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Teen called out other teen … AIBU to think they were right.

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broadmoon · 31/07/2025 13:25

My 15 year old daughter called her 16 year old cousin greedy in a mean tone.
My dilemma is that her cousin actually is greedy and very mean with her money, yet expects and accepts everyone else to share and buy her stuff but never returns the favour.
claims she can’t afford to despite having plenty of pocket money.
I was embarrassed but my daughter is not lying but it was the argument that I’m embarrassed about. She was very mean spirited in her tone.
fThis week for example her cousin bought herself some sweets and nothing for my daughter yet would have a stroppy fit of the same was done to her.
I also bought lots of meals and drinks for my niece in law and she always chose the most expensive things. Again, won’t buy those for herself nor others who are generous to her.
I feel
proud of my Daughter for finally speaking g the truth and calling her out when yet again she refused to share anything but unhappy with the way she expressed herself( it was an argument that her cousin flatly tried to get out of and shout down)
AIBU to feel like this?

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 31/07/2025 13:31

Fair enough for your dd to call her cousin out on unreasonable behaviour, but I wouldn't personally be proud if she did this in a manner that was mean.

My dd is no doormat and will absolutely say what she needs to say. I'm proud of her for doing this when she is able to express her thoughts honestly but kindly.

TheWonderhorse · 31/07/2025 13:30

I think your daughter was rude, and I think it's insane for you to expect a 16 year old to reciprocate buying meals.

PlipPlapPlop · 31/07/2025 13:26

No