waiting for their claims to be processed. A massive backlog has arisen in the last decade or so. The focus is now on clearing this backlog; I am no Labour apologist but I think they are processing more and at a faster rate than had been the case under the previous government. Once their claims have been processed, they move out of the hotels.

I hope this helps to see how things work.

Mildorado · 01/08/2025 10:15

itsafan · 01/08/2025 10:08

These self catering holidays in the 70’s,80’s and 90’s weren’t in residential buildings though were they ? On the whole the ones you could book through Thomas cook were purpose built for holidays ? That’s why they had reception desks and snack bars etc. Tbh it would be easier to have a reception desk and security at least there would be someone here to keep on top of things.

Yes, they were purpose built, with a reception etc and didn't disturb anyone else who was trying to work etc.

itsafan · 01/08/2025 10:08

These self catering holidays in the 70’s,80’s and 90’s weren’t in residential buildings though were they ? On the whole the ones you could book through Thomas cook were purpose built for holidays ? That’s why they had reception desks and snack bars etc. Tbh it would be easier to have a reception desk and security at least there would be someone here to keep on top of things.

OP posts:
Goldenbear · 01/08/2025 10:07

ddfd21 · 01/08/2025 07:51

Why should I sell them? I bought them. They’re mine. Nobody gave them to me.
As for ruining peoples lives, No somebody ruined my property and now this is the consequences of other people‘s actions who tried to ruin my life. Do you think I had 30 grand lying around?

Ridiculous, you are suggesting that you have forced Air BNBs on to a community because of the behaviour of past renters who you had a financial contract with and were profiting from. I'm afraid, being a Landlord is a choice and has financial risks like any business! You are a good example of why we need more regulation in this area as we cannot rely upon the good will of Landlords. I really do hope that in my City they bring in this zoned approach and start putting pressure on the government to look at the problems this is causing for Housing in the UK as a whole. I was pleased to read that in my City by the sea, a seafront Leisure centre is not going to be luxury apartments that would inevitably be sold to foreign investors who would use as Airbnb or charge extortionate rents, thus further ruining the community, it is to remain a leisure centre and be refurbished. A win for residents of the city who pressurised the local council and need facilities because they actually live here!

booksunderthebed · 01/08/2025 09:54

at the same time strongly agree there should be regulation. Where i live there is also a housing crises and we really struggled to find a place to live. But its scary and precarious renting, really can't wait to be able to buy our own place.

There are regulations in place here by the city councli - owners have to apply for planning permission to rent out for short term lets for longer then 3 months per year. Not sure if owners abide by this or if the city has a way of clamping down on owners.

There is a legitimate and valid use of short term self catering properties, the problem is when it is allowed to run amok with no regulation.

Btw - this year we are going on holiday for all of 3 days.

Rosesandteashops · 01/08/2025 09:51

Before AirB&B people would book an apartment through a travel agent or direct with a company like Thompson's or Intasun, or yes, Holiday Villas (who I worked for!). Portugal in particular had mainly apartments and very few hotels back in the 1980s. In Spain and Greece too you booked a studio apartment for two people ( no separate bedroom) or a bigger one and paid a supplement if it wasn't fully occupied - expensive unless there were eg six of you in a two-bed apartment ( two on a sofa bed in the lounge). But at least you had a kitchenette and access to a (shared) pool. There were also aparthotels with a front desk and often a small supermarket too.

Mildorado · 01/08/2025 09:46

Yes, that's how we went on holiday as a family in the 60s and 70s. Hoseasons "chalets", self catering bungalows in a holiday park. We loved it!

booksunderthebed · 01/08/2025 09:45

itsafan · 01/08/2025 03:13

For some of the posters who go to Airbnb because they have more rooms so you can all have a room. You can cater for special diets/needs etc. it’s cheaper it’s more convenient for you. What did you actually do before for a holiday ? Airbnb didn’t exist before and people still went on holiday. Yes hotels are more expensive now but so is everything else. To the poster who said about the 30-40% deposit and the fees thank you for that. I think the poster before was trying to insinuate that I was trying to buy a mansion. This deposit I’m talking about is for an apartment.
I am taking all the comments on board even the ones I don’t 100% agree with.
The situation at the moment is that we didn’t originally move into a 24/7 hotel we moved into a residential building home. It’s now turned into some kind of premier inn without the added bonus of someone making my bed and a nice breakfast 😂. It seems this has mainly happened (looking at the responses) so that other people don’t have to go to hotels.
Obviously Airbnb are just one company booking is another who have thousands of residential homes listed in the area and probably in many many areas.
it is good news about the government cracking down. Although from my area I haven’t noticed any sort of knock on yet as far as housing is concerned hopefully that will come in time. Unfortunately money makes the world go round and the only real way to solve it is in taxing people so much for owning these properties it makes them become undesirable to outside investment.
They are building thousands and thousands of new homes, but they are all very unaffordable a lot of them are not even marketed in Spanish, they are purely aimed at foreign investors.
Probably contrary to popular belief it’s not really the brits they are aiming at. The big money is coming from the Middle East and Scandinavia. A lot of them are Airbnb but there are thousands of them that are empty, visited for a fortnight and then locked up until next august too.
The one thing I’m not sure has been thought through (if any of this has actually been thought through) is that eventually you will go to your Airbnb like all the other hundreds of thousands of people who don’t fancy a hotel. And there will be no one in the local restaurant to serve you because they have left they have nowhere to live. Bear in mind that the average Spanish salary is €2000 so around £1800 and you can bet you aren’t being payed more than that as a waiter in a restaurant. No problem you might think we like to self cater anyway, what if there is no one to serve you in the supermarket? What if there is no supermarket because it’s not worth it being open for 9 months with no customers? What happens then ?
The other thing to mention is that when we came to live here we had neighbors. We don’t have that community anymore getting to know your neighbors having a friendly chat. Even saying hey you were loud last night can you keep the noise down a bit. You can’t develop that relationship which I do miss too.

