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To think men shouldn’t be allowed to express pro-life opinions?

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purpledaze24 · 31/07/2025 11:35

Was just watching (by accident, went down a bit of a rabbit hole!) a YouTube video of this infuriating American far-right man talking about how abortion shouldn’t be allowed (even in the case of rape). Watching it made me angrier and angrier. It’s bad enough hearing anyone bang on about banning abortion, but of course, everyone is entitled to an opinion. However, when it’s a man who has no clue what a woman’s body goes through, and has no regard for the giant responsibility and completely life-changing effect a baby has on a mother’s life (cos let’s be realistic, many fathers find it pretty easy to walk away or continue living life completely responsibly-free), I feel like, how dare he express these opinions, he shouldn’t have a say, it’s just not his place. AIBU or should men be allowed to express anti-abortion opinions? I’m not talking about men whose partner gets pregnant, I’m talking about politicians and men with power talking about banning abortion in general. Watching them talk about it gives me the ick

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Goldeh · 31/07/2025 11:51

AuntyDepressant · 31/07/2025 11:48

Not your sperm, not just your decision.

Except it is entirely the woman's decision, as it should be. A man's biological contribution to pregnancy starts and ends at ejaculation with no risk to his long-term health or life whereas a woman's lasts nine months and can cause lasting harm to her well-being as well as potential death.

That's before even getting into the social, financial, and cultural impacts of pregnancy/child-rearing upon a woman which are not experienced to the same degree by men.

Jellycatspyjamas · 31/07/2025 11:51

AuntyDepressant · 31/07/2025 11:48

Not your sperm, not just your decision.

Not your pregnancy, not your choice. Men have the right to an opinion, of course, but decision making rests wholly with the woman who will potentially carry the child with all the physical, emotional and societal implications.

ObtuseMoose · 31/07/2025 11:51

Where do you draw the line on who and what opinions they should be allowed though? Sounds like a slippery slope to me.

MageQueen · 31/07/2025 11:48

I have no problem with men having opinions.

I do resent the fact that due to their overwhelming majority in positions of power, they get to actually make the laws and make the decisions that directly impact me when they know little or nothing about the reality of actually being a woman.

There are some great tik tok videos of men spouting off and interviewers asking them questions about the reality while they stand there being confused and stupid. Love those videos.

AuntyDepressant · 31/07/2025 11:48

Goldeh · 31/07/2025 11:46

No one should get a say about abortion other than the woman considering one. Not your uterus, not your business.

Not your sperm, not just your decision.

LoveSandbanks · 31/07/2025 11:47

Women die in pregnancy and birth related complications every day. They should have a choice whether to take this risk.

To say that they should take this risk even in the case of rape tells me he doesn’t give a shit about women. But these far right activists don’t give a shit about the unborn either. It’s just a big piece of virtue signalling to move the focus away from their own wrongdoings.

It tells us in the bible to feed the poor and live thy neighbour. When they can do that they can offer their opinions on abortion (but not expect me to take them particularly seriously)

It’s the same as gay marriage. If you don’t agree with it, don’t have one!

Goldeh · 31/07/2025 11:46

No one should get a say about abortion other than the woman considering one. Not your uterus, not your business.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 31/07/2025 11:45

Of course men should be allowed to practice freedom of speech OP.

randomchap · 31/07/2025 11:43

Men should be able to express any pro life views they want.

It's good to be able to identify the dickheads who think they should be able to control women's bodies.

It's better to know they hold abhorrent views so you can avoid them

Of course, their opinions should be discarded as worthless

Iheartmysmart · 31/07/2025 11:39

You’re not wrong in my view. No uterus, no opinion. And surely it’s about time women took a turn at deciding men’s rights.