Sorry it’s a long one.
- My friend’s daughter (9) and mine are in the same class at school and are very good friends. My friend’s daughter is outgoing, has a large circle of friends and is confident, mine less so, but they are friends inside and outside of school.
- A few when at my house, she has reduced my daughter to tears because she has said something nasty or mean - my daughter gets very emotional easily.
- Yesterday, whilst on their iPads, my friend’s daughter swore as my daughter, calling her the ‘F’ word. She told my husband who took a screenshot, sent it to her mother and phoned telling her it’s not acceptable for her daughter to be swearing, and a few other choice words. My friend phoned me and was very apologetic.
- We have a young child who lives a few doors down and our kids play with his regularly. However, 99% of the time they are playing at our house; even if we send our kids to their house, they’ll return with 2-3 minutes. I cannot remember a single time where they played at his house. He has a lovely house, with more space than we have, yet his parents always send him back to ours. DH doesn’t like this arrangement because it disturbs him when he is WFH, and because it’s an extra child to keep an eye on. He has send the child back every single time he’s come to our house.
Normally this wouldn’t be an issue as I look after the children but I am visiting family throughout the summer and DH is doing the childcare and working.
AIBU to ask him to chill out and accept kids and messy, noisy and sometimes fallout. He was particularly upset by my friends daughter swearing, accusing me of putting my friendship above the wellbeing of our daughter, but kids always fall out and are best friends a week later.