there have been self catering cottages/apartments forever. I went with my family in the 70s, 80s and 90s to self catering holidays. They were just advertised in different ways.

I don't necessarily find a self catering place on airbnb, other platforms too.

Mildorado · 01/08/2025 09:24

We've done self catering holidays and never used Airbnb. There are loads of reasonable lets with checked properties, regulations and the owners paying tax.

KickHimInTheCrotch · 01/08/2025 09:24

itsafan · 01/08/2025 03:13

For some of the posters who go to Airbnb because they have more rooms so you can all have a room. You can cater for special diets/needs etc. it’s cheaper it’s more convenient for you. What did you actually do before for a holiday ? Airbnb didn’t exist before and people still went on holiday. Yes hotels are more expensive now but so is everything else. To the poster who said about the 30-40% deposit and the fees thank you for that. I think the poster before was trying to insinuate that I was trying to buy a mansion. This deposit I’m talking about is for an apartment.
I am taking all the comments on board even the ones I don’t 100% agree with.
The situation at the moment is that we didn’t originally move into a 24/7 hotel we moved into a residential building home. It’s now turned into some kind of premier inn without the added bonus of someone making my bed and a nice breakfast 😂. It seems this has mainly happened (looking at the responses) so that other people don’t have to go to hotels.
Obviously Airbnb are just one company booking is another who have thousands of residential homes listed in the area and probably in many many areas.
it is good news about the government cracking down. Although from my area I haven’t noticed any sort of knock on yet as far as housing is concerned hopefully that will come in time. Unfortunately money makes the world go round and the only real way to solve it is in taxing people so much for owning these properties it makes them become undesirable to outside investment.
They are building thousands and thousands of new homes, but they are all very unaffordable a lot of them are not even marketed in Spanish, they are purely aimed at foreign investors.
Probably contrary to popular belief it’s not really the brits they are aiming at. The big money is coming from the Middle East and Scandinavia. A lot of them are Airbnb but there are thousands of them that are empty, visited for a fortnight and then locked up until next august too.
The one thing I’m not sure has been thought through (if any of this has actually been thought through) is that eventually you will go to your Airbnb like all the other hundreds of thousands of people who don’t fancy a hotel. And there will be no one in the local restaurant to serve you because they have left they have nowhere to live. Bear in mind that the average Spanish salary is €2000 so around £1800 and you can bet you aren’t being payed more than that as a waiter in a restaurant. No problem you might think we like to self cater anyway, what if there is no one to serve you in the supermarket? What if there is no supermarket because it’s not worth it being open for 9 months with no customers? What happens then ?
The other thing to mention is that when we came to live here we had neighbors. We don’t have that community anymore getting to know your neighbors having a friendly chat. Even saying hey you were loud last night can you keep the noise down a bit. You can’t develop that relationship which I do miss too.

Just to reply to your question about what we did before airbnb. We used other self catering options, which we do still do as well. Including camping, caravan parks, lodges.

itsafan · 01/08/2025 09:22

I think when I wrote why don’t people go to hotels anymore it was a bit in anger tbh 🙈. On reflection I can see that hotels don’t suit everyone. Maybe when we have all left here it won’t be so bad as everyone will be on holiday and that’s more of a normal dynamic.
We have some decisions to make that’s for sure.

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whiteroseredrose · 01/08/2025 09:05

I think if the OP can wait it out, change is coming. Lots of places in Spain seem to be looking at regulation. Massively reducing the number of licences for short term lets.

Very recently I read (not sure where) that places in the USA, I think New York and Santa Monica were mentioned, had all but banned the total property lets. You can rent out the place, but you need to be there too. So obviously you can't be in more than one place at a time.

With fewer Airbnb type short lets they won't disappear entirely but prices will go up.

I find hotels a bit claustrophobic, shut in just one room, can't make a coffee without waking DH etc.

We have used self catering for decades, holiday cottages and gites before increased availability on Airbnb and Booking, and will still do so. But will probably travel less, or buy a campervan.

Untailored · 01/08/2025 08:17

Also, once I tried booking a hotel in a city but no hotels seem to have connecting rooms. So if with kids its either all the family in one room or put your kids in a seperate room (not safe) or one parent in each room. not ideal. Hotels really need to be more family friendly

This perfectly sums up the hotel problem for us as a family.

