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To think you don’t catch a butterfly and take it round M&S

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FanofLeaves · 31/07/2025 12:32

Was just picking up a few bits in M&S and there was a girl about 8 years old or so swinging one of those butterfly net thingies off her arm. On closer inspection I saw she had one in there (not the ones you send away for, although that would be bad enough, one that had obviously been procured organically)

Her mum was busy looking at something so I said to the girl ‘oh! What a pretty butterfly. That’s a large white. I except you’re going to let it go after you’ve finished your shopping, aren’t you?’

The mum came over beaming presumably ready to hear a comment about what a fun summer holiday activity this all is, and said ‘no, we’ll take it home, keep it for a few days and observe it. It flew straight into the net so we had this ready to pop it straight into!’

‘I said ‘well I’m sure it would have been preferred to be observed in nature, where it was, not caught in a net and taken round the shops. Don’t you think it’s a bit cruel?’

Anyway she was visibly annoyed, and said ‘it’s fine. My children are learning about nature! We know what it eats!’

Anyway she steered her child away from me and said some people are just very joyless and bitter.

Yeah I know I probably sound like a busy body but I can’t bear it when parents tell their kids it’s ok to just take stuff out of nature for their own amusement. Why is it ok to do this? It’s so Victorian, to capture a creature to just look at it, no thought for the poor thing at all. Don’t get me started on why they still sell butterfly nets 😭

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nomas · 31/07/2025 12:43

gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:40

I would find your view point hypocritical unless you were. I am and would be upset by this, not enough to say something though.

That’s ridiculous. Being a carnivore doesn’t give me license to go around capturing or stomping or killing wildlife and insects.

MissyB1 · 31/07/2025 12:43

I would have done the same as you. That butterfly doesn't exist as entertainment for a child. I have a net to rescue them when they get trapped in my conservatory, they are immediately released outside.

stayathomer · 31/07/2025 12:43

Glad you said it and they at least had to register it op!

gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:41

Twoshoesnewshoes · 31/07/2025 12:37

I guess it’s slightly better than breeding it in captivity and unnatural conditions from birth, depriving it of freedom and comfort, then electrocuting it and eating it 🤷‍♀️

Yes, well put

FanofLeaves · 31/07/2025 12:41

gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:40

I would find your view point hypocritical unless you were. I am and would be upset by this, not enough to say something though.

Not being vegan doesn’t mean you are immediately excluded from caring about all life species, there would be a tiny minority of people to stand up for nature if that was the case so it would be bloody counter productive. A bit stupid really.

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BlankBlankBlank14 · 31/07/2025 12:41

YANBU

gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:40

FanofLeaves · 31/07/2025 12:36

What’s that got to do with the price of fish?

I would find your view point hypocritical unless you were. I am and would be upset by this, not enough to say something though.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 31/07/2025 12:40

gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:33

Are you vegan?

Eh

nomas · 31/07/2025 12:39

YANBU. Butterflies still make me stop and stare, it’s awful that people are capturing them.

FinallyMummy · 31/07/2025 12:39

I agree with you. We’re working on enforcing a ‘bugs/birds/butterflys etc live outside but isn’t it nice to look at them’ rule here (with a 3 yo who wants to pick up everything and bring it home).
Not sure I’d have said anything though.

hexagongoldbox · 31/07/2025 12:38

That’s horrible 😢

FanofLeaves · 31/07/2025 12:37

PerfectTuesday · 31/07/2025 12:36

Don't they only live for a day or so? They might be disappointed if they are hoping to observe it.

Regardless of whether you are vegan or not, butterflies are a declining species so shouldn't be captured for that reason alone.

Longer than you might think, more like 2-6 weeks. And they have to lay eggs obviously, so if you’ve taken away their chance to do that, it’s all pointless.

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Lemniscate8 · 31/07/2025 12:37

well there are many reasonable uses for butterfly nets, and even if they were not on sale, we used to make our own with coathangers and old net curtains! It does sound a bit unnessesery, but I doubt the butterfly cares much, as long as it is freed eventually

Twoshoesnewshoes · 31/07/2025 12:37

I guess it’s slightly better than breeding it in captivity and unnatural conditions from birth, depriving it of freedom and comfort, then electrocuting it and eating it 🤷‍♀️

ThriveIn2025 · 31/07/2025 12:37

YANBU, they still do this at my kids school though, so you can kind of understand why some parents think it’s ok (the “studying them in a net” part not the “taking them around M&S” part).

PerfectTuesday · 31/07/2025 12:36

Don't they only live for a day or so? They might be disappointed if they are hoping to observe it.

Regardless of whether you are vegan or not, butterflies are a declining species so shouldn't be captured for that reason alone.

FanofLeaves · 31/07/2025 12:36

gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:33

Are you vegan?

What’s that got to do with the price of fish?

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gotellsomeone · 31/07/2025 12:33

Are you vegan?

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