Silvertulips · 01/08/2025 08:02

But there’s a difference between a holiday let, and some council house in central london and the owner moves out for a night.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 01/08/2025 07:56

As an aside I've still never used AirBnB - if we are booking a cottage we do so via the holiday cottage websites.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 01/08/2025 07:53

Simonjt · 01/08/2025 06:29

@itsafan before airbnb was a thing we used other website marketing holiday properties, cottages4u, holiday villas etc. I’ve been doing it since about 2007.

Agreed - we've stayed in holiday cottages (or gites in France) for breaks for well over 30 years Even before internet booking was available 😲. Quick phone call to the local tourist information centre and you'd get a list of properties to contact by phone, or sometimes by writing a letter to them!
I think the difference that AirBnB has made is to massively increase the numbers of rentals, now that everyone and their dog thinks this is a great way to make a fast buck because it is so easy to do now.
We went to Cornwall last year for the first time in decades. Loved it but don't think we'll return as so many of the attractive villages have been completely hollowed out by the lets. Much of the coastal area feels more like a Cornish theme park...

ddfd21 · 01/08/2025 07:51

Silvertulips · 01/08/2025 07:32

We had two rental properties that we were happily renting out for £750 a month and Tenant trashed them from top to bottom about £30,000 worth of damage in total once we actually got them to leave the property
And that’s why they are Airbnb’s now

Sell them, let families live in them and build communities.

You are destroying people’s lives but at least you get paid.

Why should I sell them? I bought them. They’re mine. Nobody gave them to me.
As for ruining peoples lives, No somebody ruined my property and now this is the consequences of other people‘s actions who tried to ruin my life. Do you think I had 30 grand lying around?

Mildorado · 01/08/2025 07:47

EdisinBurgh · 01/08/2025 07:46

We do camping or caravaning in order to be self catered with a kitchen.

Many amazing campsites across Europe and beyond. Works for families. Everyone gets a bedroom or tent. Works for the local tourism industry too.

I think tourism in Europe needs a big expectation reset.

I agree.

EdisinBurgh · 01/08/2025 07:46

Bubblesgun · 01/08/2025 07:40

I disagree. It s the access to a kitchen for my and many.
if i am going away for a week or more I hate staying in hotels and having to have 3 meals, especially breakfast in a restaurant or worse buffet for more than 2-3 days.

i like my own space and i cant afford penthouse suites in 5 stars!

We do camping or caravaning in order to be self catered with a kitchen.

Many amazing campsites across Europe and beyond. Works for families. Everyone gets a bedroom or tent. Works for the local tourism industry too.

I think tourism in Europe needs a big expectation reset.

itsafan · 01/08/2025 07:42

@ddfd21 I’m really sorry to hear about your properties 😢
Until I wrote this post I never realised so many people didn’t like Airbnb or actively boycotted them. You guys have done way more research on my “enemy” than me !
I have to agree that I wouldn’t see it as a break either with the cooking and cleaning. Do you really have to clean them yourselves? Maybe that’s why they make so much racket when they leave 😂😂
I suppose because I’ve relocated we end up spending any time off work staying with family (sometimes on a blow up bed 🙈 so that’s not a break either) so i haven’t been on an actual holiday for years. We did however book a hotel for a wedding we went to in Ireland a couple of years ago for the night and it was expensive.
I don’t know what the answer is on a general world scale with regards to airbnb but i have woken up a bit more positive in myself which is good !

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Bubblesgun · 01/08/2025 07:40

FernandoFeathers · 31/07/2025 17:11

I choose hotels over air bnbs.

The problem is that for many, it’s a lot cheaper than hotels and people can get their own bedrooms for a much better price. I do think that they can destroy places so more restrictions are needed.

I disagree. It s the access to a kitchen for my and many.
if i am going away for a week or more I hate staying in hotels and having to have 3 meals, especially breakfast in a restaurant or worse buffet for more than 2-3 days.

i like my own space and i cant afford penthouse suites in 5 stars!

rookiemere · 01/08/2025 07:37

To answer OPs previous question, holiday rentals existed prior to Airbnb and when we went for holidays with extended family or even just DS and needed extra space, that’s what we would use in preference to a hotel with no cooking facilities. However we never caused any issues with antisocial behaviour which is the real issue here.

Its not airbnb per se that has caused the issue, its the expansion of the tourist industry. We had an issue ourselves when we moved into a new build flat in the centre of Edinburgh. Although we were permanent owners, all the other flats were rented out seemingly to the absolute scum of the earth as the weekends would see cigarette butts and pizza boxes on the stairs and on our car roof. DH had to modify our buzzer to stop the idiots randomly buzzing every button to get in at all hours. So glad we left. That was 20 years ago, before the advent of Airbnb.

Silvertulips · 01/08/2025 07:32

We had two rental properties that we were happily renting out for £750 a month and Tenant trashed them from top to bottom about £30,000 worth of damage in total once we actually got them to leave the property
And that’s why they are Airbnb’s now

Sell them, let families live in them and build communities.

You are destroying people’s lives but at least you get paid.